So, you find yourself growing up and all your friends are married. You go to wedding after wedding and, of course, your friends’ wives come up to you and say, “When are YOU going to get married?”

You go to your first dinner party, and most of your friends — the ones who used to go out drinking with you a few years ago — are married and looking at you as the lone single guy. You’re like the Lone Ranger all by yourself.

It actually makes you feel like something is wrong with you. Your own mother and grandmother gang up on you and say, “When are you finally going to meet someone and settle down? We need grandchildren!”

It’s called the late pressure. It’s almost like the full-court press, or like Rex Ryan sending seven defensive backs at you when you only have three wide receivers. How are you going to find the open man?

How are you going to find that woman with whom to ‘settle down?’ You start to put pressure on yourself, and you do what I did in my late 20’s: You go on a wife hunt.

The wife hunt is very scary because what you’re doing is you’re looking for somebody with whom you can join that dinner party. You are finding someone so that you no longer have to go to those dinner parties alone.

I did this. I went on a wife hunt, and I ended up with somebody who was really one of my best friends. I was never really super sexually attracted to her. I loved her, but always looked at her at that friend. You don’t want to make that mistake.

If you go on a wife hunt, you are probably just going to accept whomever comes your way and you are not going to get exactly who you want. Marriage is really serious, though, and you need to think it through before you do it.

You need to find someone who is just like you — thinks like you, acts like you, and shares the same beliefs and interests. You need to find someone who can teach you things and help you grow as a person.

When you go on a wife hunt, there’s no way in the world you’re going to find that. You are going to find whatever is available.

It’s almost like when you go to rent a house. Just imagine if you gave yourself two years to find the perfect house to rent, and during that time you go and look at a lot of houses. Eventually, you are going to find the right one. You’re going to find the one that fits who you are. You’re going to find one in the right location and at the right price.

When you have to have something — or feel pressure to get something — within a certain time limit, then the results of what you end up getting is never as good. If you feel like you need to find a wife in six months or less, then you may find one but she likely will not be the right one. You’re not going to find the woman with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.

This is your life. So the next time someone starts asking you why you’re not married yet, realize that there is no good that comes from feeling the need to act under their pressure.

Instead you should look them in the eye and say, “I just haven’t met the right person yet. Do you have anybody you can introduce me to? I’d like to meet someone amazing. I’d like to meet somebody with whom I can spend my life, but I am not going to rush it.”

This is exactly what I used to tell people after my first wife hunt. People would look at me and sometimes you would see that look in their eyes that said that they found their wife on a wife hunt (and may or may not have found the right person).

This is your life. Take your time. Enjoy it! Find the right wife even if it takes a long time, and be sure sure to enjoy every moment and every woman you experience along the way.