I want to go deeper into the “So She Has A Boyfriend…” blog I posted the other day , because it raises a mistake that most people make over and over again, and talks about something everyone needs to know. I know that what I’m about to tell you is true for many reasons, but most particularly I know it from personal experience (and lots of it!)

Let me tell you something. Three of the best relationships I’ve had in my life have been with women who had a boyfriend when I first met them. Now when I met them, I wasn’t trying to seduce them or make them my girlfriend. I just looked at meeting them as meeting an interesting person.

That is the way I look at life. When I meet someone very interesting, I am going to try to get to know them as a person regardless of whether they’re male or female.

What a lot of people (both men and women) do when they meet someone of the opposite sex and find out that person has a boyfriend or girlfriend, is immediately dismiss that person. They do it because of their own frustrations in dating. They say to themselves “Well, I don’t want to get to know this person because I might like them once I get to know them, and this person won’t like me because they’re not available.”

When you meet someone who is interesting, get to know that person on a friendship basis. Stop having so many expectations, and stop projecting your expectations onto others. It’s just not worth it to have all those expectations.

My current girlfriend had a boyfriend when I first met her. The first time I met her, I was interested in her and we exchanged numbers. Then she called me to say that she had a boyfriend but was interested in getting to know me as a person. We then got to know each other just as friends and it was nice.

She ended up breaking up with her boyfriend, and called me months afterwards just to catch up and reconnect . . . but with no expectations. Now here we are dating. So you never know what’s going to happen in life.

The fact is, though, that it’s very hard to find someone who is really amazing. So you need to be open to it every day. There are a lot of great people who are in not-so-great relationships. They may not be ready to get involved with you right now, but get to know them now on a friendship basis. You never know where things might lead in the future.

Stop being so much about instant gratification. I wanted to go deeper into this subject because a lot of you make the mistake of dismissing people you want but can’t immediately have. So it’s really important to explore this issue more deeply.

Todays video is going to show you that observation is the key to meeting women and men as well.