Happy Memorial Day to all my amazing lady readers!

It’s officially the first weekend of summer, and we’re heading into the season of luuurve!

Something in the air changes in summer time doesn’t it? Everyone seems to be in a better mood, everyone is more hopeful, and all you see is couples wondering around hand in hand, looking for the nearest ice cream store. My mission this summer is to make sure you find love, and in fact, if you subscribe to my newsletter, then keep an eye out for something very special coming your way this week.

I’m going to be announcing a very special event, but it’s for subscribers only, so if you’re not signed up yet, you know what to do!

Now, although today is a holiday, I want us to take the first steps towards your “summer of love” anyway. Being that today is all about celebrating the men and women who fought for our freedom, I want to keep to the theme of freedom. I’m talking about emotional freedom. Today, I want you to free yourself from all the pain, hurt, resentment, and anger holding you back in your relationships.

I get thousands of emails a week from women, and it’s fair to say that at least 85% are from women with some sort of bad relationship history. Either they were in an abusive relationship, they were with a man who cheated, or they’re just angry because all the men they’ve dated have let them down in some way. I always hear how they, “don’t trust men anymore” or “don’t have any confidence anymore” because of what men did to them in the past.

The trouble with carrying around that kind of emotional “baggage” is it weighs you down. It’s a monkey you carry around on your back, and it starts to slowly dictate how you feel and the decisions you make. The baggage becomes part of you, rather than just something that happened to you in the past. Some of you almost talk about it as if your bad emotional experiences are some kind of badge of honor.

The truth is, your past relationships good and bad, are nothing more than a set of experiences in your history. The men who hurt you or let you down, are just memories. The past doesn’t equal the future, and it’s time for you to let go of it. History is just that. You can’t change things in your past, and you can’t undo what’s done. Don’t let yesterday ruin today. You met a guy who cheated on you repeatedly, doesn’t mean the next guy is going to do the same.

Think about it this way. If you bite into an apple and a worm pops out, are you going to stop eating apples the rest of your life?

Of course not. You’re going to throw away that one bad apple and buy another one. Don’t let one man (or a few) ruin it for the rest of us. And don’t carry around the burden of anger, upset, and frustration. The only person it’s damaging is you. So here’s what I want you to do today….

I want you to write a list of all the men in your life who hurt you. I want you to write a list of the relationships that didn’t work out for whatever reason. I want you to write down how you feel about every single one of them today. Then do you know what I want you to do?

I want you to take the piece of paper, and I want you to burn it! If you don’t have a yard or balcony just tear the paper to pieces or put it in a shredder. Then, I want you to vow to NEVER let any of the stuff you wrote on that paper affect you again. It’s time to make peace with your past. It’s time to free yourself, and start living with a clean slate. Let’s really celebrate freedom today. The sun is on its way, and I can’t help you find love if you’re carrying around a ton of “history” on your shoulders.