Are You Afraid of the Big Bad Blowjob?

Men's Advice Sex, Turn-Ons & Turn-Offs, Uncategorized

By David Wygant March 14, 2012 254 Shares

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Happy Hump Day everybody!

Today we have a SHORT podcast about blowjobs…

…every man’s favorite topic (next to boobs and sports).

This was sparked by a question from one of our lovely readers, Michelle. (Hey Michelle!)

Listen up, listen good, it’s time for David Wygant’s Podcast Wednesday:

So, men, what do you think? What should Michelle do in this situation?

How do YOU feel about blowjobs? Let me know in the comments below.

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Jamie

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Big fan of the blowjob.

Kevin

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

I could use a blowjob

Dancer

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

My girfriend only did it twice in half a year(And this because I asked her to). I told her that it was amazing and i really enjoyed it. But I dont like to always get this look when i ask her to give me a blowjob. And even when I ask her she doesnt say anything and looks around.. and waits that i come off my thoughts. Most of the time what happens is that i enjoy my part i lick her till she comes. But she never asks or seems to pull me on my back or go down on me ... I dont know what i am doing wrong. My public hair is trimmed nicely. My balls are shaved. I smell good. My dick smells good. And that is not my opinion I had some girlfriends befoer and with none of them I had such a problem.

Ken

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Dancer, I'm not a sexpert, but it seems that the reason she isn't enthused about giving you a blow job is possibly due to how you receive it! You told us you like it, but, do you grab her head?- If she doesn't want you to do you choke her? - If she doesn't want to be choked. Do you come? Do you caress her and love on her while she gives it? Just some things to think about!

Dancer

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Thanks for your reply. No I didnt grab her head. I told her to do it the way she enjoys it. If she didnt wat it I normally didnt care that much. And I dont insist. No I didnt come in her mouth. Maybe I did not touch her enough while she was doing it. But I really enjoy it and i guess that she recognized that. I told her that it feels so good...

Mike

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Didn't you know David? Today is actually steak and blowjob day! Thanks for the podcast, it really makes a difference.. I actually made the mistake once years ago of turning down a blowjob, but only because I was tired and trying to fall asleep (it takes a couple hours sometimes).. But that only made her think she was bad at giving blowjobs! When in reality she gave the best blowjob I've ever had. Even to this day!!! I'm glad I got the chance a couple years later to tell her she was awesome at it.

Ken

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Blow jobs are a funny thing Dancer. Some women love them, some don't. On the receiving end, I really don't want them. I know that sounds crazy, but I've NEVER met a woman who could give me one that made my toes curl. I have NEVER come from a blow job either. I can take it or leave it. This is just my opinion.

Victor

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

In my honest opinion, if my lady gave me a great blowjob, I would definitely stick around like a stray cat who is fed all the time. :-)

Batman

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Blowjobs are like pizza.. even when it's bad.. you still want more..

Batman

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

or better yet You know the difference between like and love.... Spit and swallow

Intern Dan

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Happy Steak and Blowjob Day Everyone! May your mouth and the mouth of your lover be filled with delicious meat!

Haha

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

are you fucking kidding me with this shit, you say its how he receives it? he tells her its amazing enjoys it very much. thats a joke. Clearly hes been to weak in the relationship. she gives him this look. if i eat the shit out of my girl and she never wants to give me a blowjob there better be a good ass reason. look man, there are some girls that have real sexual hangups, but mostly its gonna be stuckupness, she doesnt have to, you didnt man up enough, didnt shape the relationship properly that kinda thing. when i was younger i had these same issues ridiculous things girl not wanting to give bjs acting weird overp ulling her hair, rofl even not wanting doggy. theres no quick answer all i can say is evolve yourself educate yourself on how to properly run your relationship the resources are outthere

Haha

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

actually listened to thep odcast now. good simple commonsense stuff. praising and making her feel comfortable to do freaky things. daring to say what you want n like. as well as for her is the basis of it all. and very important but your gonna be able to that from a place of masculintiy and somewhat authority it will still be tought if she doesnt respect you enough as a man. or if she somewhere feels she can jsut get away with second class behaviour

Paula R

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Hahahaha ewww, Intern Dan! Putting it that way sounds kind of... Gross! My man will be pleased with the blowjob part of this day! I think I could be someone who gives more blowjobs, but I just like sex so much! So it usually leads to it quickly! Haha

Kevin

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

@Paula You just wanna hurry up and fuck huh?

Collin

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

I've never liked blowjobs that much either. They're never really that good. Then again, I generally have a hard time getting off anyways. I'm too in my head.

Jennifer

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

When I was married, I was not a big fan of blow jobs. Plus, I hate it when he went down on me. Then I dated an older man. He was good. He would talk to me gently. While I was performing oral sex on him, he would rub my ears, gently massage my neck and back, and play with my hair. He didnt mind moving into different position so my neck would not be uncomfortable. In time, I look forward to it and enjoy the completion of the act. Plus, he knew how to please me. I missed that. I have not met another man who does not. I know its my fault for I do not tell my lover what I want.

Mic

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

You guys are wussies you want a blow job just get her warmed up a little push her head down or just stick it in her mouth the rest will cum natuarally,,,LOL! sounds crude but they love it!!

Leanne

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

So much of this sounds like communication is needed about what we like and don't like. I asked David a question about ten days ago on how to deal with things when the sex is not quite getting together. @ guys who don't really enjoy blow jobs - if this is matched with delayed ejaculation, a testosterone level check may be helpful. Testosterone can gradually diminish with age. Low testosterone can make ejaculation via oral sex almost impossible. Just a thought... Leanne

Dancer

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

@Ken: I had one girlfriend that was amazing doing this. Her blowjob felt better than being inside of her :O. However... But for me its more like a symbolic thing. If she enjoys my body like I do enjoy hers then I get a proof that she really likes me. If I put in the effort why isn't she doing it. I'm not necessarily expecting it just because I lick her. But it would be great if we could be as mutual as possible for that hour. @Haha: thanks i guess im getting the point I should talk with her about this point. I am kinda soft in relationships maybe that's why this all happens. My girlfriend seems to be one of the girls you are describing.

Tony K

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

Hey Obi, I hope things turn out well! I wish you and the fam bam the best!! Fun question for everyone: When was the weirdest time you ever gotten a blowjob? Personally, it was when I was driving. BTW, David you should get in this too! -TK

sandy h

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

when he went mia did he have another girl on the side? that is what gets me when I have sex with a guy and then look up he is with another woman. what is this the gathering of a harem/harlots. okay to the topic I love to lick/suck on that lollipop and have a man give me face. I love to watch in mirrors while a man is having sex with me. it sounded like the old came in and the new wore off and off to better pastures.

sandy h

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

why is that a guy will put down a woman that does not have climaxes? why do they think that everyone shoots like they do? there are times that I do not have climaxes but it does not mean that I am not into the experience. that is what gets me why does he want us to feel like we are less than a person and great in bed how about this when I want another go at it you can not get it up to c if I can come with u. why is it that you ejaculate before I come? think about guys you pump and come before you did not allow me to get my momentum so how do u expect me to come with u after you ejaculated do you know anything about longevity?

sandy h

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

once a man ejaculates and a woman is into the sex well hell you did not give us time to come ourselves. now you come and we are hanging in the balance and now he is soft and then you have the nerve to ask me did you come. damn man if you did not go soft i had this experience with more than one guy and he would say it will take a while for him to come up. well guys learn longevity or slow hand and give us a women a chance to come with you not put us down...

sandy h

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

or take some viagra!

Kevin

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

Maybe the guy went MIA because he's flexible enough to give himself a blowjob, once he got tired of that, he came back to get the real thing.

Intern Dan

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

Dancer, being soft in a relationship will definitely make the frequency of blowjobs dwindle. If you want more blowjobs you really need to become a stronger man and amp up your sexual energy. Would you say you're sexually confident/powerful? Leanne, you bring up a great point. I was deep into workout program but my diet was crap and my testosterone levels dropped like crazy and sex became difficult. Jennifer, what was it about blowjobs during your marriage did you dislike?

Jennifer

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

Intern Dan, My husband was my first. I didn't know anything. He show me how he wanted to be satisfy by using his fingers. He would put his fingers in my mouth so I would get use to it. It felt weird. Then when I was ready to perform oral sex. He just lied there and I didn't hear a word from him. Longest time I wasn't even sure I was doing it right. I would ask him if like it. His favorite word was sure. Then I would only perform it on special occasion and then only on his birthday. It was until after I was divorced, I found out I love oral sex. I didn't know a guy make noises. I didn't know I could make noises doing it too. I love it when the guy moves his hips and gets involve too. Plus, I like it when a guy tells me what he wants. Then I tell him what I want to do with it and he is receptive to it. I didn't get that with my ex husband. Lack of communication. I was scared he would judge me. Now life is too short. When I decide to be intimate with a man, I know their isn't anything to be afraid of. I know this moment is special and he can't take that away from me.

Collin

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

@Leanne, Is it that unheard of for a guy to have low testosterone at 23 instead of 50?

Adam

Friday, March 16th, 2012

Some chicks are weird about blowjobs, and some guys are weird about blowjobs, just like some guys are weird about cunnilingus and some chicks are weird about cunnilingus. There are guys who aren't into it, and there are guys who think it's "dirty". Then there are the guys who enjoy it, but still think it's dirty: These guys are a problem: because of this inner conflict they don't want someone they "care about" or "love" to do something "dirty" so they'll go and get some on the side. If their wife/GF gives them a blowjob they'll freak out (go MIA?) because they're conflicted: They like it, but they don't want to see their wife/GF doing it. These guys need counselling. I'd try to figure out if Michelle's BF is one of these conflicted guys who likes blowjobs, but gets freaked out when she's giving him one. And if he's getting any on the side, that's a whole other can of worms. BTW, why isn't there a slang for cunnilingus that's on par with "blowjob"? I dunno... I've had one blowjob in my life, about 5 years before I lost my virginity. Note to guys who think it would be great to be hung like a plough-ox: It's not great :( Adam, the cunning linguist.

Kurt

Thursday, March 29th, 2012

I couldn't care less about blowjobs either and I have never been able to come from one. I'll gladly eat out a girlfriend, provided she doesn't smell completely rank. Women really seem to like it if the guy knows how to eat them out. A lot of guys must not be very good at this - I was fortunate in that when I was 24 and inexperienced I dated a 27-year-old girl who taught me what to do.

Kurt

Thursday, March 29th, 2012

Collin, I don't think it a testosterone issue. You probably have difficulty relaxing, which makes it impossible to cum from it.

Jim

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

blowjobs are good don't get me wrong but I am more interested and more turned on by giving oral sex - there is an art to cunnilingus and I admit that it was hit and miss until I discovered the proper method. Because one girl came right out and told me what I did wrong after I'd done it right before. always listen to the woman they know best.

Are You Afraid of the Big Bad Blowjob?

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