There’s nothing better than that first orgasm you have after a divorce.

And we’re not talking about the orgasm you initiate yourself.

For most people, during the course of a divorce or during a marriage that’s not functional, their hand (or vibrator) becomes their best friend.

Where do you think the acronym B.O.B. came from?

You know: battery operated boyfriend.  It came from women that were frustrated during the process of being separated and getting divorced.

And I understand the frustration that occurs—sexually and otherwise—during a divorce.

And it’s too bad really.

But there’s nothing better than after-divorce sex.

It’s almost like going to a car dealer for the very, very first time and smelling that new car smell.  There’s nothing better than the new-person smell, especially after the last one was so stinky and old and had too many miles on it.

I’ve been there.

I’ve been married 2.5 times, so I know all about after-divorce sex.  The anticipation, the build up—oh my god, it’s so good!

I’ve got to tell you, the first time you look at another person’s eyes, you look deep into them and you think to yourself, “all I want is sex.”

That’s it.

I don’t want to talk about the kids.  I don’t want to talk about money.  I don’t’ want to talk about anything.  I just want you to do me, all night long.  It’s the best foreplay you will ever have.

The first time you sleep with a new person after ending a relationship—whether it’s divorce or just breaking-up a relationship—consider that the person is literally re-taking your virginity all over again.

Some of you have cobwebs down there; it’s been so long.  Some of you are really really rusty.

But here’s the deal—and remember this because it’s really important: the first person you sleep with after you separate is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Think about it. You are full of emotion, full of desire and infatuation.  It’s lust.

And a lot of people go into the mistake of getting involved in a relationship with somebody right away, because the sex is so good, because that’s what was probably lacking in your relationship.  Usually when people are going through relationship issues, the sex stops.

So, of course, it’s the first thing you want to replace, because you’ve been deprived for so long.  But, it’s also the biggest trap.

That trap is great sex.

The first person you sleep with after a relationship ends is the last person you want to have a relationship with.  

Remember that the next time you have that lust.  You need to spend time alone after a relationship ends. You need to go back and get some good sex, have some fun, figure out what life is all about.

And don’t fall into the trap of getting with that person that wants to do you in any way, shape or form—they’re really just feeding off of your sexually energy.  Because when we get out of a marriage or relationship, we’ve got incredible sexual energy.

It’s almost like a little kid being let loose on the playground.  It’s almost like the first day of school.  It’s almost like going to the best buffet in Vegas, all you can eat.

But the problem is, you don’t want to hit a buffet every single night.  You certainly don’t want to be in school forever, and you certainty can’t be in Vegas for longer than 48 hours.

So, think about that the next time you’ve got some good after-divorce sex.  Or if you are going through a break-up right now, don’t get trapped by that great buffet.