lending men moneyThe boyfriend who takes your money and takes you for a ride…

Man, I’ve seen this so many times. The generous woman and the lazy man. You fall for a man based on promises and potential.  He seems so genuine. You think he’s going to be so much more to you than he is. People tell you he’s nothing but a loser, but still you stand by him. Whenever he runs into a bad situation, he blames other people for his misfortunes. Being the nurturing, caring, amazing, beautiful woman you are, you build him back up again and say, “Don’t worry honey, I’ll help you.”

Before long, the relationship starts to take a different turn. You notice he’s having trouble keeping up with his bills. He seems to fall in and out of work. It’s never his fault either. He always blames the boss or the system. It’s never HIS fault things didn’t work out. You’re quick to believe him because he sells you such big dreams and aspirations. If only he had the money, he could start his own business and take over the world with you.

If only he could get a meeting with this company, he’d sell himself to them and all your problems would be in the past. That’s when you start making the biggest mistake of your life. You start funding him. It usually starts with helping him out with a little bit of rent money, paying for gas for his car, or maybe buying him a new suit.

Before long, it starts to add up. He starts asking for more and more. Before you realize what’s happening, you’re in a relationship with the kind of man people have been warning you about all the time. He’s nothing but a dead-end dreamer. He’s the kind of man who never needed to stand on his own two feet. His parents probably bailed him out for a long time before he met you. The writing is on the wall with man like this, but the problem with so many women, is they only see the best in someone. You’re so determined to meet the man of your dreams, you see the potential in men, but dating like that is very dangerous.

You need to date a man that has his s#’t together. Date a man with a plan, a man whose words and actions match. If you’re dating a guy that’s in and out of work, always broke, and always making excuses, you need to get out of there. Tame the loving, caring, nurturing woman in you that only wants to see the best in him.

It sounds harsh to label a man like this a loser, but you don’t want to date losers like this. Losers aren’t your equal. Not only that, but it’s going to cost you a fortune in the end. I’ve heard so many horror stories about women who lose their whole life savings on men like this. Keep your eyes open and look for the warning signs. I don’t want anyone taking advantage of you.