wild crazy sex david wygantI get this from a lot of you guys.

It’s a question that I feel is really irrelevant and I’m going to explain why in a second.

Here’s the question:

Hey David, first off I want to say you rock. I want to thank you so much. You’ve helped me in change in every aspect of my life. No one compares to you.

The question is about my first relationship (my current one), which is pretty serious. We’ve been dating six months and we’re really close, we’re in love. I know you said it take a year to be in love but everything is there.

My question is: I can’t get past her past. I can’t get over the fact that she’s given herself fully to multiple other guys, even a year ago, was giving herself to another guy.

It’s screwing with my head now that we’re so close. I can’t get the thought out of my head of her giving herself to another guy like that and not being something that we treasure together that no one else has experienced.

David, please knock some sense into me. I respect all your advice, even if it’s a quick one-sentence reply. I listen to everything,

Thanks so much, Matt.

. . .

Wow.

Matt: are you shitting me?

Who cares if she was giving herself to someone else? What are you looking for—a virgin? A woman that’s never kissed anybody before? A woman that’s so pure that she waited her whole life because she knew her destiny would be to meet you?

That’s ridiculous.

I don’t care where a woman’s been before I’ve met her. I don’t care if she slept with 100 guys. I don’t care if she blew 100 guys. I don’t care about anything. All I care about is that she’s taken that experience and she has learned from it, embraced it, and became a great person.

And now she’s taken all those great experiences and is sharing it with me.

Life is about understanding that we each have our own path. And that path is the reason why we are who we are.

So respect the road she took to meet you.

It led to you, didn’t it?

That’s the reason why she’s an amazing person.

That’s the reason why she’s a great lover.

The reason why she’s rocking your world now is because of all the other great experiences that allowed her to learn about herself.

We have all these ideas about how someone should come packaged; about who they should be and what their personal history should look like—but that’s crazy.

And guys do this all the time—women too.

But it’s time we got past all that.

Accept your lover’s past and embrace it, honor it and realize that everything she did brought her to you now.

And that’s a beautiful thing.