How many of you behave perfectly when you first meet somebody?

The representative is in full force. You don’t want to tell them about the uncle of yours that’s crazy.

You don’t want to tell them that you once drank too much and had to go into a program. You have to hide all this stuff that you’re about.

Well, I have to tell you something. When you put out perfect you to somebody, they’re expecting that perfect person. The way you present yourself in the first few weeks of any relationship is the person that that person is expecting to see throughout the entire relationship.

Human beings are strange, funny people, and what we see is what we think. So, I never understood why people need to put that representative out there.

Which leads to the first, number one.

1. Forget perfect. You’re about as imperfect as imperfect is.

There’s no perfect day, there’s no perfect moment, there’s no perfect anything. Everything has its shit.

So, stop thinking that things need to be so perfect.

This isn’t a Disney romance, this isn’t some stupid fairytale. This isn’t a Nicholas Sparks movie.

Or a novel where the lead character always seems to screw up and show that they’re not perfect.

Stop trying to be perfect. Dating is the most imperfect thing we can do, and so are relationships.

Which leads to number two…

2. Do you want a relationship, or do you just want a phony date?

For those of you that prefer to phony date, then go for it. Then, just be perfect. Make sure you just show the best side of you.

Make sure everything is always exactly how it’s supposed to be, and don’t show them your true self, because you’re just going to phony date.

You’re going to agree to things that they do even though you don’t want it. You’re just going to be as phoney as possible because you want to be perfect because somewhere, somehow, some idiot online who wrote dating advice told you there are things you shouldn’t be talking about, and you need to show them this miraculous perfect version of yourself that doesn’t exist all.

Which leads us to number three…

3. Be proud of who you are.

Be proud of the imperfect person that you are. I was once with somebody whose nickname was perfect, and she never ever took responsibility for anything at all. Everything about her life was perfect.

The way she parented.

The way she conducted her relationships.

Her arguments with her friends.

Any argument that we had, she would twist, and she would turn because she would never be wrong.

When I was growing up, Ms. Bogart, one of my favorite teachers when I was in 5th grade, created a character that I’ve talked about many times in the blog.

The character was called I Am Never Wrong.

And that character was really a way of her teaching us 11 year olds how to admit when we’re wrong.

We’re wrong every single day. We make mistakes every single day. That’s what life is all about.

So, you desire a real relationship.

If you truly want love in your life, then I strongly suggest you get real with yourself, and you present the real version of who you are.

I don’t care how much money you have. I don’t care what you look like. The real you is the most beautiful version of you, and so many of us don’t know how to date that way. We’re terrified, we’re scared. We don’t know what to do.

That’s why coming up in February in Los Angeles — and I’ve talked about this before on the blog — I’ve got the Love Blueprint Seminar. It’s about love. It’s about relationships. It’s about how to have a great relationship, how to communicate.

It’s all about how to be the most beautiful, real, imperfect version of yourself that you can possibly be. The only version of yourself that you can be.

Join me. Join me on the journey for love. Join like minded other people, and who knows, maybe you’ll meet somebody there who actually wants to fall in love with you. It’s happened before at other Blueprint Seminars.

The Love Blueprint is coming in February for those of you that are really, truly ready for love. You can bring a friend for free. That’s right. A friend for absolutely free.

Why? It’s so we have support on our journey for love, and makes finding love that much easier.