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That's a great video. It is what I naturally do all day long. If there is a romantic connection, the girl will give you the little signs, that guys in the know, will notice, and the conversation will escalate from there. If there isn't, you just got in some practice, and will feel even more confident on each following approach. Three cheers for the guru... Hip Hip hooray!
Hey David.... I just wanted to say... I think that is actually the BEST video I have ever seen you put out, hands down. Finally real, solid, useful, advice about meeting people. That was REALLY helpful, and if I wasn't so damn tired, I'd go out and use that right now.
(And NO, I'm not "back". I just wanted to say that. )
John,
Don't leave the blog. You have been here too long. You have learned so much and made so much progress. Don't let a few misunderstanding judgmental fools affect the way you feel about yourself and the real progress you are making. They are self righteous, conceited, bigots, who should be ignored. They think that by just saying happy words, thinking happy thoughts, and writing lol, haha hehe smiley face bullshit nonsense, that that is all that is needed to "make real, meaningful progress". They have no idea how the "real world" works. The ups and downs, realistic living, getting ahead,and how to learn to cope, without letting it get you down, other than writing happy words and saying how great, and happy they are, while insulting those of us that are realists, and trying to make "realistic, substantial" changes in our lives, instead of their nondescript happy words with no depth. Don't let "averageness" and ignorance, affect real lifechanging progress, that is a very slow process, when done correctly. Best of luck, in whatever you decide!
Yes, but hello doesn't give you anything to continue the conversation with.
I'm pretty sure any guy can simply say hello, what most have issues with is what to say AFTER the hello. What David showed is a good way to dive right into a conversation easily without having to think all that much.
After hello, followed with How are you doing today?..I have picked up there with a smile and the conversation continues..
As David says in the video, you can say "Hey, how are you doing today?" and just really listen, its all about being real..So really what ever comes across as authentic really works..
Honestly for me, I myself enjoy the "shorter" things guy say lol, like "Hi there beautiful" always gets a smile from me...and a nice way to start a conversation..
Or at a bar an "older" guy simply asked me, "enjoying your drink, sweetheart" hehe it made me smile and talk to him since it seemed sincere and gentlemanly..
I had a guy once comment on my coat, it was an unusual coat and asked me if I made it myself..and that started a conversation..
A woman's going to pick up on the fact that you're talking to her to try to validate yourself just the same as she's going to pick up on you just wanting to have sex. When you're concerned with what being with a woman can do for you, it's going to chase her off. However, if all you want ultimately comes down to, "Hey, let's get to know each other and have a little fun," you're going to see a lot more success.
Stop being some emotional leech who is trying to find that magical woman to save you from your emo music and just go have some fun.
I personally think "hello" is a luke-warm introduction. A situational approach is much better. For instance, you're in a store, you can walk up and talk about the weather, whatever she's looking at, inviting her to lunch and getting to know you, the economy, etc. But before any of that, it takes at least some social skills. Not everyone will be ready for boot-camp style "get out there and talk to women" kinda attitude.
If someone's not ready to "get out there and talk to women," they need to get the sand out of their vagina and do it anyways. They're not going to develop social skills by sitting in their dorm room and playing video games.
I may be a condescending ass, but I'm a condescending ass that got out there, met women, and improved my social skills. The number of people I've met just this summer is easily in the triple digits.
"If I can't be good at it from the beginning, I'm not going to try," is a recipe for never getting anything done. Your conversations may be full of tension and desperation in the beginning, but the point isn't that you need to be smoother than James Bond from day one. The point is to practice and get better.
The more anyone practices, the better they will get. Sure they'll fail a lot, but so what? It'll get easier in time because they actually had the balls to try and the endurance to not give up.
It's not that easy though, because forcing yourself out of your social bubble can cause a lot of tension and desperate energy, which is a turnoff. And I doubt you're going to get someone to take your advice and be chill about everything, if you're a condescending ass about it (whattup David).
When approaching/talking to women, I try to think of what women have said when they have approached me. Generally, when women come up to talk to me, they will comment on my jacket (a leather with patches and pins I made myself) or they'll comment on a book I'm reading asking if it's good. That's the stuff I ask women about. Interesting clothing, jewelry, books, whatever.
I'm a notoriously bad bowler, and when I go bowling with buddies, I usually catch women laughing after I slip and throw a gutter ball (I swear I don't do this on purpose). Then I'll go over and talk to them asap. I'll razz them and ask if they can do better (they usually do the next turn) and so they get to razz me. It's all in good fun, I'm not going over there with the intention of picking them up. If she's interesting, I'll push it and see what happens, but if not I don't care.
I enjoy solitude and reading books and such. Those are one person activities and I'm a big "me time" person. This definitely helps my outlook and don't give a shit attitude because I'm not bullshitting. I really don't care if they reject me.
Maybe try commenting on general things like that?
This video just came at the perfect time in my life, everything I've been learning, paying attention too, you just summed up in 2 minutes. I feel like I know all I need to know, and its all so simple!! Life is good and it's getting better, exciting times!
Sand in vagina is such a stark image. Where do you come up with these? Sex on the beach?
When it comes to approaching women I think guys have to play off the momentum and that momentum isn't exactly what you think. There can be several awful approaches and those can still inspire the guy as much as a successful approach can. Try it, crash like Icarus for daring to go too close to the sun if that's the level you're working from. Hey at least you flew and you had one hell of ride doin' it right? You're still alive after that car wreck of an approach. Now do it again!
Vacation observation.
It is so easy to get laid by a strange woman, who you just met,and barely know, while on vacation, and she is so easy and feels safe that no one will find out. But, meet one that is really into you, wants a future with you, and that same girl will give it up to every acquaintance she comes into contact with, with no question. But, The poor guy, who really appreciates her, wants her attention and love, is the last one to get the sex, and has to wait while she is giving it up to six other guys she doesnt give a shit about. I tell you, women have some screwed up ways of thinking....And don't even tell me this is BS. I have seen it over and over.
Deeyam Manny, that neck is massive.
Bob, your misogyny is showing as usual. Perhaps if fewer peopled committed bias fallacies to serve the purpose of a rhetorical device, we'd get fewer ignorant statements such as yours.
I'd say you should research some statistical evidence for your ridiculous claims but I doubt you can adequately assess it, judging by your awful interpretation a while ago (if my memory serves me correctly) of a statistic of the number of men who discovered their child isn't actually theirs. You used this statistic to say that a certain number of children aren't the son or daughter of his or her father. The number of men is 1/3 right? That's the number of men who suspect their child isn't theirs and got tested, not the actual number of men who aren't the fathers of their children. If a man can easily tell his child isn't his, why would he get tested? The real number is most likely much, much lower.
I'll watch the video later when I have time.
Idiot reply as usual, by our misquieded "scholar" of the blog. The message I quoted was weeks ago, and it was not 1/3 of men got their child tested, because they were suspicious. It is a fact that 1/3 of men are raising children, assuming it is theirs, when in reality, (if they were tested) would not be theirs, but from a fling, or affair, as I stated above. It is so easy to have one, when the man is away, with a strange woman, who knows it is safe, and will never get caught.Women are so horney, and want something new, that they will seek out ways to find fresh "meat", without getting caught. No man wants to know the truth about their kid not being theirs, and will always assume they are, unless proven otherwise, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and even then resist believing it. It would ruin everything they hold dear about their marriage, trust, and beliefs about their (presumed) precious children. You will never get men to actually test their children, as they don' really want to know the truth, or it would upset their whole fantasy life.
Here is a quick google study showing up to 30%, but I have seen many studies showing at least 35% of fathers raising children they presume are theirs, are from another mans semen...
August 2005
A study from Liverpool John Moores University in the UK has found up to 1 in 25 fathers are unknowingly raising another man's child.
The research, reported in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, was drawn from studies of men and women wanting proof of paternity from testing as well as studies based on genetic health screening. The researchers in Liverpool found that rates of cases where a man was not the biological father of his children, in some studies to as much as 30%.
i suspect that that study is heavily biased towards english women. remember england is the land that produced graham greene, lady chatterley, and some very tawdry 1950s bw films about married noble women gettin it good by working class lotharios. haha i love england.
(zach thanks i work out hard)
There are just as many dysfunctional men as there are women. There's no point in generalizing. Some women are better than some men, and some men are better than some women. There's no "better" gender. We're all individuals.
You cannot have scientific evidence for the fact that 1/3 of men are unknowingly raising another man's child. That study cannot take place. The study is that 30% of men who test themselves for the paternity of their presumed child aren't the biological father. I cannot believe you are failing to understand this. That says 1 in 25, I don't see how that helps your point. Again paternity test. Most men are so clearly the father of their child they have no reason to get tested.
The researchers in Liverpool found that rates of cases where a man was not the biological father of his children, in some studies to as much as 30%.
Can't get much planer than that jack ass. And you are wrong, as you usually are with your hypersuperiority responses, trying to impress the blogs readers, into believing your mental prowess. By the way, that will not get you laid buddy. Your inexperience and ignorance continues to embarrass you, and make others think of what a foolish little man trying to prove his intelligence, and superiority, when there is obviously none by continually attacking me, even when you are ignored.
I happen to know about 15 guys that I have discussed this with. out of the 15 four admit to having kids that they know are theirs, and their "exgirlfriends" did not tell their new men, that it is not their kid, and let them raise them as if they were. They all kept this secret even today after someof them over 20 years...Small study, yes, but none the less, a study.
This is it...
David Wygant, your work is paying off in mumbai india...if you come here sometime, it'll be my pleasure to show you around town and introduce you to real indian women..not the indian ones in new york or california...
Thank you for transforming my universe
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