Do You Have Style?

This is pretty simple: grab a chic of the age you want to attract. Take her for a coffee. Put her at ease. And go shopping with her. Be playful and you'll get the best and honest response from her. If anything, ask the women in the store. They are there to help you. Easy.

That's a great idea, Slava. A lot of people like the way I dress, and many ask my opinion. I still shop with/for two of my ex's. I also shop with two of the men I work with. When we pick out clothes, I want to know the type of women they are trying to attract and couple that with their personality. On a related subject, scent is very important. I've gone out with too many men who wear WAY too much cologne. If you wear any, it should be very subtle. It's the same with women and perfume. The way I think about it, a scent should be something we discover when we get physically close to one another. Personally, I prefer my men to not wear any. Basic soap and deoderant is perfect. When we cuddle up and get close, I want to smell HIM.

"When we cuddle up and get close, I want to smell HIM" Theresa, I like it :-) What about the sweat? Does not matter to you?? Or in this case you were thinking about taking a shower together and then have a cuddle session..lol

Generally, deoderant takes care of offensive body odor. If a guy showers before we get together, even if we do something that makes him warm enough to sweat, it won't be smelly. Shower together? Sounds great. You're full of great ideas today.

Theresa, Intereresting about the smell of a man... I'm big on been clean, a cultural thing, when you are from an island. I recalled someone I dated. I love to exercise. I remember she told me once she wanted me sweaty, as in stop over her place after exercising, but w/o showering. It was against my normal way of doing things but I figured, give the lady what the lady wants. I'm glad I did. :) I'm the same way about women, if I'm nearby someone I'm attracted to, I give her the smell test. I need to like how a woman smells. Yummy.

Hey David that blonde showed she was totally into you when you said the Zorro joke....the way she laughed slightly louder and suggestively than normal! Nice one...

I really like the woman talking in this video and how she points out that it is the mans mind that is attractive. I don't care if a man has on the best clothes, shoes hair is in place...if he has no way of stimulating me on an intellectual level..chances are...chances aren't NOW, a genuis stinky hobo off the street I will help with a few bucks...but that is as far as that one is going. I love it when a man will walk by and I get a faint whiff of a good cologne. That sends me into a zone of the scentses...I love smell...good smell. I am such an olfactory individual, when I get out of my bath or shower every evening, it is habit for me to spritz maybe some Victoria Secret "Sexy for Her," or "Rapture" on, because I love the faint scent when I go to sleep. I have this "Egyptian Cotton" linen spray for my bed that is divine!! Smell is something I notice instantly. I think that is just because I can smell so well, if the neighbor has gas...I will catch wind of it! LOL I am almost serious there really. Style hmmmm...what is style? I think every person has a totally different look that is going to enhance their features from eye color to body shape and size. I never really thought too much about if what i was buying was the "in style thing" to wear...I have just always bought what i feel comfortable and cute in. I had a teacher tell me last semester that she loved the way I came into class every day looking so put together. She is a beautiful woman, head of the whole technology department for the college and dresses adorably all the time. I felt so very humbled, yet proud for her to tell me something like that. I was talking with a girl in class one day about how insecure i was feeling about standing up and reading my poetry. She told me the first time she ever saw me walk into class, she thought in her head she wished she could carry off such garace and confidence in herself as she saw in me. WHAT???????????? Yes, dear Lord I had tears running down my face to hear that. She asked if I might shop with her sometime just to give her some ideas. We did go the next weekend, had a blast and she was a brand new young lady Tuesday night in class, so it is amazing what clothes can do as far as boosting your confidence level and showing yourself presentable to people. This being a fact, so in is the fact that what is in the packaging, should be of kindness, honesty, reality of who you are, and a caring for others in general. I just don't mesh well with people who are so self absorbed they miss the important things in life.....other people! I am not a snob to them, but I do not go out of my way to pursue a friendship either. Have a great evening everybody...I am on my way out. ;)

I agree with Theresa about smell. You shouldn't smell somone until you are close to them. I am a little biased because I have bad allergies and some smells with stuff me up, some will even trigger a full-on migrane. So when I have a boyfriend, I often encourage him to wear -- or buy him -- a scent that doesn't set off my allergies. I also usually end up dressingmy men. A lot of guys around here (South Dakota) have some crazy idea that if they pay attention to the way they look people will think they are gay. And a lot of those same guys are scared to death that a gay guy wll hit on them. Like more afraid of that than they are of drunk drivers or loaded guns. Which is crazy cause -- as I have learned -- all you have to say is, "No, thank you." I also agree that if a man isn't stimulting to talk to it doesn't really matter how good he smells or dresses. Which brings up another unfortunate regional problem -- the guys around here who can dress have like no brainpower. It's like they traded it for thier nice clothes.

Oh those style videos are fun to watch D. mask of Zorro.....lol

Theresa :) You rock on shopping with men. I love to go shopping with a woman. Cologne or none... is a matter of taste, clearly! For me... I love when someone walking by or the girl I'm dancing with has a wonderful feminine scent about her. Yea, I also like her own scent... it just doens't reach as far, and I want to be attracted to the way she smells even when we're not cuddled up :)

I *love* taking guys shopping to help them dress better. Because it means that I get to enjoy shopping, without overflowing my closet.

David, To go along with this blog I'd like to share a wonderful book that my dear friend, David, wrote called, "Grooming Secrets for Men", by David Scott Bartky. It's a must read for the every man. Style is important, but one loose nose hair can ruin the whole look. If your fingernails are longer then mine (which are nice and medium length), or if they are virtual stubs that is cause for thinking. Slava, one of my favorite things I loved about my ex smelling him when he was sweaty from doing some hard labor of some sort. It definitely is one of the animal instinct things that I believe I have. I'd buy the cologne the I enjoy the most and when the times he wore it, it drove me crazy. Hmmmm, it is sooooooo yummy to have a since smelling man, or a nice so nice smelling man. Basically, I just love men.,