Have to Say Something By David Wygant

Hey London is an adventure that will not stop.

Today I worked with some amazing guys and we had a blast in the Portrait Gallery here…..yes i do actually enjoy museums.
Todays podcast is all about how to practice your own openers and really intrigue her from the get go.

This podcast is a live training from the museum today.

But before you download the podcast you have to read through todays blog. The blog will help you understand the podcast even better.

Most guys suffer from something called, “I have to say something” syndrome. It’s a disease that runs rampant throughout the United States of America and all over Europe.

Guys just stand there and try to talk to a woman, and what they do is walk over to her and then they don’t listen. They don’t even let her talk. They’re standing there, they say hello, they say something, and the woman reacts, the woman then says something and the guy immediately interrupts her because he feels like he has to say something. But he’s not even really listening.

The key to having a good conversation with a woman is to listen. You go over to her and you talk to her. For instance, you’re standing in a store. Recently I was in a store called Fred Segal in Los Angeles.

You’re standing in the store. You see the store. You feel the store – you be the store (ha!) So you’re standing in that store, and there is this tree in there, this funny tree. Of course a great approach is, “man, that’s a weird tree – what do you do with that tree?”

Immediately, the woman will say something. But the problem is what most guys will do is instead of listening, they just keep thinking about what they need to say next – I’ve got to say something else!

This is not even a conversation – you’re having a conversation and you do it with your male friends, but the minute you go up to a girl, you become this guy who can no longer communicate. It’s just ridiculous.

Most guys just stand there. You’re listening to every word, we’re talking and having a conversation, you have conversations with your friends, you have conversations with other people, right? But then the minute you see a woman that you’re attracted to, you just talk at her, because you think you have to say something.

The key to a good conversation is to be able to listen. The more you listen, the more you have to talk. It’s like a tennis match. You hit a ball, they hit a ball. You don’t hit three balls and then they hit one, right?

So when you’re in that conversational mode, you have to say to yourself – what is she saying, and what can I comment on, and how can I take this deeper?

And make sure you walk in and do this stuff as if you own the place. If you walk in very shy, they can sense your energy. You are there with a purpose. You’re a man with a purpose, so do what pleases you. If you want to look at clothes, look at clothes, if you want to talk to the girl, talk to her, but whatever you do don’t hesitate.