First Date Pressure

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By David Wygant June 16, 2010 261 Shares

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Do you put too much pressure on a first date?

Are you so nervous on that date that you’re afraid to talk?
Are you always nervous that you might say the wrong thing?

In today’s podcast, I am going to talk all about first date pressure.

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I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

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Lindsay

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

God, I haven't been on a date in so long, since I just got out of a serious relationship- I am dreading the big "D" word.

GIO

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

Hi david, i think its a very simple statement "its only a date, is not your soulmate" but i've always thought that the simple ways are the most powerful ones .... thanks greetings from mexico

Pretty Boy Dan McCoy

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

You´re a 100% right David! My mindset going into a date is to have as much fun as I´d have with an old friend. Whats the point of dating if its gonna be a pressure-filled awkward situation? So make it fun! And to do that, the approach should start with your mindset and attitude toward the date, and then go on with some friendly teasing, challenging her, talking to her, listening to her, looking her in the eyes, and, like you said, BEING PRESENT!! Theres no going home without a lipstick stained mouth with such combination!

T-bone

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Happy birthday in advance. David, I'm attracted to younger (college age or up to 24) girls who have small, tight behinds.I can't change this. I live in Chicago and it's rare that I come across such beauty, but they do exist. Anyway, these girls seem to be in more demand and tougher to talk with. This is my dilemma. I'm interested in her, but the only way I know catch her attention is to act disinterested. Thus, I ignore her, which never works.What do you recommend? Thank you in advance.

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Guys, if a girls doesn't want to be kissed on the first date it's often a bit of shyness and a lot about trust. Would you lend your car to somebody you just talked to over dinner ? For us girls, usually we need to feel we like the person and can feel he's worthy of being trusted. So, a first kiss means nothing about the level of attraction we may actually be felling. Trusting - lending your car; trusting - willing to be physical with somebody because you LIKE who they are and how they act.

Mo

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

You wanna talk about pressure women put so much pressure on first dates that it doesn't make it that much fun anymore. As a man Ugh First dates make me so nervous anymore and I guarantee a lot of men are this way. But the First date makes me so nervous anymore because women are SOOOO unbelievably judgmental on first dates and it has gotten so much worse within the last few yrs. Women have this imagination that the first date should be the absolutely perfect beyond perfect date and if he doesn’t say the exact right words she will basically if not during the date certainly after but a lot of the times they want to run. They want this to be an absolutely perfect date and if he’s nervous and for that matter she’s probably even nervous but she’s judging that if he’s nervous and don’t say the immediate right thing she want to run and instantly NO second date oh no no no he can’t certainly must not be nervous, he must say the exact thing. This will always kill women’s chances because she’s out for that “Mr. Perfect” and that simply doesn’t exist. Women that do this will always be looking for something that is never ever there. It’s a pure fact people get effin nervous when meeting for the first time. Both men and women don’t know EXACTLY what to say on a first date. Dating takes effin TIME yes it effin DOES take time!!! So damn many women first date to be like ohhh I met the perfect guy and buy the time I get home she wants’ to be like awwwwwww he’s perfect, he said the absolute right thing, he wasn’t nervous at all it was 100% perfect. Sorry women but dating and getting to know each other TAKES TIME!!!!!!!!!!!! It SERIOUSLY TAKES MORE THAN ONE EFFIN DATE!!!!!!! These days women put SOOOOO unbelievably so so much pressure on first dates that a lot of men are like screw it throw up their hands and are like Eff it cause if she’s just going to throw her fit cause it wasn’t absolutely perfect then she wants to immediately say no no no no no to any other date no matter if he was a tad nervous, he didn’t say the perfect thing. Women that go about it this way won’t get anywhere with dating because they are looking for this “perfect” that simply does not exist. Men just want to go out without so damn much pressure, enjoy the date get to know her and then continue to get to know her. Women have taken the men’s term “wham bam thank you mam” (which is insulting to women) and turned into their date version “wham bam no thank you man” (this is so insulting to men).

Mo

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

Women these days need to be more appreciative on dates. Men are going out of their way to try and go out with you, set up a nice date and try and get to know each other. Women these days are way to judgmental, way way to critical on first dates, more and more women sulk and pout if they don’t think the first date is “perfect” (which never exist). Well He** why should men even go out of their way to put something together for a date if all she’s going to do is immediately rip it apart and so nope. The very least women can do is appreciate that we men put something nice together for a first date and a little more than just a thank you. Were not necessarily saying sex on the first date but at least a genuine hug, show some damn compassion and show that you truly appreciate that we took a huge effort and time to put something nice together to go out. Give him a damn chance!!!! Maybe women need to imagine for a second if say for example you had this attitude with your job and every time you started your job you immediately started picking apart every little detail and the first day at work you up and are like nope not the right job for me. You didn't even give it a chance and before you know it your resume's 40, 50 pages long because you didn't give any job a legitimate chance. You think bosses want to hire you because every job your there for one day and then say oops nope nope nope. Nobody would want to hire you. Same goes for dating if all you do is every 1st date or so you are up and like nope nope nope men are going to sniff that out and sooner than later be like scr*w you why would I want to put my effort and take any kind of chance on you if all your going to do is instantly say no.

First Date Pressure

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Lindsay

GIO

Pretty Boy Dan McCoy

T-bone

Mo

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