Do You Suffer From To Good To Be True Syndrome?

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By David Wygant September 15, 2010 275 Shares

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No words can describe what I am going to share with you on todays podcast.

Everyone I know suffers from a very curable disease called To Good To Be True Syndrome!

You will not find the cure while watching TV.

You will not find the cure in any magazine.

Your friends are powerless to help you.

Your parents have no clue but they are the first people who actually transmitted this powerful disease to you.

Are you intrigued?

If so, click and listen this podcast, it is a must for all men and women who read this blog.

One last thing be a good friend and pass this onto anyone you care about!

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About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Danny M

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

I used to suffer from this as well... I learned from it though... In June, when I was looking for an apartment, I sat out to pay only $500/month and have an AMAZING place with a GREAT roommate and I knew it'd come at the right time for me. Everyone, including my closest friends, thought I was nuts... We all know what $500 for a room gets you in LA. I started looking around and they were beginning to prove they were right. But I kept on, feeling GOOD about it and completely trusting that it WILL happen, in the perfect city, at my price and that everything, EVERYTHING will be perfect! And guess what.... IT DID! My place is a gorgeous condo in Bixby Knolls, have a terrific roommate, a great swimming pool with a BBQ area, deck, friendly neighbors, easy parking, etc etc etc! All because I put out that vibration... I didn't doubt it for a second and wasn't all "weirded" out when I saw my place for $500 and ask "Wait... this is TOO perfect... Too good to be true here". I knew it was what I wanted! I think people that suffer from this are the ones who have NO idea what they want. So anything will do. And when they are smacked in the face with a fantastic opportunity, they hesitate because they have NO clue on what they originally want! Think about it... Danny

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Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

i decided to listen to this podcast today because i recently met the person ive been looking for ever since i started dating. he asked me to be his girlfriend. i thought him liking me back was too good to be true. we talk & meet up on his terms. maybe i was right.

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Wolfie

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

You know, David, this is so true about the Monkey Chatter! When some things are fantastic we do go on a scavenger hunt trying to find what is wrong with a person instead of seeing the great things about them. If they are showing the signs of interest in the beginning, I think it is only fair to explore in seeing where it will go. This isn't wasting time.... it's learning about learning to trust that raw gut instinct we have through the centuries detached from. To good to be true equals self fulling prophecy ... "I am not worthy of the greater things in life." Recently I started to causally see this guy. It's the beginning of the beginning of seeing how much we are interested or not in one another. We have only seen one another a couple of times in 3 weeks and cell phone each other daily a couple of times or every 2nd to 3rd day depending on our work schedules. Although I'd like to see him once a week, we do have a busy schedule with work and our own personal goals.... therefore, we are not rushing things, which I rather like, and we arrange to meet-up when we can. I know the first time every meeting this guy, I've said to myself... this guy is to true to believe! There must be something wrong with him... maybe he is commitment phobia, maybe he is a player, maybe he is not all that interested in something further than the causal meet-up, maybe he really doesn't think about me or miss me?..... on and on and on !!!! Then I caught myself, thinking.... why does this need to rush? I let him know I am interested in him, we both know and like the fact we are free spirits in heart, we don't control one another, we know each has busy lives, we laugh all the time and have fun when we are together.... SO RELAX, Wolfie! Go with my gut feelings of liking the guy and believe too what he says is face value that he thinks of me and looks forward to seeing me when we can. Life is about exploring, so I am exploring the waters... focusing on the good things about him and how he is with me when we are together and between those times. As time goes on, I'll see if there is or not a potential relationship to be sparked up between us. I won't find this out if I cut it off at the first "OMG... this guy is to good to be true or holy he doesn't seem to be living up to my own expectations which pretty much screams we are seeking out that perfect man ... hence why we look for flaws to see how perfect he really is. Really! Not fair at all to the other person. We are far from perfect ourselves. Like I said, I'd rather have fun exploring the "To good to be true"... drop the looking for flaws due to seeking out a perfect male. I totally agree with David on this one! Explore, go with that gut feeling... but have fun doing it without blinders on; or later on look down the road risking the possibility of regretting that you didn't explore what could have been truly there. What is the worst thing that could happen if my exploration doesn't pan out as I desire it to pan out? I learn a few lessons about dating and I've learned to trust that deep down raw instinct more / LOL / So, its a win-win situation either way... captured his heart or didn't =) Wolfie

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JoAnn

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

David - You rock! You always having interesting pod casts, emails etc... You're doing an outstanding job helping people. I'm so happy I came across your site. -joann, CT

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Mary Beth

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

Very good podcast. Someone I have been friends with for years -- escalated to friends with benefits. We honestly discussed our wants and needs. We see we are not the right fit for the long term. It felt so good to trust him to be honest and now we can be friends. It is a weight off my shoulder and I feel good that I am giving him what he needs and wants as well as me moving forward and freeing the space to one day have my soulmate attracted to me and me attracted to a future man.

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Mary Beth

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

My point being it is not too good to be true -- when you are honest with each other -- you can see the positive and be at a place that is mutually satisfying and happy.

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anonymous

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

Thanks for the podcast of the day.

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Clint

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

Mary Beth- I agree that its important to be honest with each other. I am curious were you ever dishonest in a relationship?

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Clint

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

And please be honest. I would like a woman's take on dishonesty.

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Mary Beth

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

Was I EVER in my entire dating history dishonest? Yes, in the past I made that mistake. Now, my memory is not good enough to be dishonest. Really though -- I enjoy positive times with others and cannot see the point in lying. I tell it like it is. I want a real relationship some day and the only way to establish this is one based on trust and honesty.

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Kevin

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

As far as great deals go...There is always a return, So if that car or person that was "too good to be true" there is always a refund option. But at least I'm not kicking myself in the arse cause I didn't grab something I wanted. I need closure weather I see a hot girl I wanna get to know or weather or not I'm buying something for myself,don't like it? return it or dismiss that certian someone,but at least you will know!

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Wolfie

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

True Kevin =) Like me exploring what is under the hood of Mr. Super Nice & Sweet, but accepting that what I see so far is what it is... and if something goes to the way-side later on... that is ok. At least I got to test drive it / LOL ;)

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Wolfie

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

... and with no regrets! And if it continues to be a great drive... again no regrets of not exploring that avenue with that person :)

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JamesM

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

Great podcast, very thought provoking. Personally my experiences have taught me to trust my gut feeling over my logic in many situations. If my gut tells me to go for it then I do, if my gut tells me it seems fishy then I consider that a doubt. And as they say: If there is a doubt, then there is no doubt. Thank you Dave, please keep up the good work. -JamesM

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jamie

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

i recently found the woman who is perfect for me. things went great for a week or two. she mentions to me that will find the flaws in me. she and i were in horrible relationships prior to us being introduced to each other. its funny, because i was thinking this same thing about her line of thinking just before i found this website.

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Thursday, September 16th, 2010

Great Podcast :)

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Collin LA

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

I've been using this online dating site (off and on) for over a year now. I only recently started dedicating the time to reach out and contact matches, update my photos, and re-work my profile. I got my first date out of it two weeks ago, and I think the woman is very sweet but not a true match. Anyway, I was contacted by this girl who liked my sky diving photo! Her photos looked great, she seemed interested in me, and kept up the conversation as messages went back and forth. I thought to myself, too good to be true! So we used the instant message feature, exchanged numbers, and have been texting back and forth now...a date set-up for the weekend. I keep thinking, attractive and outgoing girl who immediately shares interests with me and thinks I'm cute. Too Good To Be True...coincidentally that's when I read David's article on the huffingtonpost.com. Now I'm going into this with confidence that this is just what I deserve.

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Farley

Monday, October 4th, 2010

I have been in situations with the opposite sex where things were going perfect. Somehow the monkey chatter began:"Wait, this is too good to be true, something must be wrong here". And yes, soon after, I screwed up because I payed attention to mister monkey. If something works then it works. If I ask a girl out to come and join me on a thing I am going to do an she agrees, then so be it. No time to go and think:" This is too good to be true, she only agrees to go out because she wants to be polite". Thinking that way will attract it towards me.

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Tony N

Sunday, October 31st, 2010

My personal "too good to be true" syndrome when it comes to women isn't usually because she's too amazing and i'm trying to find fault. It's usually "She's too amazing. How could she really be interested in me? She's gotta have options. There's no way she really likes me like that. She probably already put me in the friend zone and I don't realize it." And with that I mentality, I back off and mess things up for myself

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