Do You Understand Sexual Tension?

Do You Understand Sexual Tension?

Men's Advice Sex, Turn-Ons & Turn-Offs, Uncategorized

By David Wygant September 21, 2011 887 Shares

Take it from the ORIGINAL dating coach — you DON’T need any “pickup lines” or canned material to EFFORTLESSLY attract any woman you want. Watch this free video now to learn what the “pickup artists” & “seduction gurus” don’t want you to know…

How good are you on the phone?

So you’ve got her phone number. Now closing and sealing the deal, getting them to go out with you—that’s only part of the picture.

How good are you at building up sexual tension after the first date? Do you even understand what sexual tension is all about?

I have something really special for you guys on today’s podcast. It’s a phone call that you can listen in. My head coach Shogo—and he’s my head coach for a reason—he decided that he’d call a woman up who he just started dating and allow ALL of you guys to listen in, so you can understand exactly what it’s like to build real sexual tension. To get her absolutely excited to see him the next time and to really show you guys how to amplify sexual tension when you’re on the phone with a woman.

Check it out and listen to the ex-lawyer do his thing.

Take it from the ORIGINAL dating coach — you DON’T need any “pickup lines” or canned material to EFFORTLESSLY attract any woman you want. Watch this free video now to learn what the “pickup artists” & “seduction gurus” don’t want you to know…

About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Shogo (Coach)

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey David S, we've only been out together twice. Denise, wtf!! Nice post and so true: A woman who knows how to rule the cock can make a man think of her for years down the road!

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Shogo (Coach)

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Farley, you got it! Dirty talk is all about the way you feel on the inside first and then how you project yourself will naturally come out. You can't make someone else feel sexually flirtatious--you can only feel it yourself and them allow them to feel comfortable enough to feel the same with you... BTW, that's why this podcast was pretty hard to do--David was sitting right next to me!

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Lang

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@John, Hey man, you should really check out Tony Robbins interventions, and how he changes peoples mindset in hours. There was this guy who was contemplating suicide, and Tony was able to help him change his mindset, it's pretty amazing stuff. From what I've been reading about your posts, I think you might need to work on the inner you a bit more before "going out to sea"...

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Denise

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hi David, This podcast is so true. It is all about sexual tension and how to build it. I need to share with all of you how this works so well on men. During the last week of summer, ( labor day weekend ) i was on vacation in Palm beach , FL. I had many dates lined up that weekend, and the last one ended with a bang ! no pun intended. lol I meet this guy, about 2 months ago, in NYC. We went out on 2 dates . and 1 party together. His, with over 400 guests. No JOKE. !!! He can be a little intimidating at first, since he is very handsome, mid to late 40's , very educated, and really climbed to the top in his career. Very Rich, and his real assets are hidden , ( i do not mean " off shore banking" ) it is in his jeans, if you know what i mean. All 12 inches !! with circumference!! . He would not never be intimated to play for the NY KNICKS , and shower in the men's locker room !!! LOL ... Since he lives in Florida, we meet up for dinner, I went to his beautiful home first, and then to a trendy restaurant . I was in " vacation mode " so i was out of my head, and was finally having fun. ! He normally, like to ask "A Lot of Questions." I told many jokes, he laughed and listened. He is not that funny... LOL He is more about making money. $$ . Everyone has there strong point ! . After dinner we went back to his home, and he leads me in his beautiful bedroom, with dark walls, soft velvet drapes and beautiful Crystal Chandelier , lights dimmed so low. Very seductive. . He has 2 glasses of vodka ( pure ) with just ice. And in the background is " Candy Shop " playing by 50 Cents . He was asking me if i know this song. I did not... The artist did sound familiar. However, it sounded like something i heard up in the old " Scores " Strip Club in NYC one night. !!! ( I was right ) Make love in the Club, is also by 50 Cents. He starts to kiss me, and i respond back in kind. I enjoy kissing him. and i like when he touches me and likes to play with my chest. We have done it once before. But nothing more. I was not really sure where i wanted this to go. Part of me, was worried about if i went further, what would he think of me, or judge me. Then the other part is , life should be fun, it is a gift, enjoy the night, who " cares " what he thinks. I dont wish to play a game of Cat and mouse. ! I want to have a good time. He can think what ever he wants. Cause i can not control his thoughts. I got out of my head, and then the fun and the seduction game began. He leads me to the bed, and then takes off my pants, then my underwear, and spreads my legs open and starts licking me , very slow and taking his time. With all his seduction tactics, he really is not a " True " player. He was very good, however his skill set was not of a real " seasoned veteran " . He got me very very wet, and after about 20 min. He came back up to me, and started kissing. He then laid down on his back, propped a pillow up, and i asked him " Want to Watch me " go down on him Right there when i saw the look in his eyes, and he locks eyes with me, and watches me take his Huge Cock in my mouth. I realized at that point. I, HAD all the POWER !! .. As i used my hand and mouth, forget it. !!! This big powerful guy, was just de throned in his own palace !! .. ( all 8,000 sqt of it ) .. I hold the keys to the Castle. lol He cant control himself, and comes in about 10 min. He said, he was so excited from licking me and going down on me , he could not control himself. BullShit !! ( He could not hold out ) . However, his real talent, besides making $$$ . Is he has incredible rebound. and he comes all over my stomach, shoots his load. and then 10 min. later, starts kissing me again, and goes down on me. This time to finish the task. He spent a good 30 min. giving me good oral sex. , finally , i think really dirty thoughts, and i get off. I scream his name, once or twice. He is Hard as a Rock again. Question : I ask myself, " Do i fuck him " ... If, i felt like no one was to judge me, I would fuck this guy, strong and hard, all night long. He turns me on. I felt like i was with Tommy Lee. ( who happens to be one of my fantasy guys ) ... His honeymoon video who ever saw it, Left some impression on me !!! Now you know what happened in my marriage, ( only Kidding ) that is a whole other blog. He says, to me, " I can not wait to have you Next time "" .. !!! Your pussy is so tight and wet, i love it. You turn me on so much... I say to myself, Next time.... ?? He does not want me tonight. .. ?? Why would he not want to have me tonight ? ( because he must be in his head too! ) . What does he wish to save me for a virgin sacrifice ? LOL I ask him... " What does he want from me " ? He jumps and says, " For the next 25 years" in the future ?? I say, Lets just stick with the next 3 hours !! Very calmly. It will work much better for both of us. He just laid me down at that point, and put his huge cock in me. He is fucking me good, he 's a little nervous. I think because he wants to really be good and please me. His ego is at stake. :) After about 10 min. he says, he cant take it anymore, and he comes again. All over my chest. As i rub his cum all over my chest ( ie 32 DD ) Natural. He gets even weaker... and once again. I have all the power, even though he started out as the big man on campus. With in 5 min. i go down on him again to bring him around. He gets hard for the 3rd round !! ( no viagra ) all natural. He is laying on his back, i slowly climb up and sit on his cock. Now i am riding him bare back. He loves it, but what he loves most is, how i look at him in his eyes, and he looks back, and there is the true soul connection which i was always looking for. This to me, is what creates intimacy, and a real true connection. As i move up and down on him, at different speeds, to tease him, to almost bring him to climax, and then slow up and kiss him very seductive, with slow kisses, with feeling and meaning, Also as i rubbed my soft breasts up and down against his chest. I dont think he really ever experienced this type of magic or sex before or often. Maybe i am wrong. , We will never really know... Except. I will go with my gut feeling and say. I am correct. Remember , when you lock eyes with him inside you, .... usually the truth starts to unfold. He is taken so under the current, like a tidal wave. Helpless, and he knew , you can see it in his eyes ....... " I was Holding all the Power " because i owned his dick and he knew it. !! Ladies, a woman who can rule the cock is a woman who can make a man think of her years down the road . ( great author who wrote that ) I knew this was going to be the case.... and mine was going to be the " Yellow brick " road ! LOL ( no pun intended ) If, i wanted to go for the 4th round i am sure it could have happened. However, it was getting late, and i had to drive back because of certain circumstances. We both thought at the same time, and said it out loud " I wish i meet you , when i was 20 yrs old " LOL. I get dressed, and he walks me to my car, and says , If i dont leave now , he will want to do it again. I said, I am going to leave now, and i know you will want to be doing this again. Because , i knew next time would even better than tonight. As i drive away from his home, and the security gate lifts up, i said to myself, I would not allow anyone to ever intimidate me again, Once i realized that I was the one with " All the Power " . Hope this is helpful, to other women out there, as my ending is for another blog ! lol ... Which you know, This is my true and accurate night, and What ever it was worth, I had a great evening, and fun , exciting, Sensual, SEX !!! Thanks to your help ! in building up my confidence, David..... Warmly, Denise

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Farley

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Love that picture...A pilot building sexual tension with a woman. Am I right?

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

That phone conversation seemed so easy. I mean she was basically doing all the work and building up the sexual tension herself. She planned everything including sleeping over. Shogo just played along. I feel its really easy to build that sexual tension with someone you've already been with. I'd be curious to know how its created with someone you are just starting out with.

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Farley

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Shogo, From your voice tone I could hear that you are confident, relaxed, and in the vibe to be sexually flirtatious. I guess dirty talk in the way you do it, is basically feeling sexually flirty from the inside first, and then projecting it in the way you talk and hold yourself, and basically it can be about anything.

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Legan

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Great podcast and creative idea. Shogo, you can hear in the girl's voice that she is completely digging you. On David's end the version of talking dirty made me bust up. Hilarious. You guys work great together.

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Wally

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Great podcast and holy shit have you guys read Denises post. Denise I want to meet you!!!

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Maryanne

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

I read it and wow. I think Denise is even more sexually charged than I am. Great podcast guys loved the way you spoke to the women. You had me!

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

son of a bitch,,,, lol I swore I wasn't going to post any comments anymore and was just going to read the daily article posted, but this time ,,, I just can't help myself. I just read Denise's post, and if THAT doesn't prove that everything I ever said about women, and what they want, is 100% true, then I DON'T F'N KNOW WHAT DOES. All women care about is exactly what denise says above, 1. what you were BORN to look like 2. how much money you make. (she brought it up over, and over.) 3. and the size of your FUCKING DICK THAT is what women care about, THAT is what women want, and THAT is what REALLY MATTERS. PERIOD!!!!!!! And anyone else that says otherwise is either a GODDAMN LIAR, or FUCKING STUPID. Guys who are filthy stinking rich, and born good looking, and happen to be hung will always get everything, and none of this other bullshit means a goddamn thing. NOW I'M DONE.

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Deborah

Wednesday, January 3rd, 2018

this is to John, from 2011. Old post but have just come across this. Nothing I or anyone else may say will change John's way of thinking. Denise is one woman...her values are not my values and on and on. Not all women are about the money, the looks, the career, the size of your dick....whatever. The same as not all men are about big boobs, genius level intelligence, drop dead gorgeous looks, a tight ass, etc., etc. John's post reeked of anger at someone. Sometimes when relationships don't work well there is no explanation. I know. Instead of seething anger at all men I tend to internalize the failures and decided long ago it is a deficiency within me. I don't understand why the most natural thing in the world is out of my reach. It just is. I guess I just hate seeing him lump all women in to this obnoxious form he's set up.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

^^ sorry, ,, read Denise's post. got a little,, well,, angry. (and depressed.)

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Intern Dan

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John, you're always looking for those things so you'll always find them! It's your way to protect yourself from the truth that it's your attitude and nothing else that's holding you back. This isn't a "GODDAMN LIE" or me being "FUCKING STUPID". It's me calling you out on your excuses and your frustration so you can move past it. As someone not looking for those things I read about a man who is supremely confident and comfortable in his own skin and sexuality. He was able to enjoy her and she was able to enjoy him. Now I know you're going to say something about his big dick but you know, I know plenty of women, most of them in fact who would find that size scary and too much. Nothing you said in your rant is objectively true. It's just your excuses. Drop the excuses and have the life you want.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

one more thing,, Denise,, by god, I have been a little upset watching guys who just got to be rich, and tall, and good looking get everything in life handed to them, everything in life that I can never have because I don't have the resources available to me to ever be a millionaire, I can never be tall, and one thing I have never been called is good looking. I never really blamed women for the choices, they make. I just kind of accepted that it's just the way things are. But after hearing your story bragging about this guy's money, looks, 8000 sq.ft mansion, gated driveway, top of his career, and gigantic junk, (all things I can never have, and never be.), and hearing how he just gets everything handed to him,, With this one blog comment, and this story, you pulled off what hasn't really happened until now,, Denise, you made me HATE women. I HATE women more than anything else in the world now. Thanks alot.

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john c

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

I'm in a situation currently with a girl that I'm trying to create that sexual tension with...! This should be helpful.....Thanks :)

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@interndan,, I knew you were going to say that. It's not my excuses. Just read,, REALLY READ her post, and read her description of this guy, and the things she brags about over and over, and you see what's important to women. This is another reason I need to leave this blog alone. I have spent way too much time posting here. But I thought, "What the hell, it's podcast wednesday, I'll listen to the podacst, and just not read the comments", but Denise's comment was right on top, and I just happened to see it. (It was a great podcast today, BTW.) But I can't have what is just handed to the good looking, rich guys. I need to just quit reading, and give it up, and just accept it. Height, Looks, and MONEY is what women REALLY want. Like Gnome said, If you want to know what women want, ask a woman. Well, ask Denise. What matters to women is right up there in black and white. sorry about the rant.

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theresa

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John don't go, that is true what u said n vice versa isn't that what guys want in a girl as well big tits flat stomach gorgeous and well to do? And if u answered no u just proved yourself wrong. It comes down to attraction.

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The Rich Guy

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey Everyone and Especially JOHN! I am rich and powerful and successful and what some would consider good looking. I own 2 companies and have done this with a high school education. I basically have become the American dream. I have it all cars, toys big house on the lake and an apartment in the city. I have it all except a woman to share it with. I have not had a date in 6 months and have not had sex in almost a year. I stink at meeting women and have all the material things that John says is what is needed to get women. I am sure I can get a gold digger, I have been approached by them many times when I am at Morton's steakhouse or when I pull up my Aston Martin. I can sit here and type all day long about my issues and blame my parents and so many other people for my lack of women in my life. But what I learned from Davids mastery series is that the situation I am in is all my fault. I created the fears the mindset and everything. John you always look for an external excuse. I am moving forward with my life and getting the help that I need. The next bootcamp that David has in the states, I will be getting my rich ass to it. I would pay for you as well John if for once I saw you actually get real and stop blaming everything but your crappy mindset. See I could have stayed poor and I mean poor. My dad was a city bus driver 6 kids and a wife. He used to tell us that people like us never amount to anything at all. I had all the negative mindset and no education to get me out of my hole that was dug for me. My first job was Mcd working the grease pits and then one day it hit me. Not the grease but an idea. I am not here to tell you how that grease led to a big empire but I am here to tell you. Anyone can do anything they want, life is all mindset!

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Technoboy

Wednesday, November 28th, 2012

I second what Rich Guy said about money + career. With this additional caveat: I think the part that was handed to me career-wise is that I was born with a sharp analytical mind. And I think you, John, were dealt this card too. And the irony with that one is that although my logical + analytical mind is my best asset career-wise, it's actually my WORST asset when it comes to relationships - it's the part of me that takes me out of being in the moment and produces monkey chatter. Oh, and here is another interesting perspective for you: Being too well hung is actually a BAD thing for most women! It's like Goldilocks - needs to be not too small, not too big, but JUST RIGHT for her.

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theresa

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Mistake meant to say perky not big

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

I'm writing this as I listen... Ok, so as soon as she picks up, she's apparently laughing and smiling, basically happy to talk to you, never happened to me, guess I'm not special, something that always stuck in my head was my older cousin telling me that nobody likes me, and you know, as much as it hurt, I give him all the props in the world because he was right. Usually when I talk to a woman, I feel like she'll hang up, sometimes I act drunk to act as if I have a "life", guess it boost attraction a little, maybe not. "Why don't I take you out on wednesday?" you failed by asking a woman out, David always suggest not to ask, but tell, you should've said "we are going out on wednesday", big mistake by you shoogy boy. noticed you let her talk over you alot too, that always happened to me in my youth, even when I was disrespected over the phone, and cried, I held it in, but my sad voice gave it away. speak when you need too, wait til she finishes her sentence. not a good conversation, and I didn't hear any dirty talk... sorry. on another note today in therapy, I didn't have the conversation you had with your girlfriend with my therapist, I felt like I was talking to the fucking wall. sad part is, I am kinda infatuated with her, she is sexy. too bad I feel like I wasted my money because I'm talking to a wall. also it's hard talking to her, not only because I feel like I am talking to a wall, but because she is so sexy, I can't keep my eyes off of her. I can't tell her everything because she is very attractive, and quite simply, I don't want to be looked at as a loser by an attractive woman again, so what do you think guys? try to attract my therapist? or just say fuck it and give up all hopes by telling my true problems, and hopefully she solves it? also, I don't care about therapy rules, remember The Joker was crazy too, and made Harley Quinn(a therapist) fall in love with him, all I have to do is(without her realizing) is give her the "therapy" but I'm really confused, at work today everyone's panicking over the best buy shit, afraid to lose their jobs, and I'm like calm the fuck down... we don't know for sure and we can't tell the future. those co workers overreacting give me stress. but other than that, today was just another boring day. @Denise, jeez, you write more than me @John, Denise is a troll, she mentioned materialistic things on purpose to make us think that is all women want, yes it is what women want for the most part, but not all.

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Collin

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John, what you're failing to see is that while women like things like money, height, looks, etc., that's not the whole story. Think of it like an RPG (role playing game, not rocket propelled grenade). Different character classes are better equipped for beating different bosses, but with the right strategy and use of experience points, any character can beat any other boss. Do what you can to mitigate your weaknesses, but play to your strengths. Even an average looking guy with little money can be clean, well groomed, and well dressed, while exuding confidence, making women laugh, and being engaging and interesting. Fun, memorable dates don't have to be expensive if you put a little more time and energy into them. Personally, I've clothed myself in a very nice, name brand wardrobe that makes me appear much more well to do than I am because I shop at thrift stores in affluent areas and spend a little money on tailoring. I spend my time developing my conversation skills and working out to maximize what I have to work with. It's never too late, John.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

man, this blog is like crack,, I'm trying SO hard to quit,, here goes,, @collin,, Sure, you can try and fake being rich and successful, but being GOOD LOOKING, rich, and successful is what really matters to women. Period. Everything else is secondary. Women want guys who are tall, handsome, rich. These guys never have to work at anything. That guy Denise slept with, and bragged about, got Denise, and probably has an endless supply of other women just like Denise. But my blue collar, short, ugly ass doesn't have a chance.

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Collin

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@The Rich Guy, I think I'm going to call you Rich from here on out. First of all, congratulations on pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, not being afraid of a little dirty work, and eventually owning multiple companies. It shows a lot of character. You may have problems with women, but it takes serious balls to take on the risks involved with being a business owner. You know what it means to break down a problem, tackle it head-on, and solve it one step at a time. Not only that, but offering to pay for John shows that you have a good heart. With a little help from David, I'm sure you'll be able to succeed with women as well. What do your companies do, and what cities are you in? P.S. nice call on the Aston Martin. The design direction that Ian Callum and Heinrik Fisker took the company in is absolutely stunning. They're not the most comfortable cars in their class or the best performing, but they are far and away the most desirable.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@interndan,, you want to know what I heard from Denise's post, here's what I heard. What he has that she cares about: - he is very handsome, mid to late 40′s , very educated, and really climbed to the top in his career. -Very Rich, and his real assets are hidden , ( i do not mean ” off shore banking” ) it is in his jeans, if you know what i mean. All 12 inches !! with circumference!! . -He is more about making money. $$ . Everyone has there strong point ! - his home, and he leads me in his beautiful bedroom, with dark walls, soft velvet drapes and beautiful Crystal Chandelier -As i drive away from his home, and the security gate lifts up About his personality : -He is not that funny… LOL - What does he want from me ” ? He jumps and says, ” For the next 25 years” in the future ?? I say, Lets just stick with the next 3 hours !! (so, she's not impressed with his personality.) What he gets that I never can : -He starts to kiss me, and i respond back in kind. I enjoy kissing him. and i like when he touches me and likes to play with my chest. -As i move up and down on him, at different speeds, to tease him, to almost bring him to climax, and then slow up and kiss him very seductive, with slow kisses, with feeling and meaning, Also as i rubbed my soft breasts up and down against his chest. -He leads me to the bed, and then takes off my pants, then my underwear, and spreads my legs open and starts licking me -and on and on. THAT is what I read from Denise's post. She posted this here to let guys like me know that guys like the one here get everything they want, and UGLY guys like me get to hear about it.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

^^ sorry, I didn't intend on that being that long.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@ The Rich Guy : You said - "I am sure I can get a gold digger, I have been approached by them many times when I am at Morton’s steakhouse or when I pull up my Aston Martin." -ummm,, not doing much to prove me wrong :/ Gold Diggers are great fun. They will sleep with you, but the key to bangin gold diggers, is to not give up the gold. Man, I WISH I had problems like yours.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

you know, I would LOVE to start my own business and become sucessful. I'm not afraid to "do the dirty work",, the problem is I don't know what the dirty work IS.?? I'd like to start a business, but I just plain don't know how. Sure, I have ideas, but I have bills to pay. I have to do what I do because it is the only job I can get, and make "decent" money. I can't go to college, because my job doesn't allow it. Plus, "it takes money to make money". That's something I will probably never have enough of. I guess to sum it up, Sure, I have business ideas, but I have no IDEA where to start.

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The Rich Guy

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John I started my business with nothing. I took a huge chance and basically started it on credit cards because I believed in myself. I offered to pay for a bootcamp for you if you could just admit that you have an attitude problem that can be fixed. You want someone to believe in you? Well I reached out to you and you went right for the gold diggers and how I can have sex with them. I do not want the gold diggers. I find them ugly people and I deserve way better than that. For once John stop making excuses and start embracing your fears. Did all the rest of you see how I offered to buy him a bootcamp?

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Collin

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Yes John, she liked having sex with that guy but most of that post was just shameless titillation. To give up and think that you can't get a great woman just because there are a couple thousand guys in a nation of 300 million with that kind of money/looks combination is just ridiculous. You can call yourself a realist all you want to justify giving up, but you've got a lot of things going for you, and if you would drop this idea that a lack of height/looks/money has doomed you forever, you'd find a more success with women than you know what to do with. You've said it before that you can't see why any woman would want you when there are so many rich guys who look like models out there, but you know what? There really aren't that many guys like that out there. All that belief does is make it seem more and more futile to try and change. Polish your attitude up, and you'll be able to meet some great women. Until then, why would a great woman want to date a guy who is constantly being a Debbie Downer about how he's never good enough and never going to be good enough?

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@John I call bullshit John, you use materialistic things as excuses. if you're ugly like me... get SURGERY like me. if you have a bad image with women, create a good one, I like to crack some heads here and there because it improves my confidence, I'm not saying you have to fight to get confidence like me, but find something that makes you feel powerful. if you see women who are materialistic, don't keep it to yourself, tell them in their little conniving faces like I do. I said this to a woman at a mall after she was getting bratty with me, I said "look ya little stuck up bitch, I came over to have a friendly conversation, drop the asshole shield, and lets restart, or you could shut the fuck up, and get out of my face" it's that simple, they don't like it... too bad. as long is it boost your ego, it's good. and john if you don't feel like reading that whole thing, I'll give it to you in one line, DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO KEEP YOUR EGO UP, DOESN'T MATTER WHO YOU HURT, THE #1 THING is, your ego. hope it helps you, even though you disrespected me countless of times... and I have given you all the respect in the world...

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@The rich guy , Man thanks for the offer. That's ok. I don't want anyone to pay my way. Call it pride. Seriously, Do you know how much I wish I had women attracted to me at all? You know, Not all of the women who are approaching you are gold diggers. I'm sure some of them ARE, but some of those, I'm sure, are great women, who are just going after what women want. Guys with money, looks, and power. Use whatever works. Don't turn down every girl who approaches you just because you are assuming she is only after your money. Do you know what I would give to be where you are?? Again, thanks for the offer.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Collin, Basically john's a quitter, I've been to the shitter many of times and I haven't quit. I don't know if john would handle the shit I've been through if he can't even handle minor things like he is complaining about.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey Rich Guy That is a super generous offer to 'John.

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@ David Wygant & Shogo: Let me start this by saying you guys have way more experience in this industry I realize this and I'm just posing a question and wondering why you guys haven't done it before. Shogo, earlier you said you've only been out with that girl two times before. Yet it still seemed so easy for you and she was creating the tension more than you were in my opinion but, I dont doubt you can and have created the tension yourself a ton before. My issue is that you were the one making the phone call. Just like the video I saw yesterday where David was the one showing us how he does things during his day. It was a great video, loved it! However, you guys are the professionals you should be great at these things. I know in the video David said he was just where guys like me are now with little confidence but it is so hard to connect to that when you are seeing the finish product without any of the development! I know you guys have posted some live in field observations and those are great too but the guys in the videos really aren't that bad looking they just lack confidence so once you put them out there they realize they can overcome it and they do. Its great for them but those videos are very far and few inbetween and the guys are relatively normal. Its like all these dating websites and weight lose programs that show good looking people before and after and say you can do it to. Thats nice for them but to develop a connection from that is really difficult. And I know those things blew up and you're trying to do the same, the only thing I wonder is why haven't you shown a guy like 5'7" with a gut and more problems. Im not saying go grab a bum off the street and prove to me you can turn him around, I'm saying you'll connect to so many more people if you show the guy from the very beginning who has a lot of problems to overcome in his self esteem and show his development, his improvement over time. I could connect so much more to people like that, and I know you do this all the time probably in your bootcamps and stuff but if your goal is to get more people here to check out your products why haven't you shown a full development of someone like that? Once again I know I don't have much experience here but as someone who believes in what you do I'm just curious as to why you haven't done something like this. I just thing it could really help you connect to the every man if you show more of the every man instead of always you and the coaches. Let the players shine!

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@collin, Man, I'm no "Debbie Downer". Do you think I say these things around WOMEN??? I only say these things here because this blog is about IMPROVING YOUR DATING LIFE. That's the overall purpose of this blog. I don't say things to other people that I say here. I don't know anyone here, and will most likely never meet anyone here, so what the hell,, might as well call it like I see it. You know earlier, I watched the video that David put out of him approaching people and starting conversations, and I was really inspired. I went out today, talked to every person outside, on my way to my car, went to a coffee shop, talked to the girls behind the counter, and the guys who were customers (there were no female customers the whole time I was there, it was slow,,cincinnati, you know), and had fun. I said bye, and thanks to people on the blog, because I saw posts from a couple of you wondering where I went. I was in a great mood ,,I just said , "hey, I wonder what the podcast is about today.." Then I read Denise's post,, and then ....... Reality set in.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David S. "Just like the video I saw yesterday where David was the one showing us how he does things during his day. It was a great video, loved it! " what video? I didn't see any new David Wygant video. can someone give me the link or something?

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Tom: If your a subscriber David sent out an email a day of two ago where you just had to signup to get notifications about his new products and then the next page had the video of him doing live in field approaches during his day.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David S. Ok, I signed up, how can I see the video now?

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Tom: right after you signed up it should've taken you to the new page with the video.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@david S,,, I have always been of the opinion that this is great advice for people who are good looking, but just don't know how to talk to people. Like you say,, look at the videos,, Everyone you see in the videos is decent looking, sucessful guys, guys who can get women anyway. All the coaches say, "hey, it works,, look at me!!",,, David wygant - Tall, decent looking (no homo :)) rich, business owner, sucessful. Shogo- good looking (again, no homo., lol), sucessful, law school. Dan- Decent looking (again,,hell, nevermind lol), college educated, etc. And it's not just here, any dating coach's videos, show the same thing. I can never be as sucessful with women as tall, good looking, rich guys like Denise is talking about. Am I jealous,,, yeah, pretty much.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David S, I've signed up about 10 times now and I have revieved no email. and i keeps sending me to a page that offers me a 20% off coupon to all his products, where is the video?

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@ John: I agree with you except for the fact that I believe they help people who don't look that great too they just never show it and I wonder why. If you saw a guy similar to who I describe from the very beginning and saw his progression and his change for the better, wouldn't you connect to that more than always seeing the coaches and stuff? Again I dont doubt that guys like us can get the girl I just have trouble believing it sometimes and I wonder why showing not so great looking people doesnt happen for all dating sites. They all know the target audience but never show the target audience, its always puzzled me.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@John, it's made for all guys, he just hasn't made a video showing an ugly guy get a hot woman.. that is why I challenge David to get a client with ptosis(like me) a woman that will really like him(big difference, I get dates with women yes, but I never had a woman adore me, I wanna see a woman adore a guy like me), that would be so inspiring.

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@ Tom: No no no you had to be signed up already as a subscriber to get the email from David Wygant himself that sent the link to the new video. Just signing up for this website wont allow you to see the video because he sent it to subscribers a couple days ago. I thought you were already a subscriber, thats my fault Im sorry about that. Maybe if you shoot David a quick email he could send you that video but yeah.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David S, I just sent David an email, hopefully he doesn't ignore it because I want to see the video.

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Tom: He's normally very good at responding to emails. I've sent a good amount and he's answered most of them. Hey why do you think most of dating sites don't show more (for lack of a better word) challenged people looks wise and how they grew in confidence and relationships because connecting to those people would be so much easier for people dont you think?

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Another problem I have with women, is that they are ungrateful... I use to literally throw myself at Maybell, I could offer her my dick and she would do anything with it. I mean come on.. I if I offer you something, or do something for you, why can't the favor be returned? just in alot of people's words, "Give up the pussy" to me. why do women put their bodies and vagina on a pedestal? then you guys have the audacity to say I have problems? hot conceited women are the ones with problems.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

*and She wouldn't do anything with it(I wrote "and she would do anything with it." lol I wish she would"

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Tony

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@John You should of took the rich guy on his offer thats super rare man Being 19 it would be awhile tell i can afford a bootcamp. I know you wanna keep your pride and whatnot but its rare and maybe pay him back or something

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@lang.... I'm not suicidal. What did I ever say to make you think that? Pissed, alone, a little depressed, yea, but not suicidal or anything.

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Bob

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John, I think you should take up the boot camp offer. What can it hurt? If you are serious about improving your self esteme, go for it. I also want to see if the "rich guy" is for real or full of shit. I would lean toward the latter... do it man!

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Ok I signed up for David Wygant's videos, and not for nothing, but I mean fuck, it's just all his old youtube videos.

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de la

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Tom here is some tough love dude. "I use to literally throw myself at Maybell, I could offer her my dick and she would do anything with it. I mean come on.. I if I offer you something, or do something for you, why can’t the favor be returned?" You should never throw yourself at a woman, because everyone likes a challenge. If you do that you have already lost because your basically showing all your cards and saying "you win, i'm in love with you, just take me princess I'm yours." Very unattractive. Have you ever heard of using push/pull to build attraction? You probably never used any push/pull, negs, lighthearted arrogance, or even disapproval to build Maybell's interest in you? Probably not, sounds like you would rather put her on a pedestal. Ultimately she should be equally as interested in coming to you and if not 'next' her. It's too bad you suffer from one of the worst cases of Oneitis I have ever read. You should be banned from talking about Maybell after your failed attempt to make contact after 10+ years. You need to forget about that bitch, who never gave you shit...ever...and get the fuck over her.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Bob, true lets see if Rich guy is real or not. @Rich Guy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMXsRArwlk0 (beatbox) uh huh uhuh, be be baby your a rich man! brrrraa be be baby your a rich man! Baby your rich, brlock bra bra cock!(beatbox)your a rich man!, I said how does it feellll! lol lol I grew up in the 80s, don't take offense to the song rich guy.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

As much as I said I love to fight, I have to admit as a kid, in the 80s, I didn't like to. I was good at fighting as a kid, very shy and it was very dangerous. I came out of a movie theater once, and was jumped, the pussies who were like 20 or something jumped me, I was 11 at the time, 1987, there were heroin needles on the floor and they stabbed me in the arm with it and took my bookbag. I remember my uncle panicking because I could've gotten aids or something, thank god I didn't. another traumatizing thing is that I caught my mother having sex with another guy(my father had passed away by that time). another thing was everyone was having sex during my teens and I wasn't because of aids scare. I was jealous though because everyone was having fun and I wasn't. ever had someone exclude you from something? that is the story of my life. I told this to my therapist today also that, it's like women tell me "every other guy could have this pussy, but not you", like when your a kid and your parents exclude you going somewhere with the older siblings, saying "you can't come" it's like I ruin things for everyone, maybe it is best if I stay away from people, people drive me crazy.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey John You know what I am going to do. Put on some really ugly makeup and have some hollywood make up person make me over so I am no longer good looking. Then I will go out and make a video and show you that looks have nothing to do with it. How does that sound?

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The Rich Guy

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey Bob I am totally serious with my offer. I emailed David today as well and told him that if John signs up to bill me for it. Like you us Southern guys are all about our words.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey David S LOve the idea see above. This is what I will do for you guys so you can see its all about attitude.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@rich guy,, hey, I really appreciate it, and I believe you are who you say. I told David I plan to attend a seminar next year, and I will. I'll start with a seminar (mini bootcamp) and go from there. But really, thanks.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@davidwygant,, I would like to see that video. Lol Of course you would have to be short / fat also. Don't know how you can pull that off. Lol. I would really just like to see a short / fat / ugly (or all three ) guy pick up a cute girl. We all saw the fat guy in the PUA vh1 show pickup women, but I think that was all scripted.

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john

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

I know you guys will all try and prove me wrong, but Denise's post, was enough evidence to convince me about what's important.

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Shogo (Coach)

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Really john? Even after me showing it, you still think that guys have to be rich/famous/successful/have a massive dick etc etc...whatever the explanation of the day is? Based on something some random commenter wrote, who we don't even know is real or not? again,i appreciate you calling me good looking ;) but lets be honest, I'm nothing that special...and I'm preeeety sure it had nothing to do with my degree....

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David thanks for the video man, and also I would love to see you get a makeover, is the make up artist that good? can they pull off a eddie murphy on you? lol

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David S.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@David Wygant: Yeah it still doesnt work if you are the guy doing the approaching. Although you may look ugly or whatever you will still have the confidence of David Wygant because you know that isnt really how you look and you've been approaching for years. It may help you remember how we feel but Im pretty sure you already do. I really want to see a real guy who has something really big they have to overcome with their looks and see how they develop from beginning to end. It will be extremely relatable and will show off your skills like crazy. Its a win win. We know you're great at what you do but dont only show your coaching of the Pittsburgh Steelers, show your coaching of the Cincinnati Bengals and you'll gain so much more respect and support around you.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

I have a question that spawned from David's video, where he said he gave the woman a smile. my question, how do you give a woman a smile? I swear I have never gave a woman a smile without looking like a rapist or something lol, how do I give a woman a good smile? because honestly it's hard, I don't want to come off weird, or show my messed up teeth(I have all my teeth lol, and I take care of them, they are just kind of yellow)

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

And also David, could the make up artist make it look as though you have ptosis?(like me) and can you act shy(like John and alot of other guys) and do it? just to prove guys like John can get women?

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Also, remember approaching is just the first part, I've had many successes and failures in approaching, but, that doesn't matter afterwards, that's just the beginning, because from experience, that first bill on a date you can't pay, you look like a fool, that first stutter, that first sight of imperfection and you get fucked. the approaching may go well, but later on, when she finds out the real you, the guy with no life, then you're gonna have to hit the bricks because after that, she won't want you. the approach is like giving a sample of yourself, once she finds the real you, then everything becomes... chaos. she won't want you, because when you approached her, you lead her on to believe that your this successful guy. I live in a shitty apartment, I have a great job yes, but the rest I live a boring life. I don't have the accessories to get women. and no my nissan doesn't count. I have nothing to talk about, and if I do(comic books) then it's something that doesn't interest women(comic books). and I can't tell women about my life of betrayal fighting, blood, tears, anger, sadness, it doesn't work. in order for me to get women, I need to be that guy with either alot of money, or alot of friends that I watch football with. just like you can't turn a hoe into a housewife, you can't turn a loser(me) into an alpha male. yes the loser can approach and get numbers, but after that, women make them hit the bricks, and I know that because I am one of those guys. now I am not making excuses saying don't try, what I am saying is that after I approach, I might as well hit the bricks because the rest won't work.

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KC

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John, dude, look what's important to ONE women isn't as important to the other 3 or so BILLION of them on the planet. There's no reason to take Denise's response and flip like that and label the rest of women the same way. Every single women out there is different and has a different list of priorities and expectations for her guy, some qualities, such as a sense of humor, or a great personality stand out. The way those come out is by living a rich lifestyle, and that I believe is what david tries to teach. I'd take Rich up on his offer, just to learn how to live this rich lifestyle. If you don't I certainly will lol jk, I'm a college student and would love to be able to afford a bootcamp to change myself around, but i've got to save up and wait, and as a wise man once said good things come to those willing to wait. Speaking of bootcamps David, are you coming back to Toronto next year? Now before you call me out on a rich lifestyle being all about money, let me put it out there that it isn't. You can be flat broke and still live a rich lifestyle. A rich lifestyle is living life FEELING like your worth a billion dollars. Find your passions, and pursue them with reckless abandon, get caught up in doing things that make you the happiest and don't let anything get you down. My dad is my living model of a rich lifestyle. He's not wealthy, but he does everything that makes him happy, and does things for other people to make them happy, and I've never seen him with a frown on his face. I'm not quite living the perfect rich lifestyle, getting better with women should be the last piece to it, but I know I will get there. I've taken pride in my passions, I've got a black belt in karate, I've jumped out of a plane, I plan on running with 4000 pound bulls, I have a great group of friends who I can have a good time with, I'm getting a great education, and I'm writing a novel. Take pride in things that your passionate about, get some optimism, and start cultivating that rich lifestyle.

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KC

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Oh and one last thing take time to improve on areas you aren't happy with, and realize they may take years to get them where you want them, and never be afraid to ask for help. Accept that and keep moving forward.

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Tim

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Hey Rich, not to sound greedy or anything but wanna pay for my bootcamp also? (:

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KC

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Tim, as soon as I saw the post with that in it, I was wondering how many guys including myself would ask that lol

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Collin

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Rich You live down South? You don't happen to live in Atlanta, do you?

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Joe A.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

"Let's exhaust eachother" hahaha. that's fuckin great.

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Joe A.

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@john Why do you think that you have EVERY woman figured out? The 1st comment was one woman writing one post. stop projecting your gd negativity onto every woman. you don't know everything about women. get over yourself.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

David S what do you think happens at bootcaMPS. I am with the Bengals and I turn them into the steelers. I do this everyday with guys. No one out there needs to feel that they can not turn this around. Have you looked at the testimonials from the guys on the bootcamp page? Regular guys that have turned it around.

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Mario C

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

EVERYBODY LISTEN!!!! Shogo had a phone conversation with a female and turned her on,LIKE A BOSS!!!. Now seriously a lot of you guys commenting are really over analyzing this and coming up with some ridiculous conclusions. He simply wanted to show you an example of a phone conversation with a female to help you understand. Some of you are blowing this way out of the Water with some dumb fucking comments.

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Maryanne

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

You guys are funny. A woman totally confesses in the first post and half of you miss it. Read it, you can learn just how sexual women are and how they want men to treat them.

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Tom

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

@Maryanne, a majority of women want men to whip their asses with $100 bills, come on, don't play a player, don't con the joker, we both know it's true. if there's a clone of the same guy, one of them is rich, one of them is poor, they are exactly the same except their wallet, your telling an artist that you wouldn't choose the rich one over the poor one? please. other example is, say some guy has a clone of the same personality, just one guy is attractive and one isn't. you know that you would pick the attractive guy, and leave the other guy down in the dumps. also... for materialistic women like Denise, why do you like to reject nice guys for their ego? it's like they want the guy to feel like your a goddess or something. like you want guys to cry and feel sad because they couldn't get you. stop putting yourself on a pedestal and give good guys a chance. assholes always win and nice guys always finish last sadly, if you can't beat them, join them, and that is exactly what I will do.

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The Rich Guy

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

John Let David know which one next year you will attend and the mini seminar is on me. But one promise. You open your mind a bit more and believe that change can happen.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

B.S.,, that was not a woman TOTALLY CONFESSING. That was a woman coming in here to tell guys like me what guys who got to be good looking and rich, and , well, Hung get,, in extreme detail. I haven't had a single, solitary date in 12 years, and most likely never will again, and I have to hear from a woman what she gives to a guy because he is rich (she talked mostly about his money), so she can rub it in my face. (ok, I didn't HAVE to read it, but it was the first damn post.) Confessing my ass, she came here to show me what those guys get, and I never will.

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John, did you not think to yourself once while reading Denise's post, "She's posting this intentionally to get attention by turning men on,"? Really? Not once? Not at all?

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Didn't turn me on,, made me realise what I can never have. It made me mad, honestly.

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Renee

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John, I have read your posts over the past month. Do looks matter of course, to say otherwise would be a lie. Funny though I don't respond to men who are exceptionally good looking. I look first for kindness and intellegence. I care most about how I will be treated. It is a major turn off to be with a man who is consummed with thoughts about his money or his looks. It means he won't have any time to think about me. It is a positive attitude and begining real that gets my attention first. A man who can carry on an intellegent conversation is a bonus. From reading your posts you would be a great date if you will just chill out and enjoy being you. Renee

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Eric

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Rich guy, You mentioned that you only had a high school education and managed to become a millionaire....can you go into more detail on how you did that? I'm just curious about your story. Most of my friends that are multimilionaires had way more natural advantages and a head start... I don't know anyone that had a high school education.

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Shogo (Coach)

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John--funny Obamacomment :) But honestly, the women I date are not looking at my degree and thinking dollar signs. They're not looking at me and thinking about being with me years and years down the road. Many women I go out with are lawyers themselves, and most of them are professional women with their own education who don't want or need me to support them, thank you very much. And most of them make more money than me... It doesn't bother me, so it doesn't bother them. If I let that fact bother me (the way it bothers you in your own life, John), any woman I date would be instantly turned off. Being comfortable with yourself is crucial.

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Shogo (Coach)

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Eric--yes, I passed the bar. Don't practice. All that paperwork makes me want to shoot myself in the face :) Got a full ride to law school so no loans and I have the opportunity to do something much more meaningful with my life. And if I ever did return to law, I'm not worrying about explaining the gap. I'll tell them exactly what I'm doing. If someone doesn't want to hire me for THAT, fuck em. Nobody I'd want to spend my time working for or hanging out with in the first place.

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Shogo (Coach)

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Tom: I am poor :)

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Eric (Original)

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Any one can get a date.... it's going ten notches above your league that would be the real feat. I'd have to echo David S's inquiry. We'd like to see with our own eyes an unattractive dweebish looking guy with no skills be able to go beyond expectations and land a model looking girl. Sure, you can certainly train the kid to maybe improve and get some dates.... but there are different levels of difficulty. The kid would probably land a girl close to his level of attractiveness. I can see where John's frustration is coming from when trying to talk about this topic....which almost no one will acknowledge the truth. There are certain qualities that are very attractive to women and Denise basically had multiple orgasms retelling her story about how rich that guy was and how big his dong was. If you are Bucky Larson in real life, the probability that you will land that dream girl that all the guys salivate over is a lot less. That's not to say that ugly guys with nothing going for them never get an incredibly attractive girl...just that the odds are stacked against them... and that's what I'm guessing John is going with. I don't know why many are so afraid to admit that the playing field isn't completely levlled and it's not a one size fits all formula for everyone...some will have their work cut out for them, while others will have a leg up. I'm not that into David wearing silly makeup....I'd rather see him train Bucky Larson into good enough shape to get Miranda Kerr. Now, that would be a feat. With that being said, John, I think you should take up the Rich guy's offer (if it's for real) now. Not next year. Now. Everything I've procrastinated with, I've regretted. I can't really tell from your thumbnail how "unattractive" you might think you are... but I don't think you should wait to start working on your love life. While, I don't wholly believe in that magic pill where some regular guy takes some bootcamp and is picking up supermodels left and right.... I do notice that genuinely being warmer to everyone and connected really does enhance your social life.

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Eric

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Any one can get a date…. it’s going ten notches above your league that would be the real feat. I’d have to echo David S’s inquiry. We’d like to see with our own eyes an unattractive dweebish looking guy with no skills be able to go beyond expectations and land a model looking girl. Sure, you can certainly train the kid to maybe improve and get some dates…. but there are different levels of difficulty. The kid would probably land a girl close to his level of attractiveness. I can see where John’s frustration is coming from when trying to talk about this topic….which almost no one will acknowledge the truth. There are certain qualities that are very attractive to women and Denise basically had multiple orgasms retelling her story about how rich that guy was and how big his dong was. If you are Bucky Larson in real life, the probability that you will land that dream girl that all the guys salivate over is a lot less. That’s not to say that ugly guys with nothing going for them never get an incredibly attractive girl…just that the odds are stacked against them… and that’s what I’m guessing John is going with. I don’t know why many are so afraid to admit that the playing field isn’t completely levelled and it’s not a one size fits all formula for everyone…some will have their work cut out for them, while others will have a leg up. I’m not that into David wearing silly makeup….I’d rather see him train Bucky Larson into good enough shape to get Miranda Kerr. Now, that would be a feat. With that being said, John, I think you should take up the Rich guy’s offer (if it’s for real) now. Not next year. Now. Everything I’ve procrastinated with, I’ve regretted. I can’t really tell from your thumbnail how “unattractive” you might think you are… but I don’t think you should wait to start working on your love life. While, I don’t wholly believe in that magic pill where some regular guy takes some bootcamp and is picking up supermodels left and right…. I do notice that genuinely being warmer to everyone and connected really does enhance your social life.

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Terry

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Great podcast! @DavidWygant I'd like also to give my opinion, concerning what David S. said and concerning your new long video. The video is really great! Really inspiring! And I think we need more of this! I think we need more videos of you (and you're coaches also) interact with people. I'm not sure if you realize the power it can have on our confidence, behavior, and energy level. I think what you're doing with the blog, your products and the member site is great! But I truly believe that the fastest and most profound way to learn, is through imitation of the masters (in that case YOU, and your coaches) It changes the person from the inside out, it's an unconscious learning process, and it's so easy. That's certainly why your bootcamps are (I can only imagine) so great . But for those who can't come to a bootcamp yet, or even those who've already taken one, I think videos of YOU would be amazing! Words are powerful but not as powerful as images. You analyzing approaches is great! Great to understand what's wrong, how to change it, etc... But I don't think it's even close to videos of you in the field. Like the one you did with the long video, but being able to see the whole interaction, to see how you comport yourself, how people respond to you. And I'm not only talking about seducing, I'm taking about how you interact with the world, how you have fun everywhere you go. You have the lifestyle I have the intention to have. I want to have fun everywhere, to be able to seduce the girls I like, have great conversations with anyone, feel confident and happy. And to learn all that with success (and for that matter everything) this is what I consider essential : -Believe that change is possible : you're already doing a good job at it, but the idea of David S., to see the evolution/transformation of a normal guy becoming successful with girls may be a great idea. -Understand how it works, how women think etc.. : I think all your work is covering that part amazingly. -Imitate the bests: you're doing a pretty good job here too, but like I said before, I think it can be way better! I believe this one is really important, if not the most. This is what will come up easily, when we're out, in similar situations. I know that seeing you in the field immediately improves my behavior for the day when I'm out; so I can only imagine the effects on my success, long-term, of videos of you and your coaches in different situations. -Have someone who follows and coaches you, or a great method to follow : you already know you and your coaches are great at it ;) So again, I'm just giving my opinion here, and I think what you're doing is already great! And thanks you for that! Now if you want to keep it evolving, here are some ideas. Anyway, can't wait to see more of you! =)

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Eric

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Shogo, I don't get it. Have you taken the bar yet... or did you practice and then decide to quit and become a date coach? Becoming a lawyer is fairly expensive... you'd probably have had to sink a hundred grand or more. What happens later if you decide to resume your law career...how would you explain the gap?

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Terry

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Like I just said, I think that particular video can be great. But guys... have you ever seen an amazing girl with a (really) ugly guy?? I've seen it, a lot of times, and in fact I'm friends with some... I'm not talking about superficial girls, I'm talking about girls with the "whole package". It's just that these guys are amazing, fun, and have qualities that those girls want in a man. There's nothing unbelievable about that for me now (even though it was before). And John, I agree with Eric on the bootcamp. You have an opportunity, don't dismiss it. And everything that you can find of that is telling you you can't do it now are just excuses. And if it's only about pride, you certainly can think of ways you could pay him back for that, now or later. Or you could just let go of your pride. Do what you want but remember, help always come at the right moment in life, just recognize when it's here for you.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@eric,, David's bootcamp schedule is FINISHED this year, as far as I know. I can pay for a bootcamp if I want to go to one. It's not a necessity right now.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@davidwygant,,, I was just thinking,, for your "david wygant - ugly guy" video,, why don't you just put on a Pittsburgh steelers jersey? INSTANT ASSHOLE! Everyone will hate you! :-D

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Kevin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John, If someone offered me to pay for my bootcamp, I'd take it in a split second!! Then say thank you and mail that person a x-mas card. Rich Guy is trying to get you to see things through his eyes since he's on the other side of the fence. If you reread Denise's post you'll find things like "Vacation Mode" Basically what happens in Fl, stays there! Look at the way she's describing everything thing...the "soft velvet curtains" Women are all about touching and feeling, How else would she know if they were soft if she didn't touch them? She described everything about the guy she was with and everything around her...All your hearing is Big House,tons of money,handsome guy getting his cock sucked. Take note of what she said "I have power over him" "I have the keys to his castle" Also note of all the monkey chatter that went through her head. "What will he think of me? will he judge me? ect... Then you came in and said All women want is $$$$. Take the bootcamp, get your head out of your ass and drop the ego. You can thank Rich Guy when your weekend is through.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@shogo,,, After you showed what??? If you don't think women care about your degree,, you're kidding yourself. I am positive your education comes up every time you meet a new female. And if you think they don't think.. "Law degree,,, cha - ching $$$" you're crazy. Someone posted earlier about the requirements that women put up on dating sites, 5'10" - 6'5" Bachelors degree Thin Handsome I don't fit ANY of that. Not even 1 thing. Just look at ANY dating site. It's almost like they copy / paste the requirements from a guide somewhere, about what is an acceptable man.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@kevin, For 1 , she met him in NY. So what if she was in a Vacation Mode. So what. The good looking, rich guy gets to FUCK any woman he wants, because he is good looking and rich. PERIOD. I don't get to touch a female for 12 years because I am not good looking and rich. She said in great detail what he gets to do to her, because he is rich, and I get nothing. And I'm sure she posted that story to get a reaction. But I don't doubt that the story is true. Women will let a good looking, rich guy do ANYTHING they want to them, but I get the NASTIEST look if I dare to even look at them. Goddamnit, now I'm getting pissed again. :-$

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@kevin,,, re-read it yourself. She went out with him a few times, and to a party. And she will do him again, because he is good looking, rich, and Hung. This wasn't a one time, vacation fling. And the guy probably has 20 other girls lined up on their fucking knees, because guys like that get anything they want, and I get NOTHING. And, you people who say that I would be a good date if I would "drop the attitude" (someone said that), think about it,, if I could GET a date, There wouldn't be a problem, and I would have nothing to complain about, would I? , lol.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

One word to you young guys... If your not getting dates, get it handled NOW. This stuff is easy when you are young, and can lose weight easy, and your skin is young looking, and you don't have a head full of grey like me. It's a lot easier to find young, cute,single girls when you are young, and people your age haven't gotten married yet. You don't want to end up a bitter lonely old man like me, with nothing left to look forward to but retirement, and growing old alone . Don't let it happen to you.

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

You may like this song, John: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YMh_aEhuIo But seriously, what good is it going to do you to get down because one woman liked having sex with a hung, rich guy? Earlier in the day you were walking around, having great interactions with people, being friendly, and having a great time. Keep that up, and you'll meet a ton of great people and probably get a date with some women. Sit at home thinking negative thoughts, and all you'll get is more negative thoughts. And all these "rules" that women supposedly have about what they want? They go out the door the second a woman likes you. I've dated a girl with a rule against dating any guy under 6' tall because she was 5'9. I've dated a girl who was four years older than me who refused to date guys who weren't at least two years older. You're a likable guy, John, but you'll never get ahead in life if you play by the rules you've been given. When you meet a woman, if you're know you're a fucking catch, she's going to like you. You won't click with every woman, but women have hot friends, and everybody likes a friendly person who can build them up.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John that's your fucking problem, you always let the superior man step all over you. just because they are superior, doesn't mean you have to keep your head down. if you're jealous, kick their ass, it will make you feel better. remember, do everything you can for confidence, and to protect your ego, that way you could get women more.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@collin,, I'm not sitting at home having negative thoughts. I'm at work having negative thoughts. (actually, I'm in louisville), I don't think that ONE woman likes having sex with Hung rich guys, I think ALL women like having sex with Hung rich guys. I think Denise speaks for the masses. I asked the cute girl in the recieving office here in Louisville, I said, "i'm in an argument with some friends about how important looks and money are to women." She told me "well, I think if I'm talking to two guys, and one is handsome and rich, and the other guy isn't, all other things equal, I would pick the rich guy. Why wouldn't I? " I asked her, "do you think most women would?". She said,, "I think all my friends would pick the rich guy if given a choice. Wouldn't everyone? " Just what she said.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John No offense, but by the way you think, I doubt you can approach/talk to women, that conversation was made up man.

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Yeah, "all other things equal." In real life, all things aren't equal. How do you not get that? All other things equal, if one guy had better eyebrows than the other, the girl would probably go with the guy who had better eyebrows. You THINK that women only care about looks and money, and you point to one woman saying something about fucking a rich guy, yet you ignore everything the other women say about preferring a guy who has other qualities. Drop your excuses, man. The longer you hang onto them, the longer you'll be miserable.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Collin it doesn't matter if your rich, because you could always lie to a woman and lead her on about being rich. in order for a guy like me to be satisfied, I must get all the jealousy and anger out of me, by leading a woman on, and wither fucking her and leave or just reject them. I give them a taste of their own medicine.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Ok, I'm going to act preemptively here. I already know what you guys are gonna say,,, "yeah,, but she said all other things EQUAL!,, things aren't equal. Don't forget personality!". Ok, let's just assume that the rich guy has a good personality, ok. I say, I have to agree with Christina. (although she is dating one of the guys on the dock here, and he is far from rich. So, I guess that would say that proves me wrong. But, not really. What iritates me is that for good looking, rich guys, it just comes so much easy.) On a side note, I'm trying really hard to ignore tom. He acts like he knows anything about me. I'm taking your advice, and trying to skip over his crazy posts. I wish there was a way to select ignore on his posts, so he can just be blocked out.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John "On a side note, I’m trying really hard to ignore tom. He acts like he knows anything about me." No I'm not, I'm just trying to give you advice. and you shouldn't be mad at me, I should be mad at you, but I already forgave you. I'm trying to be cool with you right now, don't be mean. but, IF I have done anything to offend you, I apologize.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Dammit Collin,, did you not see my preemptive strike above?,, lol. I already addressed that. I am just telling you guys what Christina said. (it's not a direct quote, but that is the jist of what she said.)

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

WTF,,, WHO let Obama into Cincinnati. I'm gonna be delayed going home now because of motorcaid, closures, etc. SOMEBODY COME GET HIM. ,,, lol.

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John, some things come easier for other people. It's ok. Maybe you won't date a Kate Upton look-alike by next week. That's ok. You can work on yourself. You can get better with women. You can improve your situation. You wanna talk about a natural disadvantage? I was 5'0 and 100 lbs. going into high school, but I wanted to play football. I got my ass kicked day in and day out that year trying to make up for the fact that the next smallest guy on the team outweighed me by 30 lbs, and most of the other 9th graders had at least 50 lbs. on me. I got hit so hard sometimes that I literally flew 5 yards before I hit the ground, but I got back up and kept at it. By the time sophomore year came around, not only had I put on 35 lbs. and grown 6 inches, but I was getting regular play time on JV. Sure I could have whined about not being built like a truck or not having a modicum of athletic ability, but instead, I put my blood sweat and tears into getting what I wanted. I got playing time, and I earned the respect of the coaches and players in the process because people respect a man who doesn't give up, even though he's getting his ass kicked from here to Sunday. Light a fire underneath your ass and go get what you want instead of coming up with reasons why doing it will be hard. I know you want to connect with and date awesome women, so go out there and do it. Sure you may get your ass kicked a few times, but you've got enough character to stand back up, brush the dirt off yourself, and keep on fighting for what you want. You're only destined to be alone if you admit defeat now. In the words of Commander Taggart in Galaxy Quest, "Never give up. Never surrender. Never admit defeat!"

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Ha,ha,, I love Galaxy Quest. Lol. Oh, BTW, that thing you posted yesterday about a RPG, and beating your boss,,, what???

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Not bosses in real life. Bosses in video games. I was talking about video games. I'm guessing you don't exactly play video games much?

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Shogo, How about this, stop mentioning your degree, and act as if you're poor. that's right tell a woman you are poor, can you do that approach/technique in dating or do you need your degree to get women? if you could do that for us, it would be inspiring, a work of art, if you could do that, I won't consider you Shoogy a PUA.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Shogo "@Tom: I am poor " don't insult my intelligence please, stop making excuses because everyone here knows your a lawyer, you make 10x the green I do, I would trade my life with yours in a second. just do the thing man, next time you approach a woman, don't mention your degree, and tell them that you are poor, I want to see their reactions.

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Tom, he isn't a practicing lawyer. But let's not pretend you're poor, either. Even if you're on the low end of what Best Buy managers make, you'd still be sitting pretty comfortably (assuming you're fairly responsible with your finances.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Collin, My bedroom and my living room combined would be 1 room. I save up my money with a responsible bank, they won't let me touch the money until I'm 40. I made that deal because it was smart. the originally deal was 30,000 bucks when my father died, but I decided when I got older to change it. I don't regret it either. if women don't want me because I lack $, then like jay z says "they could kiss my whole asshole" I'm sick of shallow people... what? is this dating advice only for rich dumb folks? what about the middle class(me) and poor? don't they matter too?

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

I used to live in a house up until a year ago, I lost it, also, how come when I lost some of my money, my dating life went down a little bit? don't tell me it's a coincidence...

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Of course it's not a coincidence. You lost confidence in yourself and didn't think you could satisfy a woman on a cheap date, so you channeled those feelings and insecurities into your dating life.

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Tom

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Collin 1999, I was 23 years old, Maybell had a date(which made me jealous, reason I went on this date) so I took this beautiful woman out, hoping I would get some pussy that I rightfully deserved. I took her to a pizza parlor, I was talking confidently flirting, and etc, but then she was bitching about how cheap the place was, but I kept my mouth shut, when I went to buy another slice, she was gone... she left because I took her to get pizza. so yes my insecurities KEEP me secure, I now know that I cannot take a woman on a cheap date again. if I'm going to date, I ask where they want to go. also, money does kind of matter, because many of times I couldn't pay for the food, and the woman I was dating had to pay, that killed my attraction. you can't get women without paying some dough, and if you have to have money to get a woman, then shit, that makes every single woman a prostitute. Tell me one hobo who constantly gets women? I bet you can't.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@shogo,,, I'm not comfortable with a woman making more than me? I said that? When the hell did I say that? I'm not poor. I'm not rich by ANY means. But I make around 65 - 70K / year. I'm not doing too bad. I could give a rats ass what a woman makes. Women are the ones who care about income.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@shogo,, ok, most of the women you are dating are lawyers. Well, there you go. I can't get women that you can. Women don't date down. Right? See, money is what matters. There, I won the argument. :)

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Tom, who says you have to go on dates that cost money if you don't have much? After bills, I spent the last several years with about $100-$200 for food and recreation each month. That includes dates. I've done coffee dates, concerts in the park, gone for ice cream and a walk, and made them dinner at my apartment, all at little to no cash outlay from myself or her. You can have fun, refreshing dates without having to spend money, Tom. And do you really think that anyone is going to be terribly excited to get asked on a date, only to be told, "Oops, I can't pay. You're gonna have to take care of this one,"?

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Collin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John, women don't like to FEEL like they're dating down. There's a huge difference. You know what though? I don't like feeling like I'm dating down either. When a girl dresses in holey jeans, a hoodie, and looks at me funny every time I use a word with more than two syllables, it doesn't matter how smart she is or what she does for a living. I'm turned off.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@obama,, thank you for coming to Cincinnati to BITCH about a bridge. 4 hours stuck in traffic now. Remember this next November!

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Kevin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John You seem to have an answer for everything as well as an exec..How bout this, Get off the site, lock yourself in your house and never look at another woman ever again, cause they ALL want the tall rich guy with the giant cock. right? So why bother anymore?

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Eric

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Yeah, I don't think women see dollar signs when they hear about a law degree. That's pretty standard here. :) Who doesn't have a law degree? And, yes women, at least here, do notice your educational background....and they do privately screen for it. Not even for the sake money....just what they can relate to and also what they respect. People that have a lot of education have certain experiences where they can relate to each other... plus, and I can only speak to the major cities like LA and New York... many have degrees themselves. However, many women have dated guys that don't have that. It has been known to happen. Shogo....did you ever practice at a firm...and just not like it. I know firm experience can be pretty grueling.

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José

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Hey Guys, I know somebody told it already, but can't find the blog, so am going to ask again... How do I place an avatar picture?!?!!?

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@kevin,, I COULD lock myself in the house if I could ever GET THERE!!!! DAMN OBAMA TRAFFIC JAM !!!!!

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José Colín

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@ Eric, you want to know about some guys that went rich from the scratch? Read about Henry Ford, or Thomas Alva Edison, really inspiring people! @John, nice avatar picture, it really captures your mindset!!!! I am begining to think you are just posting some drama to keep interesting the forum, and I really thank you because of that! :) @David, I really like the idea of the video of you disguised as an ugly person. By the way I loved the video you send with the survey, today I decided to do it, and had a great day! Thanks man!

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Kevin

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@John Ever read your own posts? "Damn Obama Traffic Jam" What does Obama have to do with a traffic jam? This post reads that you're blaming others for your problems. The president has nothing to do with traffic,Blame Obama for traffic then you need to blame to other 30 presidents that came before him when the automobile was invented.

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@kevin, HEY KEVIN!!! LISTEN CAREFULLY. YOU MIGHT LEARN SOMETHING HERE. LISTEN CLOSE,,, O B A M A,, YES,,, BARACK HUSSEIN OBAMA, THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, was in CINCINNATI today. Yes, check the news. he was. The T R A F F I C ,, J A M was due to the PRESIDENT'S MOTORCADE, you dumb stupid fuck. Yes Kevin, I mean you. You are a dumb stupid fuck. Do you really think I would post that for NO REASON,, really,, REALLY???

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

oh, and by the way KEVIN,, it was what was called a JOKE Kevin. People who knew the president was in Cincinnati today, would get it. It was all over the NATIONAL NEWS. He gave a NATIONAL TELEVISED SPEECH. If you wanted to know what I meant by the post, you could've asked Kevin. I would have been glad to explain it to you. Get a sense of Humor Kevin. Jeez...

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@jose' ,, welcome Jose'. No We've been having the argument over looks and money pertaining to women for a long time. I just don't swallow everything these guys say, hook, line and sinker. These guys have great advice if you want help coming out of your shell, and be more open to meeting people. You have come to the right place! To post an avitar,, go to www.gravatar.com, and sign up using the same email address you use here on the site. After you sign up, upload a picture, and it will appear on the blog. It's that simple. (I have a few different one's I rotate. Interndan was on me for an elephant man comment I made once, so I added the elephant man picture as a joke. I rotate it in every once in a while, depending on the topic.)

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Gargo

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@john @anyone... who thinks money, age or anything superficial affects your attractiveness to women... that's just shit... it's ATTITUDE i'm 52, earn $24k, lodge in a family house, drive a car valued by my insurance co @ $300... (which i don't park out of sight, because i don't give a shit and any woman worth getting to know is going to be more interested in where you go in it and the good time you have when you get there, than the pedigree of a fucking motorised tin box) i don't think i'm especially good looking. i don't have a huge dick either:) and last night for instance i had a great evening out with a funny, fascinating and very pretty girl, 5'9" with the loooongest legs, and 20 years younger than me it was just a few hours of conversation, sharing connections and having some fun together... which surely have to be the first most important things in any interaction (unless you're 14) (oh yeah, i do have a degree, but if you imagine you get a woman interested in you by mentioning that sort of crap, i think i see where you're going wrong:)

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@Gargo,, That's great that you are having success meeting women without money, and superficial stuff. I only base my opinions on what I experience, and my experience has been different than yours. I truthully think it is all about the looks. I have always believed that, and no one has ever been able to prove me wrong. But don't discount the effect money has. I am not saying you get no one without money, I am saying that it is impossible for a short, (I'm 5'7) kinda heavy (I just hit 190 lbs.) , old, (I'm 38), and ugly (I have really bad acne scars and damage.) guy to compete with the good looking, rich guys, because that is what women really want, even though most won't admit it. The Denise post really set me off. I get mad when things like that are put in my face.

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Denise

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

David, I see that some of the guys really think that this is all about money. Well let me share some more. I will post here and in yesterdays It was his looks that was my first attraction to this man, as we meet off the internet. I saw his profile, and i myself am very visual. i even enjoy porn as a women. :) and get off from it ! I did not know anything about this man, he could have been broke, and had a 2 inch penis. As , i got to know him, and what really attracted me to him, is when he did ask me out on dates, and our first kiss. He always went out on the date with a " winning attitude " . He always sent text messages, with subliminal sexual messages. Before the date, " like Hey sexy " see you later... or " let me book a romantic place in Soho for us " . He took control of the date, and tried to show me a good time. He built sexual tension. He showed sincere interest in me. He is all class, and positive. He plans the date, He picks you up, he holds the door open, he is polite, he dresses great, he also dresses for the woman he is looking to attract !!!! ... Classy and cool. He looks at you when he talks to you, and he exchanges conversation equally. Sometimes, he asks to many questions, about relationships . He is not funny. Maybe i am not looking for a comic . He does not have really fast quick witted like myself. Who cares, i dont need the man to posses the same qualities as i already posses. !! I need the man to make me feel like a " woman " . And in return , i make him feel like a man. He got that sexual night, because of how he made me feel. Not his " NET WORTH STATEMENT " !! I happen to attract and go out with very wealthy men, and shut many of them down sexually. Trust me guys, If his attitude sucked, and he was rude and mean, and went out on dates like " debbie downer " .... That magic in the bedroom would not have taken place. I would never have gotten " wet " ... Men, listen.... up.... When a women gets really wet ! There is only one way that can happen. The answer is " "MENTAL" , Not by him putting his American Express " Black Card " between my legs. Denise.

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Gargo

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@john... i do hear what you're saying... but 38 old!!? fuck, i'm 14 years older than you and i sure ain't old and i wasn't writing that to impress with how good i am with women... sometimes i can be seriously shit... it was just to make a point for which i can speak with honesty and experience i had the most fucking awful acne as a teenager causing really low self esteem, assumed no girls would be interested so didn't really try. over the tears i found out that several of the girls in my crowd would have loved it if i'd asked them out... life is full of missed opportunities mate one of my old pals is in his mid 40s, 5'6" tall and about the same wide, not particularly good looking, earns less than $30k... and he has a different woman over just about every weekend - really it's really, really not about looks per se it can be about how you present yourself... hairstyle, grooming, clothes etc i think that if you're not confident about how you perceive yourself, you can tend to avoid wearing stuff that you think is only for 'the super-good-looking-guys' and believe people would think you look stoopid wearing it yourself so you just wear indifferent stuff, presenting yourself in a way that basically isn't attractive... and so not attracting women and thus ensuring the self fulfilling prophecy is fulfilled i read this blog from time to time related to my work, and you're obviously a thoughtful, intelligent guy... which in my experience are two of the main attributes that women find attractive you gotta do something about your self esteem - it's not impossible, it's what i help people do as part of my job ... getting into shape helps that too, and while david does this for a buck... what he says is pretty much how it is and denise... well, i've known a lot of great women one way or another over the years, friends or more, and not one of them would put money before the person

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Gargo

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

that should have said 'over the YEARS'!:)

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john

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@gargo,, 38 is considered "over the hill" here in Cincinnati, and the Midwest. I am seriously the only SINGLE person I know. What people call low self esteem, I call being realistic. I am going to post a mindset question on the next blog, after someone answers my "technical" question. Maybe you can help. Keep an eye out for it. (I don't want to clutter the thread with too many questions at once.)

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Gargo

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

@john... 38 in cincatti is not going to be any different from 38 anywhere else... i thought i'd covered just about every excuse you've made... damn, missed that one but if you are the only single person you know, then that might explain why you can't find a girlfriend:) you clearly need to get out more enough

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Charlie

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

John you are so fucking pathetic it's unbelievable. I thought I had a bad mindset but holy shit....listening to your mopey ass bitch and moan is just plain entertaining. you're pathetic john. Im shorter than you, make waaaay less money than you, and I'm probably uglier than you too. And I live in a valley town pop 15,000, and I still took home my waitress from chilis last night!

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E

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Hmmmm. A lot of internet cassanovas here. Especially where we can't verify the veracity of these stories and the stories don't even sound that impressive. "I'm 3 foot 3, make 2 dollars, drive a tin can and the honeys can't get off my jock, yo!" Yeah, right. And that guy that Denise was with...if he was so impressive, what's he doing putting an ad on the internet? John, isn't David Wygant like mid 40s or something like that? And he landed a wife.

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David Wygant

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

E Mid 40s and I landed a wife. Hilarious! My friends grandmother landed a Husband again at 75. Age has nothing to do with anything as you know. Anyone can find anyone at any age!

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E

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Well, David, the thing is your energy is a lot younger than some of the bloggers on here who are younger than you. You created a pretty nice lifestyle that I'm sure was attractive to your wife. I still think that your prospects narrow a bit as you get older.... A 55 year old guy will look silly trying to mack on the 20 something girls at the club, unless he has something cool going for him like major status. By the way, is 38 years old considered old in the dating market? I have a lot of colleagues that are nearing that age and seem to be doing pretty well.

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Kevin

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

John, I don't have time to watch the news and don't keep tabs on where Obama is going in the country, I have other shit to deal with and it doesn't include you telling me to go fuck myself.Go fuck yourself instead. No wonder your miserable, no one wants to be with you cause your attitude is shit. Hurry up and leave, No one will notice your gone.

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@kevin,, C'mon man,, you were trying to start shit. You read where I posted about the president clogging up traffic, and shogo even responded back. I explained the Obama comment up at 10:21 am. You said "do I even read my posts", well maybe YOU should read my posts before you accuse me of saying stuff I didn't. Thinkin I just blame the president for random traffic,, C'mon man, you can't be that dumb.

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@davidwygant,, what I'm saying is people marry very young here. Ask 162,,, she's (i think 162 is female??) From the area. She'll tell you.

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@all of you,, "you're fucking pathetic", "your mindset is shit", "no one wants to be with you cause your attitude is shit" Lmfao,, you guys have me cracking up. You know what I find REALLY funny?? Being judged by people who haven't even MET me. Hahaha. Do any of you think your opinion of me matters at all?

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Shogo (Coach)

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@Kevin, well said. @john: the way you live your life really is a mirror. start judging people and you will get judgment back at you

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Shogo (Coach)

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@john: very true, me too. I judge people and am judged by people every day. On the blog and off. But you don't see me whining about it. I'm not here to coddle you. I'm helping you build up some thicker skin.

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Kevin

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

Well John you seem to judge women you haven't even met yet, Come'on now, you can't be that dumb!

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Tom

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@John = Virgin, stop crying and just approach women, it's not hard.

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Gargo

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@E why do you find it so hard to believe that older guys can get together with women? as david said - hilarious - some kind of mid life crisis you having there dude? i'm over 50, single for a few weeks, never even crosses my mind that i might not get together with another interesting woman most guys are not wealthy, not 20, not hollywood material, but most are in relationships... it's actually a pretty normal thing your post was just contradictory... on the one hand you implied that i was inventing stuff to impress... and then said that it wasn't very impressive if i was trying to impress, hey, maybe i'd have told you about the night of wild sex with her, her twin sister and a vat of custard? and um... remind me... what possible purpose would bigging myself up to a group of people who don't even know who i am have? it's not my real name and i don't even have a picture up. i simply wrote the post in an attempt to reiterate that some of you guys just have a really flawed mindset...

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

No I don't Kevin,, I'm talking generally. And women judge us before they meet us too. Why you starting shit anyway? I thought you were one of the cooler guys here. @tom, you're a fucking idiot. Like you know anything about me. I've had women you can only dream of you little joker wannabee bitch.

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

@shogo,, you too shogo. What do you know about how I live my life? What are you gonna do now, call me a non-bearded penis in a ballcap?

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

I'm P.O. 'd now,, shogo. I go on todays blog, talk up your site, give props for great advice, talk about a girl I just met in a random aisle in Walmart, (who just happened to be married) , and give you guys props for helping me get the confidence to approach her. ,, and you go on the attack? Gee,, thanks.

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john

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

I'm not whining about anything. Kevin was screwing with me, so I screwed with him back. Did you not see where I said these people's opinions don't matter to me?

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Eric

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Nope Cargo, Not contradictory at all. Just kind of chuckled at a couple of internet cassanovas on here bragging about their stories. No, I didn't find them impressive. It's not contradictory because it might have sounded impressive to you...doesn't mean it sounds impressive to anyone else. Getting a girl is not a big deal. Your post and that other guy bragging about picking up a waitress from Chili's just came off badly....they sound pretty condescending to John.... like you've really made it now and are talking down to him. It's really insensitive to guys like him, who may feel like they're struggling and are just looking for guidance from gurus like Dave, not an unverfified internet Don Juan. I'd hardly think that when John was just pouring his heart out, saying that oh you made less money and are doing way better than him, actually makes him feel better. Think about it? Maybe, you're just completely unaware of how you came off. And you're totally misquoting and taking David's quote and mine out of context. John had mentioned that he was 38 and I pointed out that David was slightly older and was doing great...

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Scott

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

How do you know that Denise and her story is even real? It could all be a fable. @Tom "it’s like women tell me 'every other guy could have this pussy, but not you'" That is what I feel, an it bothers me.

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john

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Hey guys,, 38 is old to be alone. I don't care what you guys say. It isn't easy to find attractive single women above high school, or college age, unless you find morbidly obese or homely women attractive. And don't even start with , "look, john's trying to land a supermodel" bullshit. There is a wide gap between morbidly obese, and supermodel. And the guy bragging about taking home his chili's waitress. ,, BULLSHIT. Also, I don't even pay any attention to guys like that calling me fucking pathetic, and stuff like that. He's just another keyboard tough guy. Meet me at the next bootcamp or seminar I get to attend and call me pathetic to my face. I dare ya. (sidenote, if I was living in a place like LA where single women are a dime a dozen, I would be doing pretty good too.)

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john

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Can we move on from this thread anyway. I'll tell y'all what... I'll take back the shit I said about the money, ok. But it is still mostly about the looks. I'll stand by that.

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Gargo

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

@E/Eric thanks dude, you're making a few days laid up sick so much more bearable... first, if you're hoping for credibility when you accuse people of bullshitting to impress on a blog about dating, (by mentioning that they went on a date in fact... then you probably don't want to be making comments like: "Most of my friends that are multimilionaires..." Woot:) -------------------------------------- but seriously... you're really not paying attention it was me who wrote the comment you parodied (“I’m 3 foot 3, make 2 dollars" etc), which was about a mate, not me... and was quite clearly indicating that you can get a girlfriend regardless of possessions or looks... the latter which john consistently refuses to accept... whether it comes from david, his team or anyone else posting and as all i said i'd done myself on this occasion was had "just a few hours of conversation, sharing connections and having some fun together…" then i'm hardly likely to be impressed myself as i've mentioned a while back, workwise i now help a group of young people who have quite serious social difficulties i get them to check out davids stuff, which is excellent from a general social skills point of view (as opposed to cunning ploys to um... land women) i look in here from time to time to get an idea of what they're reading so we can discuss any issues in an informed manner. ---------------------------------------- you also wrote "isn’t David Wygant like mid 40s or something like that? And he landed a wife." i may be wrong, (it happened once), but i suspect david's comment: "Mid 40s and I landed a wife. Hilarious!" may just have been a little bit ironic (irony - it's like goldy or silvery, only made out of iron) LANDED!!?... "yeah dude, she put up a hell of a fight, but i got her in the net eventually" even tho' HE'S IN HIS MID 40s??!... bet he needed some help up the aisle... you then carried on digging the hole with: "You created a pretty nice lifestyle that I’m sure was attractive to your wife" eric, you sure know how to make a guy feel good about himself... even tho' david's so old, his wealth, house, car, still helped him land a wife you're not getting this at all, are you? (rhetorical question)

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john

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

@gargo,, first of all,, I said I'd take back what I said about the money. As far as accepting that it's not all about the looks,, I'll accept it when someone proves it to me. Just saying "im ugly and I got a hot girl", on a blog doesn't prove shit to me. When I see a short, fat, ugly guy get a really cute girl, (not a fat / nasty / hairy girl like most ugly guys settle for), then I'll accept it. I haven't seen it happen yet.

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Gargo

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

@john i did say... "regardless of possessions or looks… the LATTER which john consistently refuses to accept…" i can't prove it... but also i can't think of any reason why you think i'd waste my time to bullshit about something like this... the guy i mentioned is around 5'6", overweight, no oil painting as i said... he finds women online and plays a numbers game... none of them are exactly 'hot chicks', but all of them are at least pleasant enough looking and are fun people... he enjoys his life i can tell you he is quite witty, dirty talks a lot, obviously must just say the right things. he does have some issues about how he looks, but he puts on a happy go lucky front anyway, i've had enough of laying around, so i'm loading up with painkillers and i'm out john, i wish you all the best

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Eric

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Cargo, You're advising a group of kids? God help us all. Man, you are all over the map and like to twist arguments and bring stuff out of the blue to make your argument. Re-read your post to John.... you act like a total know it all and you're not. So dam condescending. My gut feeling is that you're not doing any better than John yet there you were bragging about an evening with a girl. Wow. Amazing. Dude. And stop trying to hide behind David to make your argument. It's pretty clear that I mentioned that David was close to John's age and managed to do well as an example since he brought up being 38. Yet, you want to pretend that I somehow slammed him. Look how hard you strained to make an argument out of that.... I respect David's accomplishments, not internet cassanovas who shouldn't be dispensing advice. You claimed that you were trying to pep John up...how's that going? In his response to you, he was like uh glad you're having all this success...lol. Where's your e book, Cargo....?

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john

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

@gargo,, ok, I missed the "latter" part. ,,my bad.

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Gargo

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

@john hey no problem... and i sincerely hope that you recognise that in my (obviously clumsy:) way, i was just trying to encourage you to see that everyone is right and your belief that your looks or age, preclude you from attracting a woman is way out...

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Gargo

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

hey @eric bit of a feeling of deja vu going on here... or maybe it's just that you've said most of that already (and i really hope you appreciate i just interupted a 6-in-a-bed session with a troupe of russian burlesque dancers to write this) you know i'd have thought that it must be pretty tricky working, or having worked in law... espcially when you, quote "can only speak to the major cities like LA and New York… " yet seem to have such a problem in developing an intelligent, cohesive argument... not to mention reading - (comprehending!) - the small print. but it's those contradictions that still bother me most... you claim to admire davids work... yet suggest that i'm unprofessional in my own work with young people (not kids)... when i said that i encourage them to look at his material to help their social/relationship skills... yeah... tricky ps... exactly how many multimillionaires do you actually know? i only know one and he's a mate's brother, but i did meet him once, so can i count him as a half? fuck, please say yes... that would so help me to impress women... not to mention everyone else on the blog...

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Eric

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Cargo, I don't think you should be criticizing anyone on reading comprehension or putting together coherent sentences, considering those long rambling posts above. You seemed to have latched onto your pet multi-millionaires argument like you're onto something. It's obvious that you're just straining to make an argument now. You're grasping at straws. And, what young people are listening to you? Yikes. The fact is you came on here like some know it all internet cassanova and you have no business advising anyone.

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Maryanne

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

Heres what I feel about internet casanovas. They usually suck in bed. Hee hee hee

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john

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

I'm great in bed. Only problem is, I was by myself. :(

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