Do You Want To Date A Child?

a.movie

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

I read it but I have to hold my tongue on this one. At least until other people have had a chance... Marina. I really want to see what other people think about this. Throw your comments in people!

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

A movie I am with you. I did a video a few weeks ago that all men are 18. I will repost that tomorrow. I am going to keep my thoughts quiet till we hear from people. THis one is going to get some heat

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john goldsberry

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Well if you have a connection with someone you can't hide it. If your happy that's all that matters. Im 24 and going on a date tommrow with a 35 year old. Just get out there and have fun and connect with people dont worry bout age.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Thanks John But how do feel about a 71 year old man with a 28 year old women? Or if you saw a 73 year old woman making out with you? Would you?

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Sister

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

It seems to be all the rage these days. As a 40 yo women I know a handful of guys my age looking for that 25-28 year old hottie. But most of these guys were never married and are looking to have kids now, hoping that their money will be a big factor. I'd like to what these young girls think about this. Its basically impossible for me to consider a guy more than five years younger than me. It could happen but I don't go looking for it.

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Dave

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

As far as age is concerned, age is not that big of a deal as long as the relationship is right for that particular couple. Personally, I tend to like women that are a little bit older than me as they are a little more mature than someone much younger than me, but it depends on the person as well. I probably wouldn't want to date someone too much older or younger than me because it probably wouldn't feel right; we'd probably be in different stages of life. Dating someone around five years older or maybe even younger would probably be okay for me, but again, it depends on the person. Therefore, my two cents to this debate is, "Where are you in your life, and where is he or she in her life?" Dave

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Keegan

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

The norm is usually women go for older guys because women look for a mate who can take care of their children, and being older means usually better off in life as far as wealth and life experience. While guys look for a women who is younger because men are attracted, mainly, for child bearing purposes such as hip too waist ratio, and beauty. As for your scenarios, David, it seems like most of them were the ones such as Anna Nicole Smith, and J Howard Marshall, or Huge Heff dating one of his Playmates. In most of these situations it is looked down upon, and would make me feel somewhat uncomfortable if I saw them hold hands; but then again if they truly love each other and have chemistry (not saying either of those examples do) then more power to them.

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Will of Fire

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

If I saw a 45 year old woman with the 28 year old man, I'd probably cringe a little. We all make initial judgments about people, whether we like to admit it or not (she's fat, he's creepy, she looks like fun, he looks athletic, whatever). First impressions are pretty powerful (as David teaches). Mine would be a little more judgmental, in this case. Older guy with a younger woman, I'd probably think, "That guy got game". It IS a double standard. Society frowns on a lot of things, and my reaction would based on not seeing couples with large age difference very often. That being said, if both of them are happy, then more power to them.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Sister Very true and thanks for a womans opinon. But look online and look at all the 50 year old men looking for 22 years olds. Why dont you want a gut that much younger? Are women more evolved emotionally and men are still only thinking with there dicks?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Dave How old are you now if you dont mind me asking? I love the attitude that you have it is being real and also you seem to be more about connections than only the physical

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

will Why would you not say that the woman has game? That double standard is wrong. She might have game and might deserve some young guy as well. Think about that a bit

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Keegan such as hip too waist ratio, and beauty never heard that before? why do men deserve that and women have to settle for old man balls touching the floor? i am not taking sides but dont you think there is something wrong here with this formula?

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

ahh you are a gentleman Mike, Ladies first, Well it all depends on what kind of connection you are looking for..I am 40 my husband was 61.I meet him when I was 24 he was 45. Normally I have preferred older men, men in their early 40's are a pain in the ass, identity crisis of major proportions. This was before Mike never thought I would be into baby sitting. I really come down to the person, whether it's a 71 years old woman with a 28 years old hottie...Gee why not if they both agree on why. Just one more courtesy fuck before I die she is begging. Besides I have heard that they are great at BJ's LOL At that age any sex would be great sex, but with the men/woman ration I don't know how that is going to work out. My dad at 72 dates a 49 years old, at that age I don't mind the difference. When I was 14 he dated a 19 years old, a little odd back then I have to admit. Credit to my dad he really looks better than the majority of 55 years old. Sister if a 40 years old man is looking for a family it makes sense with a 26-28, beside even at 40 he is most likely still not more mature than the 28 years old. But as much as I am fine with age differences when you hear 40+ dating again and they find someone their age it seems more genuine. Would I mind getting my hands on a 23 years old no no no, only for fun though...I do think with major age difference you should not have a serious relationship if you know the other might want to have a kid and you know you are too old. You hear it often from men, but when we meet she said she would not have kids as if that is an excuse. At some point most women get this internal clock ticking very hard. Don't mess with younger unless you at some point is ready to have kids. Don't take that experience from another person. David and Mike chickens...

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Greg

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

50 something man and young 20's woman brings Pierre & Margaret Trudeau to mind! When I see any of these couples, the age definately raises an eyebrow because it is going against the norm. Of course I'm thinking immediately- money? how did they meet? affair? All of these things. At the same time, however, it does not neccessarily reflect their overall level of contentness. You can see a happy couple wherever you go. When I see these couples- if they appear happy- I think hey, good for them!

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

David, When you say 80 year old man with 20 year old woman all I can picture is Anna Nicole Smith with that Marshall guy - And if here was some 80 year old billionaire broad who could get a 20 year old boy-toy, I would say the same thing about it: You get what you pay for ....

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Jerry What do you think of people who pay for this? Arent you saying that these people are really buying sex? A hooker might be cheaper

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Marina How do you really feel about this?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Todd sorry and i know its ‘politically incorrect’ but men CAN date much younger woman and it’s fine. women dating much younger men just makes them pathetic. Wow todd that is a moutful. so men are not pathetic when they are dating a young woman who is just using them for money? or the man who flies to asia and gets a a child bride. that is cool? tell us more

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Tessa

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

I am a 40-something woman who has recently (but not because I was looking for it) dated a few men in their 20s. None of them had ever dated an "older" woman before. They commented to me how much better the sex is (by a LOT) than the girls they were dating in their 20s. So while all those older men are looking for arm candy - the smart men (younger and older) are looking for what is more enjoyable when no one is watching :)

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

MSm so if a guy is rich and famous its ok to date a young woman? why is that ok? why is that cool to you?

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Khiem (DW Coach)

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Personally, I don't mind seeing couples that are up to 6 years apart. 8 years apart... I start to wonder if it's right... then 10+ years apart... I cringe. Because to me, when you have that big of a difference in age, I feel that it's probably more of a functional relationship (he or she provides something each other need). Whereas... when it's a bit closer in age, I feel it's probably more of a loving relationship. Of course, any relationship involves some form of value/power exchange... but I respect relationships more when I know it stems from loving each other for who they are... not for what they provide you.

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Todd

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Hey man, listen, I'm just being honest here -- it's what EVERYONE is thinking but doesn't want to get ripped apart for saying. And yes, I'm saying that an older man who can "afford" a beautiful young wife -- no matter how he finds her -- is not pathetic in terms of how he is viewed by society at large, whereas a woman would appear so. You know it's true but just don't have the balls to admit that is the way it is, like it or not. It's the truth

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

David I don't care about age, it depends on the person. An relationship is based on who someone makes me feel.

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

But Khiem what makes you think an age difference is not based on loving each other why would you assume it's based on what it provides. Love when it's pure has no age limit. Very harsh to say cringe..

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jerry

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Dave - a prostitute would be cheaper in the short run, but by finding ones they like, they can just get on the "automatic payment plan" and not have to keep finding new ones :) Of course they are buying sex David. Look I want to believe in 'true love' as much as the next guy, but i find it hard to believe that too many 80somethings have too much in common with too many 20somethings to be able to form a true romantic soul connection. Call me cynical, but I don't see how these pairings can be viewed as anything other than a legal prostitution situation.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Jerry I am with you my man. I have seen this so many times. A man who will not age gracefully and will not accept that he no longer can get the young women without the money. Its like the old ballplayer that lost his swing. No different.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

MArina When you see a 22 year old woman with a 50 year old man do you think love right away? Tell me

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Todd Do you actually think a 23 year old hot women loves this 54 year old guy? Its all about money my friend and lets not be illusional.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Tessa I would much rather have sex with a real woman than a 22 year old anytime. Sex is superior with older women.

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Lexi

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

My Intellectual reaction and my gut reaction are different. Intellectually I have no problem with it, as long as they're both adults and act like adults (not kids in adult bodies). On a gut level if they look like they could be parent/child, it is kinda gross. I tend to think that people are more likely to be more compatible with people in similar age brackets and from similar SES backgrounds, but more likely doesn't mean "will get along. Legally these couples are doing nothing wrong. It would have to be a case by case basis-- does the significantly older person have a history of dating significantly younger people? If yes, is there some kind of developmental issue in that older person, or is it coincidentally a series of exceptional young people? Are you in the same phase of the life cycle? Is the significantly younger person looking for a care taker? are they more mature than their peers, your peers? (if you don't both be in the relationship as adults, you can't have a genuinely intimate relationship) I get totally creeped out whenever my dad is interested in dating someone within 5-10 ish years of my age (he's 70, I'm 31). So he can date anyone 41 and up! When it's not my parents, it only tends to creep me out when one party looks like they could be the parent of the other party. Except for Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglass, while he looks like he could be her date, they don't seem to creep me out, maybe because I know enough about them to know they are both adults. So, like I said, case by case basis, which would involve talkign to every single party, which really, totally not worth my time and effort. There have been older guys that I've dated, but when I saw myself standing next to them in a photo, I felt like I looked like my date's daughter, that too creeps me out. When I was younger, after dating a few guys 10 ish years or so older, I made a rule that I wouldn't date any guys that much older than I was who regularly dated girls my age at the time (18-24) because they usually had issues-- immaturity, control, wanted to be a father figure (weird, already have a dad AND a step-dad thanks, and they're cool guys). At 25 I started dating younger guys 6 mos - 6 years) and found them to be good guys, but fairly regularly only dated younger guys that preferred older women. My current bf and longest relationship is 6 mos younger than I am.

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Dave

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Marina Np judgements all of us have an opinion on this and that is what makes it great.

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Just Adjust It

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

David As a man, I'm going to generalize based off of my intuition and experiences. For men dating extremely younger or older aged woman, it all depends on which head they're thinking with. If an older man wants to date the young 20 year old, he's thinking with the one eyed cyclops head : ) If he's open and wants to date older women or if age doesn't matter to him, then he's thinking with the other head. Just my initial thoughts here.

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msm

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

i'm stuck on that one on why it's ok, money i guess. 67 v 30 yr old woman. some people tend over look things because of $$$$$ but not all people.

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Marina, I don't assume that you can't find love with a huge age gap... however the reality is, that's not as common. I feel that love is about aligning yourself with your partner and when you have 1 or 2 or even 3 decades difference in age, how can you truly understand each other? How can you really understand each other's priorities and values? I'm not saying it's impossible but it's just not as common.

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The Soul

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Khiem, When you just get the other person and live in the now, age does not matter. Priorities and values are no different whatever age you are. We all just want to be with some one that makes you fell good and you are a great team together. It really depends on how your mind is, some minds are just ageless, they are in a constant grow. I for one see no reason why I have to act a certain way because of my age, I am evolving constantly and never set in one certain way of thinking. Sometimes I will Old for my age and sometimes I will be young.

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Tony888

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Marina But they are young and when did we lose our innocence

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marina

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

How do you feel now? What do you think about each scenario? Is there a double standard? David, I am going to answer all of these questions in one fell swoop. Age is a human construct and ultimately means nothing. Somebody came along one day and said you are THIS age because you’ve been alive for this many days, and you are this age because of the same reason. I think that, as humans, we naturally try to simplify to make them easier to understand, but simplifying leads to stereotyping, and that can be very dangerous. Furthermore, to judge a situation between two humans just on the basis of having seen them walk down a street is stupid. There is TON of context that needs to be taken into consideration before ANY judgment is made. The real question here is, DO these people really care for each other? And if the answer is yes, then pardon my french but, who gives a fuck? GOOD FOR THEM! So, how do I feel? I don’t think anything of it, I truly hope that these people are happy, and that goes for EACH scenario. Now, is there a double standard? Yes, I would imagine so. But if these people are happy with themselves then society be damned. And SOUL, How passionate you sound in your suggestion that time is a construct of man and how ridiculous your statement sounds to me. Time is the one thing MAN can never change. Einstein was just getting around to saying that when he kicked the bucket before he finished up his universal theory. Aging is a product of time and not how we change the thought of time in our minds. It is inevitable and necessary as much as breathing and water is to our survival. What is not part of the natural laws, is how we create structures out of our memories using time as tool to make it happen. I believe, and this is comepltely unsupported by knowledge, is that we are in a time when it is becomming obvious to us how important time is. We all know we only have so much of it and we are not given the clues to how much that might be. From there, two things are constructed, a. our need to understand this paradox, or b. our refusal to admit its existence. From those to ideas, all of man's peril and plunder in this world can be traced back to this type of thought. Societies are built from this. Famileis too. EVerything right down to the personal need to feel liberated from this thought by declaring that time and aging is something we all have to disregard as being a barrier to us. It is the only barrier that actually exists. Mike

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Sandra

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Have you ever heard the term one foot on a banana peel and the other in the grave. That is when a real young girl marries someone who is old enough to be his daughter. Some people say well they married them for their money. We all have our different outlooks on kids. But I don't want to be with a man that can not provide for himself and I feel like I have to raise him. Did his mother and dad do that for me. There are people who are children in adults bodies.

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a.movie

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Marina, I'm from that generation too. But I can guarantee you that it doesn't always turn out the way you think it will. For some kids, me included, it caused more confusion and damage to be part of system that rewarded sexual experience as a sign of maturity. If it is happening at 16, then it is not happening as a sign you are maturing, it is a sign that you are sixteen and horny and that is the marketing difference because people who target ads to kids aren't allowed to say, have sex and drink a Pepsi. They have to say, look sexy, drink Pepsi because it is sexy, and then maybe people will try and treat you as a mature adult. There is a problem there. For those of you who don't believe in the power of celebrity... Just look at Chris Brown. That guy's career is over and should be for being such a wimp that he had to hit his girlfriend. I learned not to listen to Chris Brown's music.

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Sandra

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Oh I have one for you: My last husband was seven years younger than I was and my first husband was eight years older than I my second husband was one year younger than I. Forget that marriage bum. My daughter is married to someone who is fourteen years older than her. When her dad found out he had a cow. But he forgot he married someone who was eight years younger than he was.

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Tee

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

It is not uncommon these days for women to make more $$ then men in their age group... That's why you are seeing more older women with younger men.. If you are financially secure why wouldn't you go for the hottest guy you can find... Open your minds people.. I routinely date guys 5-8 yrs younger than me. basically because I can... I don't work my ass off at the gym for nothing... Go on any dating web site and you will see countless Joe's (avg looking at best) in their early 40's never married looking for women significantly younger.... keep reading and you will also see that they still have roommates...Talk about pathetic????? As for celebs... I bet you young guys wouldn't kick Jennifer Anniston; Selma Hayek; or Halle Berry out of bed.. p.s. they are all over 40

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Sandra

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

David Maybe this guy is going through his own change of life and wants to charge up his ego. You know metapause women go through menopause.

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Sandra

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

A Movie You forgot about me me me me Marina's back up.

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Sandra

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

OK one last one so I can listen to the teleconference Have we forgotten that our ancestors married early in life I did my own family tree there were some who married in their young teens. Today in the States if someone even looks at someone who is younger than eighteen it is curtains for you.

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Tony888

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

David, Yes I saw your video about "All men are 18" the first time you posted it and commented on it then. I'm guilty as charged. Kristen, Did those girls give you their consent to be filmed or video'd and posted online? It might've been in your store, but did you get permission to upload it for the masses to see? And since they're underage, did their parents give you permission? Marina, I have difficulty with women regardless of their age. Doesn't matter what their age bracket is, I'm still tongue-tied. See what i said in the blog thread about Keeping the Conversation Going. I think it was in there where i was talking about it to MAC and Kheim. This mental block I have where my brain crashes, goes all blue screen on me. A.Movie, I've seen both Benjamin Button & Slumdog Millionaire and enjoyed them both. There's a lot of truth in what you said in that post. Tee, I agree with you on Jen A, Salma and Halle. They're all gorgeous and just turned 40 and their men are all outrageously lucky. I read that Salma just got married and she's mega-hot whatever her age is. I remember the first time I saw her in Desperado several years ago. WOW!! And she's still a major knockout today.

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j-dude

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

J Dude I use POA as Piss Off Artist, I was referring to you commenting on a virgin in here. How exciting trying to figure out you name, it's like brain exercise in the morning.

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j-dude

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

The issue here is that you can't say a 16 years old is not ready to dress a certain way. Putting people in boxes based on their age is just very narrow minded. Martrity is a mental state which really does not have an age label on it. We just don't agree and that is what makes it fun to discuss.

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Joe

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

45 yr old woman and 28 yr old man... Isn't that demi moore and ashton coocher. lol sorry can't spell

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K

Friday, February 20th, 2009

Boy, go on vacation for a few days and you guys go wild on this May-December thing! I was never attracted to older men in my younger days but they seemed to like me. I always referred to the real lack of attraction/compatibility on my part as the "cultural age gap." I wanted a common cultural frame of reference in the male company that I kept and I couldn't see it in men my father's age. But now, oh, so many years later, here I am in middle age and finding that I am less and less attracted to men my own age: Not because they are middle-aged but because they haven't aged very well. Many act helpless and seem to be looking for a woman who will take care of them - sorry, I'm not your mother or your nurse or the cook and/or the maid. And I am certainly not looking for a father figure or a Sugar-Daddy, or someone who expects me to check in constantly like a child with a curfew or to ask for spending money. So, here I was last fall on vacation, standing behind a woman in a California department store who had forgotten her charge card - so they validate her account by asking her for some personal information like her year of birth...I was aghast when she gave MY birth year! She was quite matronly in appearance, very round with totally gray hair and rather rumpled-looking. I turned to my sister who is five years older and asked "Is it just me or is there a serious disconnect here?" She said that we simply had the luck of the genetic draw - we are very healthy and don't look close to our real ages. On the flip side, I was never into much younger guys...not because they weren't great guys but because I had little in common with them. But I imagine that it's all just a matter of the odds, right? I need to meet a lot more guys in order to find common interests with a few, regardless of their age. There's how we see others and how we see ourselves...not to mention how others see us. As the volume of my monkey chatter rises, I hear myself thinking that whatever is happening to me (as an 'old guy' magnet) must clearly be my own doing, whether I realize it or not. My friends suggest that I don't consider older people to be 'dangerous' so I must feel more free to be myself and they feel free to hit on me. Does anyone out there have a better idea?

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Jeff

Friday, February 20th, 2009

I can't believe that Lee's post went by unnoticed by everyone except David! It is indeed all about chemistry. I meet lots of couples through my work, and it really doesn't take a genuis understand the key ingredients of a happy relationship. It has NOTHING to do with age..... and everything to do with being emotionally connected to your partner. It's always obvious to me those that share this type of relationship ... and even moreso when that connection is absent. It never hurts to look below the surface.

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mARINA

Friday, February 20th, 2009

Jeff he was not the only one with that opinion. everyone were just very much into putting people into age blocks. with this age difference, people under 20 and so on and on It's just common sense. Nice to another one with this attitude.

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a.movie

Saturday, February 21st, 2009

Jeff, We're debating, doesn't mean we don't agree. What is the issue is not whether or not there is a real connection but whether or not the real connection is going to survive the inevatible challenges that come with dating someone who is in a different range for emotional maturity. There are certain things that come with age, including understanding respect, humility, and compassion. Sure, as kids we are introduced to these concepts and we could easily have opinions about them, but like wine and cheeses, our childhood only introduces these ideas to us and with age they become more refined and defined. Relationships with age differences come with problems and if the bond connecting the partner is strong enough, sure people can overcome that, but most times it turns into a joke, a job, or jail time. Whoever is younger is developing differntly than whoever is older. It doesn't mean they can't share the maturing process and it certainly doesn't mean the older person can't learn from the younger, but there are problems. And frequenlty these relationships are buil around things that aren't condusive to a healthy relationship, like the golddiggers or the cougars in heat. Here's an example. I know this one couple and there is a ten year age gap. Most people would think this is okay and I think it is too and as a couple on the surface they look totally happy. Well, the girl here is 22, and the guy is 32 so you would think they would get along great. But the girl is from a Russian family, was born in Russia, and immigrated here when she was 4. So she was educated in a Western style but her family style was traditional Russian. If you know Russian families, you know that they are very protective of their children and most Russian kids (guys and girls) typically live at home until they are 25. The families also have to know that there kids are going to be all right before they let them leave the nest. So when you have an independent minded young girl growing up in America and seeing all the freedoms her friends have in respect to their parents, they might make descions that go against a rational nature. This girl met this older guy and basically moved in with him to get away from her parents. She lives very close to me and we became friends (I'll tell that story another time). She knew I didn't have a car so we used to hang out all the time and we run errands together. It was a no pressure situation for me and I just went along and was myself. She built up trust with me and eventually spilled her secret about who she was living with. She told me that the guy was great (he is, I met him) but because she moved in with him so fast because she felt she needed the indpendence from her parents led her right into this relationship that had to be built around the same thing. The guy is not a jerk, and doesn't use her, but it happened fast and for the wrong reasons so the relationship is VERY rocky. She confided all of this to me. I listened to her and gave her my opinion. So one day after hearing about her struggles for months, I asked her why she is still with this guy if she knows she isn't in love and she told me that she can't move out from his house because her father would be very disappointed. She can't move back in because the western world has her convinced that it would be an act of failure. And she can't live on her own because she is still too attached to the opinions of her parents to let her be free and live her life the way she wants. I told her the answer was simple. She needed to find someone great and to make the break from her live in boyfriend (they never got married) by either finding someone different or and this is what I heavily encouraged, or she needs to talk to her parents to tell them how she feels. I told her that she would be surprised how supportive parents can be if you tell them it is your descision now and that they should support it. It's not like she wants to move to New York or anything and I even told her if her parents are worried she would be alone, then she should move in with her sister or another female roommate so they can look after each other. You know what she did? She started falling "in love" with me. She started to linger awfully long on the hugs we would give each other after we were done our errands and she started telling me how great I was and how perfect I would be. She was starting to make the same mistake with me thinking that a live in relationship was what she should be looking for and since we had become great friends by this point, she was starting to think it would be me. She wasn't looking at me like a friend but as a replacement to her situation and she would have been willing to take a chance with me because she knew how good of friends we were at the time. I told her no. She got upset over it and slowly over the next few weeks she started doing her errands differnetly and eventually she stopped talking to me. We are still friends, this was one of the times I didn't try and burn my bridges with her. But all of her problems seem to be stemming from her emotional security with herself and her indpendence. If she called me tomorrow and told me she was getting married to a man in his forties, I wouldn't be surprised. But I would have to wonder if the guy had the sense to know her well enough that he might be just another one of these guys she tries to find and if my friend ever sees what she is doing for what it really is, he might be the next one to be replaced. That is what I think I'm trying to say about age. And yes it is all relative to the situation. Mike (ps, I'm waiting until she is single and is on her own. Then I might go back and see what is going on with her. Another one of David's great posts dealt with this.)

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Adam DW Head Instructor - London

Sunday, February 22nd, 2009

Im loving reading these posts. I personally beleive that all these relationships can work in the right circumstances. For me its all about that great connection - However most great connections are found with people of similar ages because they have grown up watching the same TV, magazines, fashion trends, etc which makes them easy to relate to. Peoples attitudes with regard to living together whether married or not have also changed greatly over the last 30 years along with people beliefs about work and masculine/feminine roles in the relationship. Because of this the majority of people will always be with someone of simliar age however there will always be exceptions and the exceptions can be a perfect relationship s long as the circumstances are right. Catherine Zeta and michael douglais...great. As long as both parties are open and being honest about what they want from each other emotionally, sexually etc...then great. How honest and open are you? you are probably thinking "Im very honest and open" But are you really?.... I know most of the guys out there are great guys that are open and honest with their family and freinds but when it comes to connecting with a potential partner that open and honesty goes right out the window...???

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Anna

Sunday, February 22nd, 2009

I don't think it should matter. Does it? Certainly. People in relationshops with large age differences will face discrimination, and that's unfortunate. Many times, however, the people who matter will accept it. My grandfather is 73; his wife is 50, and his daughter is 52. A close friend is 18; her boyfriend is 33. For some people, age is more than a number, and for others it's just a number. People have different standards of acceptability, and that's just how it is, I guess.

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Ashton

Wednesday, February 25th, 2009

Well, David, I have been married to an older man and a younger man. I had more fun with the younger man. However, I'll be honest. Back then (I was around 30 and he was in his early 20's), I never felt that comfortable with a younger man. My animator, however, just loves older women and now he has a girlfriend who is about 15 years older than he is. They are both very happy. When I wrote my first on-line profile, I was getting a lot of attention from men in their 30's. When I asked them why they wanted an older woman like me, they said that age didn't matter to them. I think they were looking for a sugar mama. Anyhow, I changed my profile and don't get them anymore. My last husband (died) was about 7 years older than I, but he never seemed old. All the men I have met who are around his age (late 60's) seem really old. Even some men who are younger than I am seem older than he was. So, my answer to you is that age is really in your head. You can't really go by the numbers. You have to go with the feeling you have when you're with a person.

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Marina

Wednesday, February 25th, 2009

Ashton Couldn't agree more this connection as if it has anything with age it has something to do with being in the moment and there finding your connections. When you have a similar sense of humor it crosses the age barrier. Sorry Adam I just don't agree with your views on having grown up with the same things. I think it's more important you are one the same page with present things as living on connections made mainly from things that happen in the past seem very narrow and limited to me.

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Nadia

Monday, November 9th, 2009

I'm 28 year and my husband is 50. We've been happily married for 10 years and have a beautiful daughter. I come from a wealthy family and hold two advanced degrees, so did not need a sugar daddy. I wanted a reliable guy I could build a strong family with, but none of my peers seemed mature enough. My husband is an intellectual that I've learned a lot from. He's not only my man, but also my best friend and mentor.

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Sarah Grace

Sunday, April 17th, 2011

i didnt even read all the posts on here, i just wanted to add my two cents i have no problem with eventually dating someone younger than i, but at 19, guys just two years younger seem like boys, and the guys exactly my age seem immature, too. show me a group of pics of celebrities and i'll pick ones of the men twice my age (or a little less) as most attractive. george clooney. what's his name who played patrick jane on //mentalist//. will smith. but i'm not ready to date "older men" yet. so i'll stick with 25's for now :)

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Sophie

Friday, September 16th, 2011

I am married to a man a lot older than me for the last 14 years. He also happens to be rich but i never cared about that. When i met him and fell in love with him, i wasn't aware of his financial status. I am and always have been an independent woman. The thing is that there are a lot of judgemental, narrow minded people out there, who are making our lives miserable with their mean comments instead of minding their own business. Personally, i believe that no relationship is disgusting as long as there's chemistry and uncondictional love between the couple.

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