Do You Date Outside Your Race?

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By David Wygant April 20, 2011 282 Shares

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Are you insecure in dating because of your race?

Do your friends make fun of your physical imperfections? Well, maybe it’s time for you to find some new friends. Or MAYBE it’s all just in your head….

In keeping with our new found tradition of answering all of your best questions on Podcast Wednesday, today’s podcast takes on over-sized lips, bald-spot paranoia, small breast insecurities, whether it’s time for you to find new friends, and jumbles it all up into one big mixed-race dating blender!

And as far as dating goes… It’s all about dating and mixing all the great things in that giant blender.

The giant blender is your dating life!

Check out what I think about mixed race dating, over sized lips and why bald spots are a huge turn-on.

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Patrick James

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

@Tony: Congratulations on the win! Along with your new path to being able to approach women. @Collin: I agree, most mixes usually turn out a more physically attractive person. I really like half white and half black women. I'm half Asian and half South American and so far women have really enjoyed the way I turned out ;)

Patrick James

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

That's South American... I believe it's an island right off the coast of Venezuela? And yes, the women from there are gorgeous! I don't particularly favor one mix over the other, though lately it has been half white/half black. Here in LA, there's so many mixes to choose from. For me, she's either got it or she don't. But something about a woman with a bit of an afro has been my taste lately.

Barry Selby

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Great webcast! BTW, the movie is "Grumpier Old Men"

Mario C

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

David is fuckin awesome

Collin

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

I've dated girls outside of my race, but it never got serious. Really, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen was a mix of white, black, and Asian. Considering that I tend to prefer dark hair/dark skin girls, I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up with a girl of another race. I think it's interesting that if you look back at pictures of people from a couple hundred years back, they were much less attractive than people are today. That was also a time when races hardly ever mixed at all. Could it be that more racial mixing that goes into a person, the more attractive they're going to be? Hmmm... Fun story about different sized breasts: I once dated a girl who was naturally an A or B on her right side and an E or an F on the left. She got a reduction and an implant to appear more normal after high school, but I was so confused the first time we hooked up. On the plus side, how many men have gotten to compare real and natural breasts at the same time? ;)

Tony

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Good podcast i just wanna say that last week coaching help me a lot. i won last week on the blog. The eye contact thing shogo thought me really work now i able to start approaching women when before i couldn't even say hi

Mike

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Hate to break it to DW and every reader, but we're all members of the Human Race. So, if you have a human thing for someone, do what you feel you should.

David Wygant

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Hey Mike Did you listen to the podcast? That is what we spoke about on the podcast. I thunk you just commented on the blog without hearing the podcast:)

David Wygant

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Hey Barry You are 100% correct. Email me and I will hook you up with your free coaching!!

Sonny

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Great podcast, guys! I love the idea of answering questions this way. About the question from the half black/white student, that's a great attitude and way of looking at it, David, but that sentiment isn't shared by many others of the cultures in question. A half black/white person can have trouble fitting in because the two sides he's mixed with do not accept him. Black people make fun of you for being red-boned, yellow and/or light-skinned. White people don't accept you because you have a big nose and big lips (I'm generalizing, here). Shogo said there weren't many Japanese or Mexican people where he grew up. If there were, he would've experienced something similar. Both of you are speaking from inexperience and I think both responses were more idealistic than realistic.

Shogo (Coach)

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Collin, that's a really funny story. Great way of putting it too ;) Tony, good to hear back from you! I enjoyed our coaching session as well. Mindset is really your foundation BUT-- remember you've got to keep yourself motivated to get out there every day!! Keep posting and keep us updated on your progress... Sonny--sure, I'm speaking from experience. I grew up in California. Mexicans and Asians are everywhere there, more than half the population. What there were hardly any of were a mix of my two races--I've met three or four in my lifetime. I've never been made fun of or outcast by anybody because of my mixed race. I've never had a girl stop dating me because of my mixed race. Sonny, I assume that you're black and white? Is it your experience that the black people you know make fun of you or other half-blacks for being light-skinned? That white people don't accept you because you've got "black" features? I've literally never seen that happen. Maybe it's because I've always lived in big cities, but the people I know are not divided along racial lines like that, regardless of their own race. And if I did see that kind of blatant racism, they would sure get a piece of my mind ;)

Dee

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

I think, race is not the only decisive point here - there is also culture. Racists aside, I think, regardless of their race, people can connect easily and have potentially stronger bond, if their culture is the same or similar. Or, if their cultures can coexist and complement each other, regardless of their race. I think, I see equal number of same or mixed race couples but this is not scientific on my part. Being an immigrant from one of Eastern European countries with one dominant nationality myself, back home I have perceived other people through their culture… or lack of thereof. After I re-located, I have dated women from in and out of my culture but I have NEVER been able to form a bond strong enough to make it last and enjoyable. On the contrary, all my long term relationships were with women out of my homeland or countries nearby. This is my experience.

Roy

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

I think mindset is the issue. If you feel different in a crowd, and you can't embrace that, then you are not going to feel comfortable in that crowd. I am 5'4" tall, and I often feel different in a crowd as I am usually looking up at almost everybody. I have learned that when I do not allow myself to think about how I am different, I am better equipped to observe and understand that we are all different. Letting go of insecurities and just enjoying who you are goes a long way towards being an attractive person.

Collin

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Oddly enough Patrick, half black/half white is one mix I don't generally go for. I REALLY like half white/half Asian or half white/half Indian. Recently I went to a formal with a girl from Trinidad. I don't know what that's a mix of, but she was beyond exotic!

Greg

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Colin/Patrick - nit sure if this us good news but Trinidad (where my parents are from) is a Caribbean country just off Venezuela & the people are black, Indian or many are mixed of the two. they also have smaller numbers of other ethnicities such as Chinese (lIke my wife), White & even a few South American. The girl you saw could be any or all of the above, but the main 'mixed race' there is black&Indian. And they do have some of the prettiest women you will find. As you can tell, I too think mixed races tend to bring out the most beautiful genes in people (it also prevents people becoming in bred, like some European Royal families! ;-) I also love finding out about other cultures. Great podcast, David, as ever

Alysha

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

@ Collin...oddly enough the woman you dated from Trinidad likely had some African ancestry because slaves were also imported into Trinidad and is a major mix in the population there. @ Dee...I agree to an extent. I'm a black women and dated a guy from Eastern Europe for about a year and while we had a lot in common, we did have a lot of cultural differences but I will say that when I hear the average man of another race with an American background say they cannot connect with a women of another race, I think it's hogwash (did I really just say that...lol) it's just in their head that they think they wouldn't be able to relate. @ Sonny...I actually have a number of mixed (mostly black and white) family members and friends and I just don't ever see that happen...I mean it's just so common place anymore that I just don't see people ever discriminate against a mix of white and blacks...not discounting your experience but you might be percieving people the wrong way...

Ali

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

hello david i think rece is big issue i'v been in uk from 3 years for studying never make any English friends so .. how would u think could i get girl i think not working at lest in my case cheers

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Thursday, April 21st, 2011

I haven't listened to the podcast yet, but here's my .50cents (adjusted for inflation). I am a black male, my parents always taught us "no more cream in the coffee". Meaning do NOT mix with whites! Since that time, I was somewhat "traumatized" by black women who, because I'm college-educated and well-spoken, that I don't "act like a real brother". I went for years dating non-black women because I was so discriminated against by my own women. Since then, I've learned that the class of black women I dated were of the more "ghetto" class, and when I started meeting educated,more polished black women, that my avoidance of them was not race-related, but class-related. I have no problems with people who have a preference, as long as it's not based on some ignorant stupid stereotype!

Ken

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

I haven’t listened to the podcast yet, but here’s my .50cents (adjusted for inflation). I am a black male, my parents always taught us “no more cream in the coffee”. Meaning do NOT mix with whites! Since that time, I was somewhat “traumatized” by black women who, because I’m college-educated and well-spoken, that I don’t “act like a real brother”. I went for years dating non-black women because I was so discriminated against by my own women. Since then, I’ve learned that the class of black women I dated were of the more “ghetto” class, and when I started meeting educated,more polished black women, that my avoidance of them was not race-related, but class-related. I have no problems with people who have a preference, as long as it’s not based on some ignorant stupid stereotype! Your comment is awaiting moderation.

Joey Juneau

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Umm David we are all the same race. I know what you mean but this is huge grammatical error. Ethnicity is the word you are looking for. That goes for everyone else too.

Joey Juneau

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

I listened to the podcast but it is still incorrect and people screw it up all the time.

Daniel

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Man this was a funny podcast. Im sure every can relate from one experience or another. As long as you except yourself it doesnt matter what your imperfections are. As long as you are sure in what you do itll never matter because your just being you.

Collin

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

@Alysha and Greg, My guess was a mix of black and Indian too, though I could see there being some others in there too. And to clarify, I've dated plenty of fairly un-mixed people as well. I don't just have some weird obsession with them or anything ;) @Shogo Life is all about putting a positive spin on things. I may prefer natural over fake, but how was I supposed to figure that out without a comparison test? Hahaha

Austin

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

I've been waiting for David to touch on this topic for sometime. While I think the main lesson from the podcast is to 'embrace who you are and the rest will follow', I sometimes find it difficult even though I know this is the correct frame of mind. I myself am black, and have never dated outside my race and have been absolutely terrified of approaching women outside my race even though I'm attracted to them. While I may have found black women I've dated in the past attractive and shared some connection with them, I've never quite had the level of chemistry that I desired in a relationship, and it often felt like a small part of me was dating them because it was safe. Sometimes I think I may have a better chance of finding someone that I share true chemistry with if I were to expand my dating pool to include those beyond my own ethnicity since I tend to be a person with broad and diverse interests. Still this is a very difficult hurdle for me to get over, and I think it may have a lot to with past rejection in high school (it always seems to come back to this doesn't it ?), middle school, and even grade school. In high school and even before high school I had been rejected by all types of women (as we all eventually are at some point), but it would always sting a bit worse when it was a women outside of my race. A rejection of "no", became an emphatic "No!" expressed with a certain "Of course not", and "Are you crazy?" tinge to it, complete with sideways glances from her and her friends in the aftermath. I always walked away from this feeling like "I should have known better. I'm black and she's [insert non-black ethnicity here]. I'm such a dumbass. I'll never do that again." Although I'm now in my early thirties those old memories can still get to me at times. I know deep down that most of it is mindset but still it's a constant internal struggle. More recently I began to date online and I often come across many women's profiles that under the category of 'preferred ethnicity' will often leave the 'Black/African descent' box unchecked - more food for a limiting belief to grow. As you may be able to tell this has really been on my mind lately, and I felt that this may be a good time to share. By the way, the Secrets of Online Dating product is DW Gold!

Cerebral

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Not sure if I seen the correct answer here but it was..."Grumpy Old Men"

John

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

David, you made me think about something during the later portion of this podcast in regards to people that support you. Now my friends are awesome and very supportive. However, I'm 20 years old and still live at home. My father constantly makes me feel inferior, worthless, etc should I ever make a mistake and I feel its greatly affected my confidence. What could I do to solve this?

sunny

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Hey Ali, I am in uk for last 4 years and I have made lots of english friends and dated couple of English girls as well. Get over the nonsence pepole telling you. Its their insecurity. Go out with open mind and hang out with pepole from all races, you will see the reality yourself.

sarah grace

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

without listening to the podcast, i'll also put in my two cents. i used to use the word "race" just as a figure of speech, but a few years ago i just couldnt get past the fact that "race" is very un-creationistic, so now i say "people-group." one of my highschool classmates was half korean, a couple others were white/black; i have a black best friend and two of my cousins are half peruvian (half white). hey what can you expect my highschool was private and followed the stereotype of being mostly white, else i'd have more non-white friends. i've always been of the opinion that each people-group has its advantages when it comes to beauty. in my city there are many hispanics. it seems they are more well-dressed and -mannered than the rest of us! that is, until they get "americanized." :/ lovely people and lovely language :) i'll save the podcast to my laptop so i can listen to it later. i've gotta practice guitar :D

Bob

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Here's an obvious question (to me at least) to ponder. Since all, or most of the blog answers, are being currently politically correct (at this moment in history. You would have been ridiculed,ostracised and shunned just 30 years ago, in this US of A), by having no problem, and encouraging the mixing of races. Most of the readers are even saying it makes for a bettering, improvment, and making of a "superior" offspring, by mixing races now. How many of you think there is a need, reason, or advantage, to there being different races, with differing culture, customs, and beliefs, as there currently are? Should the human "race" just blend into one race, with no differences or appearance, as David would seem to think would be the ideal? I recently saw what that person would look like. An oriental looking, darker skinned, individual, with a small stature, and plain appearance. Is that the ideal human being? Think about why there are differences in our appearance, and the advantage of keeping the various races pure, before you jump on the current politically correct bandwagon. Dare to be different, and express your opinion, no matter what the current politically correct opinion is. Think of the Nazis, and other time sensitive periods, and what the people were brainwashed into thinking was the "correct" way to think about race, and currect way to thinking...

Zobeeda

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Dear Austin Just to let you know, I have known a number of european non black women who will only date black men. I am of Indian Origin and my sister is married to a wonderful guy from Gabon in Africa obviously he is black, they are very happy together, they work because of their personalities. I split up permanently with my husband 4 months ago he was Danish, but the split had nothing to do with race or religious differences. But I am happy to say we do have a beautiful son, obviously he is half white, half indian and he is really really handsome he has light olive skin, chocolate brown hair and large grey eyes. He has the best of both of his parents in both personality, principle and looks. For the person who asked the question who triggered the blog,I really think you are overly conscious and I think this is creating negative energy, if you were positive and love and accepted your mixture people would see your energy and personality first not your race and mix. As for Bob, well here'e the point it is laughable with all the migration and invasions that have happened over the last thousands of years that there is the existence of anyone who is pure race. I think surely the point is that people should be open minded and not eliminate dating people strictly because of their race or even religion. My son is mixed race he is beautiful inside and out and people really love him. He also has special needs and sometimes he can have do funny strange stuff, and you should see how people can look at him, but he does not give a crap. Actually if you really want to be brave David how about addressing single divorced mothers negative self images and belief that they have less value than woman who are single who do not have kids, I know a number of single mothers including myself who feel their value and chances of meeting anyone are zero because they have a child with special needs. I remember one woman told me she felt men saw her secondhand car that men did not want. It is a painful subject, but I do think these things need to be touched on including people wanting to date who have disabilities, also are people willing to date people who have disabilities even if they do not have any themselves

Rick

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

I do not care what color somebody's skin is , but all I care is that they are Caucasoid. Meaning Swedish or Indian no problem. Some Indian girls are blacker then any African but they have caucasian features and silky hair. Now Blacks be they in Africa or USA, they themselves hate kinky hair. My black male friends have told me one reason they only date white women (they actually should mean caucasian unless they are bigots and will not date a dark skined caucasian gal) - is that they want there kids to have nicer hair they they do. Ofcourse that won't happen Hally Barry is 90% white, and she calls herself Afro-American and her hair needs expensive straigtners and still does not look or feel right. So wanting your kids to have nicer hair will not work for black men hoping for that from White women. So basically I did not even know of any Black or Afro-American man who dates Black women, they all when posible go for the White Women. Now that I think is racist against your own race. But any how I am Caucasian with a tan by nature and I have silky hair, and since in Africa that is in demand even though they do not have this by nature, why should I give it up - something Blacks cherish and I got, I am saving my Silky hair for my future decendants cause they Blacks appreciate it so why should I take it for granted.

Abdul

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

In Saudia Arabia we value women with nice features be they Asian or European. But not Africans - everywhere in the worlds Africans blame the Whites for every problem. In USA they say they are poor and scrore low on tests due to dscrimination by the whites. But in South Africa Black on Black violence is crazy. In many African Nations blacks take axes and chop of the arms and legs of black women or any women during fights. In Europe and White nations how common is White MEn going arround unchecked chopping up White women? Never. So if we are ll one race then why do Asians and Whites/Indians do so well in Science and Love of humanity. Why does entire Nation of Africa - excuse me did you not know Africa is not a NAtion but many NAtions a continent, and they all are so behind the rest of the world in everything - why? If they are equal and race does not matter. How come Beef Cows are not able to make as much milk as Milk cows both are exact same race, yet breeding has made one more muscular and the other produce More milk, btw the Milk cows are way smarter then the beef cows IQ wise. And when it comes to dogs, poodles are way smarter then Datsuns, yet all are really same race they are all Wolves really! Just a few generations of breeding made poodles so much smarter then many other dog breeds. So then is it racist to say, Chinese and Indians and Jews are the smartest peoples of the world. Look Chinese are of Mongloid race, and Indians are of Caucasoid race like Europeans , but Indians are smarter then Europeans. As for Racist white favoring American tests hurting Blacks score - humm, how come Indians and Chinese students who have language handicaps and cultural handicaps end up quickly beating American Born Whites who have English by birth mastered! Oh yes the Chinese and Indian really outscore the Blacks who also have english by birth in USA. If Race did not matter then Blacks should outscore the Chinese. Oh and whites, they can be PC all they want with the Blacks but the Chinese and Indians they will be the most advance and rule AMerica soon! Earth Day, Chinesses make more solar power then USA! Go China!

Jeffrey

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

Love has no color!!! I think people who date & marry outside their own race are far more unique than those who only date & marry inside their own race. Mixed race couples and individuals are great for society and it broadens your mind set. I am Caucasian and I have dated many girls from other races & ethnicity as well as girls within my own race and I think its more interesting to date outside my race than it is to stay within my own race, who cares what others think about you that's their problem not yours.

Red

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

This is a very interesting topic this week. I have dated white, black, asian, hispanic, native american, and middle eastern. I myself am light skinned and blue eyed and even though women of all cultures are beautiful, there just seems to be a closer connection when I am with a lady who is also light skinned, light eyes. But it's a small factor in dating. I am more concerned about wether she and I share the same values. I've learn to that it is very hard to date someone who is not the same religion, because our beliefs tie into our lives and sometimes explain why we do what we do. So anyways, if she's beautiful, doesn't matter what race, as long as you both connect and share the same values.

Abdul

Saturday, April 23rd, 2011

Red, What on earth does skin color have to do with attractivness. Attractivness is based on face bone structure, like slimer nose vs broad flat nose. It is facial features that confer beauty not color. Race is not about skin color, race is deeper then skin deep. A scientist can unearth a thousand year old leg bone or skull and tell you if it belonge to the Caucasoid or the Mongloid or the negeroid race - no skin or color to see at all! On Jay Leno Hidi Klum wihned about her kids having nappy hair - so what her kids will grow up hating her silky hair as long as she is happy with Seal. BTW I like SEAL he is smart and kind, Hidi Klum is bimboish. I just do not like Seals hair - I wonder why he shaves his head, maybe he do not like african hair on his african head, but he can not change what nature forced on him, if he could choose he would always pick silky hair, unlike Hidi Klum who is not that bright.

Phil

Saturday, April 23rd, 2011

Abdul, I wonder if you are the same person who posted under "Rick" as well. I feel very sorry for you. What century are you from? You obviously have darker skin and you have a problem with it because you are so defensive about the fact that being a caucasian is what matters no mater what skin color. I find all kinds of women attractive. Everything in nature is beautiful. You were just programmed from your childhood to believe what is beautiful and what isn't. Does a new born child know the idea of ugliness? Babies and children are always amazed by what they see because it is all beautiful to them until we mess up their mind. I find Black, white Asian and all other women attractive and not all of them have sharp noses. You must have a very simple mind to draw conclusions without deeper analysis. One of the most famous brain surgeons in the world is black. Do you believe he is a non black person in black skin? The current state of the world we live in is much more complicated than just black and white.

Abdul

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

Phil, How ignorant of you! I have no problem with skin color, I date women of all Skin color, just not african wome, Black skinned women yes and they have caucasian hair and features. We all evolved from Africans, we are a further evolution of Africans. We decend from them, we are the lattest, now you want me to like crasy hair that looks like its been rubed on a brick. Africans do not like African Hair and features, so are you saying Africans are Bigots? In Africa they sell Bleach made of Mercury and lead to get rid of the darkness. If they listen to me they would know being black of color is not the problem they have, its bone deep not on the skin at all. Being of black skin color does not make ones IQ drop, only genes do that. One Black doctor with 60% white intermarriage blood does not make for a Poster child for your falce point. Europeans are on average smarter then Africans, and Chineese/Indians are way smarter then Europeans - so there skin color is not a issue. If I marry a Chineese my kids will be smart and peacful. If I marry an Indian my kids will not only be smart but have no need for eyelid surgery that all Chineese are now paying for, because everybody likes Caucasian model of Human. You go marry an African and have kids with nappy hair needing straigtners and do poorly in IQ tests get beat by the Chineese farmer kids.

Abdul

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

Phil, Allah says people with hair of wool are cursed and pointed to an African and (Peace be Upon him) said, by Nature and Allah you are low brow. Do you go against God Phil.

Red

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

@Abdul: Why are you bringing such negative vibes on these comments man? I still can't figure out why you went on a tangent about skin color and what I said. I clearly said in my comment that it is such a small factor to me. Values play the biggest role, go back and read what I said. I care less about color really, and was just stating my opinion that in my experience women who shared my same physical qualities I was attracted to more.. Sort of like how fat chicks sometimes like fat guys, you dig? We all have qualities we like in a woman but I want to know why are you bringing religion into this and quoting Allah? You're obviously Muslim so we know you probably like women with dark features, who are covered from head to toe in a black burqa. No? Well doesn't your religion have laws against women who show too much flesh? I don't care. I've been with middle eastern women before too. They're beautiful but damn they have some of the hairiest pussies I've encountered. No hard feelings bro, but lighten up man.

hunter

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

Women are not racists, they, just, won't date out of their league.(It may just be part of their built in defense mechanism) There are some women that do venture out, but, in very small pools.

Phil

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

I think this blog needs a moderator

David Wygant

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

Phil No moderation needed. Its good to see how different people are. This is a very sensitive topic for some people and as you can see here, some people have very limiting beliefs.

Joss

Monday, April 25th, 2011

Really interesting podcast, it's really got me thinking about something and I hope this isn't too late to be considered for the next podcast... I know this podcast focused on race and people's imperfections but for me it got me thinking about opening up to new things. I've always been the type of person who wanted a serious, meaningful relationship but today i've started toying with the idea of going out and meeting people who are just interested in a fling or some no strings attached sex. I'm in my early 20's, I feel i'm in the best shape of my life and I guess I want to try this to learn some more about myself or just gain more sexual experience. Would like to hear from people if this is a good move and if so whats the best way of going out and finding like minded people? Hope to hear from y'all. J

David Wygant

Monday, April 25th, 2011

Joss Great topic. To screw or not to screw that is the question:) You just gave me this weeks podcast. Thanks

sarah grace

Monday, April 25th, 2011

@ abdul seriously? your God demeans one of his creation? you've just given me proof that the muslim god is not the same god as the judeo-christian One (i've never thought so anyway). a god who disapproves of any of the crown of his creation is corrupt and not worth his title. i'm a christian, and my God created only one race. if He thought that people of african decent were inferior, then He would not have build that genetic information into Adam and Eve. every people group is eligible for friending, dating, marrying with other people groups. every person on the planet is on equal ground. and, btw, i find the hair that "looks like it's been rubbed on a brick" to be adorable. i find black men to be very attractive--as are many white, asian, hispanic, and middle eastern/asian/indian men. there are african people who dye their hair? there are many white girls/women who do their hair in cornrows, and white men who wear dreadlocks. also, for that matter, there are asian women who get perms. so what? proves nothing. to everybody else: sorry to keep the religious talk going, but the use of "religion" or "god" to validate racism just makes my blood boil.

Ken

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011

The sorriest race on the planet is the whole human race!!!

Abdul

Wednesday, April 27th, 2011

Phil, Seriously open discussion is key to expanding the mind. All I am saying is I will date a girl as black as night, but I will not date a white skined girl who has African hair and African features. AND sarah grace, Your Christian God is just as Mean as Allah, in the Bible it says similar thing about Cane and wool haired tribe being cursed by God and being inferior. This is why the Bible has been used to justify Christians owning African slaves. Have you not read Christian history? If I am ignorant so are you - more so. I am open about it, you claim your belief is higher. If Muslims are so ignorant about African wool hair, then how come most Muslims are Black converts anyway!? In Sudan the Arabs and the Africans are all Muslims, but hey....wooly hair is wooly, and silky hair is beautiful so...

Abdul

Wednesday, April 27th, 2011

sarah grace, Are you seriously saying you belive we came from Adam and Eve? If true then what did there kids do to have more kids? Incest right, so what kind of a God make only 2 people and then forces there kids to propogate via incest and yet bans incest in the Bible - contradiction. And as a Christian you are supposed to remain a Virgin Girl until your wedding night, so you disobey the Christian god! ANd you tell me about Allah - you are more hypocrite then I? So you really belive the Bible the earth was made in 7 days and is 6ooo years old only? No wonder the Scientific Chineese will own Americans - and there Girlfreinds ! OK the Bible says worse about Africans then the Koran ok!

Lola

Saturday, May 14th, 2011

I'm mixed race (4 races), and my parents married interacially & our extended families are of diff religions. I never saw race as an issue when dating. If I do meet people who have a problem with it then I just see them as less open minded and I don;t feel attracted to them anymore...I like open minded people who place importance in the things they see with their heart, and not the physical aspects of things only. I live in a city that has people of diff racial backgrounds so seeing mixed race couples is not unusual. I think it only becomes an issue if friends and family who are narrow minded tease or question you about your diff raced partner, this is where ur confidence and sincerity towards your partner will play a part. Ppl tend to stare more at mixed race couples too so again, u just need to be confident in not caring what the narrow minded society thinks. If u love him, then tht is all tht matters : ) & I have met people who might not have the same values as I do but we still pursued a relationship and had a great one because of our respect for differences and trust in each other. So I dun think having the same values is important. It might be only when it comes to agreeing on how and what to guide children.

lm

Saturday, December 24th, 2011

" I’ve literally never seen that happen." Shogo, come on. Be the wise and aware man you usually are. I'm mixed, like Sonny, and I'm a lady (who gets the "I like exotic" types drooling on her, ugh) -- but I live in a city like you. Just because YOU'VE never seen something happen, that DOES NOT MEAN it DOESN'T happen. A little awareness, please.

piyush

Wednesday, June 20th, 2012

i like big lips its so much lovely

Rose Red

Saturday, July 7th, 2012

I'm a BW and guess what? I won't date a man who was raised by a single mother so that leaves out about 70% of BM right there! I was married to a BM who had both legal parents in the house. Those sorts of BM, to me, are 'better' less racial hang-ups about hair and skin! I find that all sorts of WM approach me. Granted, I do not wish to have children so that is one less worry. I do not date WM who are buddy-buddy with BM. Wanna know why? Most BM try to poision the well! They will diss BW behind our back to our WM! Yup. You BM are hot messes. Furthermore, I have lots of WW gal-pals and not one has a BM as a man cause they want pro-family men and men who are monogamous, as frankly, most BM are not. While I do love a good WM I carefully vet them. Don't want a wimp or a wuss or one too naive about race. So far so good. Oh, and before any of you diss me, I don't reject BM per se, and have, within the last few years dated one. Guess what? He was a player, stood me up on VALENTINE'S DAY. That was the last BM I was with for now, I appreciate men of value, who approach me.

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