Dear David WygantToday’s “Dear David” kind of pissed me off when I first read it, but there’s an important message in it so let’s get cracking with it shall we?

It comes from Greg in NYC who says, “Dear David, I met this great girl a few weeks ago. I’d definitely like to date her, but recently I found out she’s had a ton of boyfriends in the past. I’m 22 years old, she’s 21 years old, and she’s already had about 12 lovers!

I like her, but don’t really like the idea of dating a girl with such a colorful sexual history with men. Should I ditch her?”

David says…

Dude, first of all let’s say this girl started having sex with guys when she was just 18 years old, if she’s 21 now that still means she’s only had 3-4 lovers a year. Some people have 3-4 lovers a month!

OK…

Here’s an open letter to all you judgmental men. You know who you are. You’re the guy who only wants to date the girl with only 2 past sexual partners. You’re the guy who feels like if a woman has already had sex when she meets you, she’s somehow tainted. Some of you even think she’s a slut!

But, you also think it’s fine for you to get laid as much as you want. It’s fine for you to have a ton of sexual partners and experience. You want a girl that’s open, honest, and pure. You don’t give a second thought to the fact you’ve had 100 lovers in your life, as long as she has only had 1 or 2. You can’t stand women who have “been around the block.”

Are you kidding me?  Are you that shallow, judgmental, and insecure?

I could care less if my next lover slept with 5 guys the month before we met. That’s right. I don’t care. It has nothing to do with me. Maybe she’s going through a sexually active phase in her life. Maybe she’s learning all about her body. Maybe she just needs to get laid! I don’t care how many guys she slept with before. All I care about is where she’s at the day I meet her. All I care about is that she’s open, honest, authentic, and real.

I can’t stand hearing guys moaning about a woman’s sexual history. I hate the double standards. It’s crazy, and it’s immature. Whenever a guy emails me this crap, I read it, and think to myself, “Seriously? Are you that shallow and judgmental?”

It’s amazing how men can be like that. Never judge a woman’s sexual past. Never judge her past in any way, shape, or form in fact. It happened before you came along. What does it matter?

All I see is the person standing in front of me today. I want the opportunity to get to know who she is today. Sure, I want to know how her past got her to where she is today. Our experiences shape who we become so of course I’m interested in that. Those experiences help me connect with her on a deeper level. Think about that the next time you judge a potential partner based on their history. The next time you start to judge a woman, ask yourself this question, “Who am I to be that judgmental? How would I feel if she judged me that way?”

I guarantee you wouldn’t like it!