Every life experience that you have, no matter how tragic, no matter how life altering, no matter how devastating it might be…

Each and every one of those life experiences contains a hidden lesson.

When we finally discover, after all the grieving and pain, and acknowledge the amazing hidden gift that’s hiding in there, a powerful healing will start to take place.

Think about how devastating a relationship is when it ends.

You were still in love with this person. You tried everything imaginable to make it work. You went to counseling.

You read books.

You had long discussions. And then finally, in the end, no matter what you did, that relationship, well, basically fell apart.

When the relationship fell apart, you went through a series of pains. You went through a series of emotional pain.

But once outside the situation, things started getting a lot clearer. You started seeing how emotionally you were getting, how physically drained you were by being in this relationship. After losing the relationship, you started to discover that you were actually not happy in the relationship. You started becoming excited about life again. You started becoming excited about yourself, you started seeing the hidden lessons that were there. That this relationship, no matter how much you loved the person, was actually stifling you, and you were no longer growing.

Some major life events are huge opportunities to grow, experience, and expand.

In the case of somebody who is devastated by a relationship, think about what happens in that life cycle.

Once you learn and embrace the lesson, the pain starts to go away. Once you’ve learned and embraced the lesson, you don’t repeat the lesson. And guess what happens? You start becoming happy in your life.

When you start becoming happy and fulfilled in your life, all of the sudden you started tracking different people in your life. And the next thing you know, because of the pain and suffering that you went through when the relationship ended…

You find yourself in a new, rewarding relationship. One that’s powerful, one that’s different than ever before.

One that brings out a whole different you.

Recently, I was watching an episode of the TV show The Affair.

It was an interesting show the first couple of seasons. But this season has been extremely dull and kind of boring.

There was a good scene though, the other night in a bar.

When two of the lead female characters got to talk about their relationship with the same man.

The ex-wife of Noah Saloway.

He asked his current ex-wife what type of man was he in the relationship with you.

And they both had two different versions of the same man. The ex-wife had a more dull man, a man that needed to be pushed and shoved.

A man that needed to be motivated.

When Alison, the character, talked about the relationship she had with him, she said she was with a driven man, a motivated man, a changed man.

An inspiring man, a passionate man.

We’re very different. Why? Because each relationship is different than the last because we’ve grown and we’ve evolved. And once we let go, we’re able to be and present the whole new person that we are.

That’s the beauty of what life is all about. Life is such a beautiful journey, only allow ourselves to see the hidden lessons. We could be two entirely different people to two different people, and that’s what life really is truly all about.