So you’re about to go down the road to date a single mom.

First off, some of them, just like some women and some men, are wonderful.

Single moms are very appreciative of just about anything that you give them.

I’m not saying you need to feed them scraps so they’re going to be happy.

Single moms are so appreciative of a great man.

Because when you think about it, they’re single moms for a reason. Because the man that they were with was a not-so-great man.

The man that they were with didn’t want what they wanted.

And the man that they were with did not support for them for who they are.

Single moms are some of the most loving people I’ve ever met.

And some of them are, well, downright angry.

But we’re not going to focus on the angry single moms at all.

We are going to talk about some of the perils of dating a single moms, though, so you’ll understand them.

#1: The Angry Single Mom

Even though I promised we wouldn’t, the first thing we’re going to go over is the angry one.

The one that just can’t seem to let anything go.

They’re pissed at their ex-husband for leaving them.

They’re pissed that they don’t have enough money, yet they don’t seem to really be doing anything about it, like getting a job.

They’re pissed about where they live.

They’re just pissed off.

A lot of the times, it doesn’t show on the surface, but if you actually uncover who they are, you can take a look at what you’re taking on.

Every time you date a single mom, you’re taking on her life, her issues, her problems, as she will be doing that with you, as well.

So you need to look deeper. About how she’s conducting her life, because you may be in for something that you can’t handle, financially, emotionally, and if she’s still angry and bitter deep down towards an ex, you don’t want to be around that because then the children are going to be a manipulated pawn.

#2: Her Kids

Right from the get-go, no matter how beautiful and amazing she is, you need to ask yourself this question:

Are you willing, either now or in the future, to be a step-dad for her kids?

I know it sounds so far into the future, but the fact of the matter is you need to always get your head out of your ass immediately, and look at the future right away. Because if the two of you work out, you are going to be a step-dad for her kids.

You’re going to take on part of the responsibility and whatever percentage of the responsibility, you both will be around her kids. Depending on her custody schedule, you might have those kids 80% of the time.

So it’s going to take away time from the two of you, and it’s going to be a lot of family time.

Are you willing to do all of that?

Are you willing to take on the responsibility of her son, her daughter?

And to go through the stages of her kids’ lives together?

Which means that you’ll be buying groceries for more people than you thought.

It is a look at a lot of different things. What your house is going to be like with them?

Kid’s stuff all over the place.

That stuff can tend to be annoying if you’ve never had kids and you’re a neat freak.

It used to drive me nuts.

Now, I don’t give a shit, because the kid’s stuff, this is just stuff, but it’s the love that they bring you everyday.

What if you’re a single dad and you spend more time with her kids than your kids? How is that going to affect you, emotionally? How are you going to be able to explain that to your children?

It’s called being a realistic dater.

#3 The Future Vision

It’s real easy to see what it’s going to be like if you just open your eyes the first 30 days. You can see how she handles issues, how she handles herself on a daily basis with her kids, her work, and everything.

Plus, when you first start dating somebody, talk about what you both want in the future. People are so afraid to discuss that.

They’d rather keep everything light and fun.

Light and fun? This is your fucking life you’re talking about. Life is not always light and fun.

What if it’s light and fun, and then all of a sudden, when it becomes real, well all of a sudden, you think to yourself, why isn’t it light and fun everyday? I miss the light and fun days.

The light and fun is an illusion that people tell themselves over and over again.

Look, I can go on and on about the beauties and the amazing things about dating a single mom, but you have to look deeper. Your life is going to merge with her life.

You’ll have to deal with her ex coming over.

You’ll have to deal with when she’s triggered by her ex.

A lot of things you’ve got to deal with. It’s not as easy as just dating somebody who has no children.

But then again, they’ve got issues as well, too, because I’ve done both.

I’ve dated the women who are actually in their 40s who have no kids and a lot of them are down that road we call “disappointed expectations” and wanting to literally make up for it in record amounts of time.

Nobody is perfect. I know that, because I’ve definitely been that person looking for that.

Not in a way thinking that there was a perfect person at all, but realizing that everybody has a give and take, everybody comes with stuff. The question is, does their stuff bother you or not, and if it doesn’t bother you, then they’re a complete yes in your life.

Plus, sometimes, God, the universe, whatever you believe in, really has a higher plan for you than you ever imagined. So sometimes the woman who comes with extra baggage, extra kids, whatever it might be, they actually might be that person you were supposed to be with in the first place, because let me tell you something.

You come with flaws. You come with baggage. We all do.

I love single moms. I happen to think they’re great.

But then again, I’m biased.