Get Your Foot Off the Gas Pedal of Life
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I was talking to one of my customers, Pablo, today.
(Pablo, shout out to you man, this blog is for you.)
Pablo is a cool, confident guy—24 years old—and wants everything now. I call it the Raging 20s Disease (RTD).
You’re not content where you’re at. You’re always constantly evaluating yourself in every way, shape or form. You want to be more successful, you want more money, you want to live in a better house, you want a girlfriend—whatever it might be.
Now there’s having goals and then there’s creating that story of expectation. That’s what most people in their 20s are doing.
Most people in their 20s are creating a story of expectations, meaning they were supposed to “be somewhere” but they’re not there yet.
“I was supposed to be more successful at this point in my life.”
“I was supposed to be engaged.”
“I was supposed to have more money.”
Everything is “I was supposed to be…”—everything. They’re always disappointed about where they are. And that’s where the popular phrase “youth is wasted on the youth” comes in.
See I was inflicted with RTD in my 20s. I hated not having money. I hated that my career didn’t seem to be going anywhere. I hated being a bartender while I wanted to be an actor. I was always impatient in every way, shape or form.
Even when I did find some success acting and I got a great manager, I was “supposed to be” further ahead; she was supposed to send me out on more auditions.
I didn’t need to go to school, I didn’t need to learn anything, I was supposed to already be a star, a celebrity.
Yes, I was inflicted with RTD. I had it bad.
The thing is, while I thought that I needed to be somewhere else, I was actually missing so much of what was really going on. I was missing a lot of my 20s. I was missing the moments that made me more powerful. I wasn’t present to the moments.
If you’re in your teens right now, I want you to read this carefully. If you’re in your 20s, this is going to resonate with you. And if you’re 30s or 40s or above, you’re going to say to yourself, “Man, he’s right.”
Here’s the deal: your life is a personal story and you are at the exact point in your life that you need to be.
You can’t compare your story with anybody else’s story. Your story is going to be totally different. And that’s what makes us all very unique individuals.
We can use other people for inspiration, but we can’t compare ourselves to other people. You don’t know how they got there.
A lot of people look at somebody that they admire and they want to be like them, and they’ll get frustrated that they’re not like that. Well you don’t know their whole story, you don’t know what they went through, the work that they did, the effort, the time that they put in, the mind set that they needed to develop.
Just stop.
Life is your own personal story.
Tell your story well.
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