So, I was at Whole Foods with a client the other night…

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That’s fine. Go ahead and make the jokes right now:

David is talking about Whole Foods? Here we go again.  

Mr. Whole Foods: you must own stock in Whole Foods!  

Yeah, I know what you all say.  I see the funny things online.  I read some of the comments.  They’re saying that I only shop at Whole Foods.

Well all right, listen up: who cares if it’s Whole Foods.  It could be Ralph, Safeway, A&P, Piggly Wiggly, Winn-Dixie—doesn’t matter.  Could be any one of those.  Who cares?

Call it a supermarket.

Anyway, my client and I were walking around.  This woman was walking towards us and he looked at her.  And she looked at us.

He looked at me and he said, “We should just turn around and talk to her right now.”

I said, “No. We’re going to look all creepy-stalker-esque—you don’t do that.  We need to walk-around and circle back.”

Either you talk to her right at that moment—as I talk about in my program Undercover Approaches—or you do The Circle-Back.

(And you need to click that link and learn about the program if you really want to get good at this. Here’s my extreme honest little pitch: buy it.  You’ll understand what I’m talking about better and you’ll become better.)

So anyway, I looked at him and said, “We’ll go down the aisle, then the aisle next to it.  We will bump into her again.”

So we walked around, circled back through a couple aisles, and—imagine that—there she was.

“Bingo,” I said.

“Hello,” he said.

We smiled, we talked, and she was at ease.

Here’s the deal: if a woman looks at you and you don’t say anything immediately, but then turn around instantly and follow her down the aisle to go talk to her, you’re going to creep her out.  She’s not going to want to talk to you.  She’s going to run away.

If you smile, look at her, and then walk away, and then basically do the circle back and talk to her a few minutes later, it’s going to be natural, easy, calm, and she’s going to be open to a conversation.

A lot of you guys do the creeper-follow, and that’s why she doesn’t want to talk to you.

Learn the art of the Circle-Back, and you’ll be far better at meeting women that you don’t approach immediately.

Have a good, honest, fun night.