Does this sound familiar?

You’re in a relationship, but you don’t really want to be in a relationship, so you’re constantly going out with friends (or telling your significant other that you’re going out with friends). But what you’re really doing is secretly making yourself available so you can look for something better, look for a replacement for the man or woman that you’re with.

Have you ever been on a date that’s not going really well, but you see someone else you’re attracted to sitting by the bar? So you sneak away—just for a second—to go flirt with the person at the bar so maybe that can be your next date…

We’ve all done this from time to time. We’ve all performed the “sneak around.” Whether we cheated on our significant other, we were out on a date and secretly talked to someone else we were attracted to, or just plain and simple we did not want to be in the relationship and avoided our partner instead of confronting the issue.

The Cheatanator

Isn’t it amazing how many things we do instead of just being honest? You realize what a waste of time the “sneak around” is. You’re in a bad relationship, yet you’re sneaking around hoping any issues will miraculously be solved. You don’t have the balls to get out of the relationship, so you spend all this time and effort lying, sneaking around, daydreaming about living a different lifestyle and not living your own life freely and openly, and not living your life so you are truly enjoying yourself.

Think about all those things that you do in life in order to avoid hurting your partner, even if you don’t want to be with them anymore. But in reality, you’re going to end up hurting them in the long run by sneaking around and prolonging the inevitable, and not being open and honest with them. And in the end, you’re not facing your own issues head-on, and you’re actually really hurting yourself.