A member of my Community Site asked me a great question. He asked me, “David, how do I get rid of the monkey chatter inside my head? How do I get rid of the voices in my head full of fear and doubt – the ones which tell me I can’t approach or talk to women?”

This is such a common issue and such a big problem for so many guys, that I wanted to address it here in the blog. Monkey chatter is something you can conquer.

First, you have to really get deep with yourself. You have to make a list of everything those voices in your head say to you.

Write them all down. In fact, grab a piece of paper or get on your computer right now, even before you finish reading this blog and get them all down.

As you’re writing, answer these questions. What do the voices say? How do those voices make you feel? Write all of that down.

Second, I want you to go in front of a mirror and say out loud what those voices do to you. I want you to say it over and over again until you smile, laugh, crack up and just unwind.

I want you to read it out loud in front of a mirror every day, because this will eventually get you to see that those voices are just the fears and excuses behind which you are hiding. You’ll see the monkey chatter for what it is: crazy talk.

Now don’t get me wrong. We’ve all had monkey chatter in our heads at one time or another, and we’ve all hid behind those fears and excuses.

Seeing yourself do it in the mirror, however, will get you to remain in the moment when you’re in those situations where the monkey chatter might get to you. Imagine you are standing there thinking about approaching and talking to a beautiful woman you see. Instead of hearing the monkey chatter in your head, you will see yourself speaking those words you said to yourself in the mirror.

You will start smiling and laughing and the whole interaction with that woman will change. The whole energy of that interaction will be different. You’ll start feeling better about yourself, better about the moment and you’ll stop taking yourself so seriously.

That’s one thing that I found worked for me. Why don’t you give it a try and see how it works for you.