Are You Checking Me Out?

Are You Checking Me Out?
By David Wygant

Have you ever been out in a bar wondering “What do I say? How do I come up with something really clever to say that will intrigue her?”

Or, if you are a woman, do you wonder “Is there something really playful I can say that will be really different from what everyone else says in a bar?”

Most men when they approach a woman in a bar are so cliché. They’ll spend half the night staring at a woman, only to either not get up the courage to talk to her at all or to finally go up to her but say something stupid like “Are you having fun?”

Let’s say there is a woman checking you out in a bar hoping that you can come up with something clever. She obviously can’t, otherwise she would have come up to you.

It’s a fact of meeting people in bars. Most women will do nothing. They will check a guy out a bunch of times, but will rarely ever talk to (or even say hello to) a guy. So if you are a man, you need to realize these facts and come up with a whole different approach.

When I go into a bar or a lounge, I know that most women are not going to talk to me first. I also know that I’ve got to not only be clever, but be different than all the other guys in the room.

I also realize, especially in a bar, that most people want to be challenged. They don’t want to engage in boring chit chat or small talk.

Plus, isn’t the whole reason for going out at night to have fun and be playful? So here’s my favorite thing to do in a bar.

For those of you that know me, you know that I don’t drink. It’s not that I have a problem with alcohol, or am one of those ex-drinkers who believes everyone should come to my meeting with me. It is a personal choice. I don’t like anything stronger than water in my body.

When I go out, I still like to have fun. The only way to have fun is to be playful with the people around you.

I don’t take the whole thing too seriously. Some people take bars so seriously, that when they go out to meet people they get all annoyed.

I go out and I don’t care what happens. I am going out just to have a blast.

So what is my secret approach that I use in a bar? I actually have many fun approaches I use in a bar, but this is one of my favorites because it is playful, fun, different and challenging.

I will walk directly over to a woman who has been checking me out. I look right into her eyes, and I then whisper this in her ear: “I saw you checking me out.” Then I’ll pull back, look into her eyes and smile. Then I’ll say “Were you just going to stand there all night checking me out? Are you shy?”

There are few reasons why this is a good approach and why it works. First, whispering in a woman’s ear is sexy. Think about when you are having sex with a woman and talking dirty. You talk in a low tone and whisper in her ear at the same time. So this is a very seductive approach.

Second, calling her out on what she was doing is also admitting that you were checking her out too. You are cutting through the bullshit that most people do in a bar.

Third, telling her she is shy will challenge her. It will also get her to defend herself and be playful.

I’m not going to write about what should be said next, because if you listen you will have plenty to say back to her. I also don’t believe that you should have a scripted conversation in your head, because then you’ll never learn to react to the real conversation that’s taking place.

Don’t worry about what she is going to say. Just allow the fun conversation to go its own way.

This is one of my favorite ways to have fun in a bar. You’ll come across as confident, seductive and the guy who is intriguing to all the women.

One other thing about this approach that is key. When she is checking you out, do not spend two hours getting up the nerve to do this. Walk right over when you’ve seen her check you out twice.

Doing this shows her that you’re a consummate man of action. It will show her that you are a confident man who women desire, instead of an indecisive man to whom women are not attracted.

By the way, ladies, this approach would also work for you.

For those of you who want to learn more about this and many other approaches, check out my Men’s Audio Mastery Series and my Women’s Audio Mastery Series.

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