How To Respond To Someone Online – Part II
By David Wygant

In Part II of this blog, I go through some actual conversations I had with women after sending the exact kind of email I described in https://blog.davidwygant.com/how-to-grab-her-attention-online-%e2%80%93-part-i/, and show you how being fun, playful and clever changes the way you will connect with women online forever.

So here’s the continuation of where we left off yesterday.

One woman in her profile had written about having a tree fort and about being a tomboy. Along with the basic email I described to you, I wrote her this email:

Subject Line: “I See that you . . . “

Email Body: “. . . stopped by my tree fort and didn’t even say hi. Since you are an expert tree climber, I expected you to bolt right up. Next time, I’ll make it easier for you. I’ll wait for you by the front door and help you off with your heels, so we can scurry up that tree and hang out in my fort. David”

What I did in that email was use what she wrote about in her profile and incorporate it into my message to her. That’s all I did . . . I used information from her profile to contact her, but did so using my own edgy and comical style.

See, you’ve got to flirt with them the entire time to get the ball rolling. Here was that woman’s response to the email message above: “Hey sorry about that. I enjoyed your profile. That’s a big plus too if you have a tree fort.”

So what did I write back to her the next time? I wrote: “With the price of real estate in LA . . . the tree fort was the best deal in the market. 🙂 I had a top designer do the interior, but I still had the ‘No Girls Allowed!’ sign put on the door. 🙂 Do you want to be the first girl to see my newly designed tree fort? David.”

What I did with that was to continue the witty, flirtatious banter we had going on. What I also did was give her an action by asking if she wanted to be the first girl to see my newly designed tree fort. This is getting the phone number out of her. 99% of the time they’ll say “Absolutely. My number is 310-XXX-XXXX.”

So you have this witty banter back and forth. This is how you close a woman who has viewed your profile. You were responsive, but you also called her out on her shit by posing the ‘you looked at me but didn’t say hi?’ question. That is calling her out . . . it is challenging her.

Women want a challenge. Most men don’t challenge them because they always play it safe when they’re communicating with someone online. I don’t play it safe. I like to be bold when I’m online. I like to be daring when I’m online. I don’t worry about the outcome. I just get out there and I get clever.

Here is another example of what you need to do in these situations. There was a beautiful woman who had looked at my profile. She was as sexy as can be. She was a former model and writer. Instead of doing nothing after viewing my profile like the first woman, this woman winked at me.

So, here is another way to respond to women online when they have winked at you. Just like the woman who doesn’t contact you after viewing your profile, when a woman winks at you, you need to call her out.

Every time a woman winks at me, I say this: “Hey there. I know you can do much better than a wink. :)” Then I added this: “You’re a writer. Where’s my clever email? 🙂 Looking forward to a proper introduction. David”

If the woman who winked at you is not a writer, use the same kind of thing but just change it a bit. I’ll say something like this: “Hey there. I know you can do much better than a wink. 🙂 I mean, I read your profile. There must be SOMETHING you want to know about me. I dare you to ask me anything. This is your only chance. Ask me anything. I look forward to your challenging question. David”

By writing this, you are bringing her out because a wink is really means “I’m too shy to write you. Please don’t reject me.” So if you like her, you fire an email right back to her after she winks at you.

So with the former model, she wrote back to me (and this is hysterical) and said “Well of course I really WANTED to write you, but with the writer’s strike I didn’t want to get into trouble.” I responded “I don’t want to get you kicked out of the union for something silly you wrote on Match. So send me that number . . . and it’s a good thing that voice talent isn’t on strike. 🙂 David”

This is how you keep things fun and clever. She joked about not wanting to get in trouble for writing an email during the writer’s strike. Then I acknowledged the writer’s strike by telling her we could talk on the phone because voice talent wasn’t on strike.

Once again, I called her out by bringing in an action. It’s all about clever banter and action.

Let’s go through one more example. I received an email from a woman online which read “Hi cutie. You’re my neighbor. How’s the week treating you so far?” In response to an email like this, it is once again essential that you come back with something that is fun, clever and different.

When it comes down to it, you have to always be different. So this is what I wrote to her in response to her email: “Since we are neighbors, can I borrow a cup of sugar? Oops, this is LA . . . No one has sugar in their homes. So tell me. Last night when it was really cold and rainy, wouldn’t it have been great if it snowed? Have you ever run barefoot in the snow? David”

Why did I write this to her? Well, I mentioned the fact that she and I were neighbors to play off of her email to me. I used the sugar joke playing off everyone in LA’s obsession with avoiding fattening foods.

The question to her about running through the snow was playing off a mention in her profile that she loved to run through the snow as a kid. By writing this, it created an emotion in her. You always want to create an emotion in women. You also want to keep up the banter.

So she wrote this email back to me: “Hey you. I can’t say I’ve walked barefoot in the snow. Have you? I know it’s been raining like crazy down there. I’m actually up north this week in Oakland for a conference. I’m happy it’s almost Friday. Any big weekend plans?”

She’s in Oakland for a conference, which means she is in her hotel room late at night all by herself thinking about hooking up with and meeting guys. This is what she’s doing. She’s sitting with her laptop in a hotel room in Oakland basically searching for guys on Match.

When she asks me if I have “any big weekend plans,” she’s hinting. This is the kind of woman with whom you can instantly get a date and have fun going out with that weekend. She’s been bored at a conference all week, and she wants a little bit of fun and a little bit of action.

The way I responded to her was by describing sensations. I wrote “Running in the snow barefoot is amazing because it’s a ‘mind over matter’ thing. Oakland is fun. Big weekend plans? Unfortunately I have to work, otherwise I would take you out and we’d run through the snow together.”

So that’s what you do when you are responding to a woman online. When you engage in this kind of banter with them, they really can’t wait to see you and can’t wait to get to know you. They will also give you their phone number.

You need to remember that as a men trying to date Online, you are competing with so many other men. So if you don’t start understanding how to get this type of banter and action going, you’re never going to really be able to succeed online.

Todays video is all about having fun and attracting women and men in places that you enjoy going to.

Why bother chasing them into to the bars when you don’t enjoy going.

Make a list of the places you enjoy…and the video will tell you what to do in them This video is a 5 part series.