I live in this building where pretty much everybody is friendly.

Now, we don’t really spend much time talking about intimate details, but if you say hello to somebody and ask them how their day is, they’ll usually say hello back and ask how yours is back.

Except for my neighbor.

My neighbor is a complete bitch.

This woman — I don’t know what’s up her ass, but I have to tell you, I have tried to talk to her many a times, maybe around five six times, and she still acted like a complete bitch.

Not even an acknowledgement…

One time I was with my daughter, and she literally closed the elevator on us as we were approaching. She’s that type of a bitch.

Another time, I passed her in the hallway and said “how’s your day,” and she said nothing and walked right by.

Today was just the final bitch straw.

She was waiting, she was by the door, I saw her coming out of her apartment, I looked at her, and said “hey, how are you?” She didn’t say a word and walked by. Opened the door of the stairwell, started walking in there, and I followed her.

Not because I was following her, because that’s the way I was going.

She was funneling her hand through her purse, and I figured I’d give it another shot because I just can’t believe that somebody is just that rude. And I said did you forget something, with a smile. She mumbled something.

I actually got a mumble from this woman! That’s the first contact I’ve ever gotten after living in my building for six months. I got a mumble.

And that was it.

I walked out to my car, which is parked on the street.

I got into it and I saw her come out of the building, and she bent down to pet a dog, and I’m thinking to myself, well at least dogs get attention from her. Obviously she likes dogs and can’t stand humans.

So what do you do if there’s somebody who’s just a complete bitch?

Or an asshole?

It’s real simple. You just keep being nice. Because I totally believe that you can kill people with kindness.

Now, are we ever going to be best friends or date? Um, most likely not.

But eventually, being kind to somebody actually breaks them down.

And if not effective by her complete or his complete bitch or asshole-ness.

I learned that a long, long time ago, that you just, well, you just treat people kindly. I don’t expect anything back from her ever. I will continue to say hello to her over and over again.

If I get a grunt, I get a sigh, I get a huff, I get a puff, I don’t really care.

Because to me…

It’s about being the bigger person.

You might be wondering if there’s anything I’ve ever done to her, like slam the door shut in her face, make too much noise between the units, scream and yell at my kids, scream and yell and paint mean things on her door… but there was nothing I’ve ever done to this person at all. I could understand if someone goes completely bitchy if you’ve done something wrong to them.

But this woman, not a thing. Nada. I did nothing to her. I’m not the only one getting the special treatment from her, I’m sure other people are getting the special treatment from her. I just am the probably the only one who is writing about it to deliver a message because to me, everything I do seems to be about delivering a message.

So what’s the message here?

Kindness, my friends. Don’t look for validation or confirmation from anybody, just be kind to everybody. And if you’re kind to everybody, the right people are going to be kind back to you.

Think about that. Don’t expect anything back from them, and continue to be kind to everyone, and watch how you get amazing great things in your life.