How to be a Great Conversationalist (VIDEO)

I am not really concerned with this kind of stuff anymore. I was just reading the "types of men women are not attracted to" article,, and I know which type I am. I am,, the "sexually invisible man." Women don't even realise I am in the room. And when I speak to women,, they give me a blank look, and just show NO interest at all. I am as sexually intriguing as a toaster. As a matter of fact, if a woman was lock in a room with me, and a toaster,,, I'm betting the toaster would be getting a lot of action. I am sexually,, NONEXISTENT.

"I was just reading the “types of men women are not attracted to” article,, and I know which type I am. I am,, the “sexually invisible man.” Women don’t even realise I am in the room. And when I speak to women,, they give me a blank look, and just show NO interest at all." I don't remember seeing that.When was that posted.

Bobby--baby steps my man, baby steps!! You're on the right track--it can seem overwhelming with all this information out there, but keep it coming and keep letting yourself out slowly but surely. Think long term and take it from me that you are definitely on your path...

I thought it was a pretty good vid but its also tough to hear. I try to do things to help myself and I think ive been improving over the last few years but I go at such a turtle speed. I get so excited over someone I just met so easy then I get tense and disappointed. I try not to think about a single girl and listen to Davids advice of have an "abundance mindset" but its really hard to not think about someone. I find so few girls interesting and even lesser people. I'm perfectly content most of the time not having friends (sounds funny but really is true). Theres a girl i'm super interested in right now and I only met her because her original class seat was taken and we got to talking and teasing. But then the teacher interrupted and class ended and I was so nervous I didn't even say goodbye. Shes probably like what the fuck. Stupid things like that are always on my mind. I might not get an opportunity to talk to her now and she probably wont sit next to me. Maybe I need to be much more aggressive. Any thoughts? And thank you for the Video.

lol I didn't mean to write lesser people. I meant lesser like smaller relationships.

Hey David and the guys I want to ask you something I broke up with this girl I was Dating today because its started out as fling and we both were having fun and I started liking her more and she did the same for me. She's a single mother of two kids and she has Baby Daddy Drama during our relationship there was several times we almost broke up because of her Ex who constantly is giving her a hard time and doesn't see to be happy. I spoke to my brother and friends about this and was told its better to break up with her and ask her if she still want to be friends I told her that yesterday and she said she doesn't want to see me or talk to me anymore this breaks my heart I don't know what to do any advise?

Hey Pete, I'm no expert by any means and it sounds like a tough situation but.. Honestly there has to be a better girl out there who won't be making you feel uncomfortable because of her past drama. She doesn't sound like shes stable. If you've already been having mini breakups then I think you already know what the responsible thing to do is. But it can also be a positive thing and a big relief because theres always someone just as good or better.

John, I was sexually invisible for a long time too and it sucked. The only question that matters though is what will you do to sexually re-appear? Bobby, the monkey chatter you have is intense. I've got some questions for you: Why aren't most of the women you interesting? What is it they are lacking? Pete, breaking up is always painful. I feel for you big time. Just remember that you will meet more women and you'll have great connections with them. Remember that as you go through all the emotions and pain of a breakup and you'll get to the otherside of it.

Hey Dan thx for reply.. If I remember correctly you were a grappling fan =). My monkey chatter is always incredibly intense but slowly but surely I think i'm doing better with it. I don't know exactly what they are lacking.. maybe I just haven't met a lot of people similar to me. I was just always introverted and couldn't see myself with an extroverted girl. Like I seriously don't understand extroverted people. Its so not my wave length. I like to talk about deep crazy things and I like intense things and want someone like that obviously. I feel like i'm somewhat charismatic and can tease and have fun but a massive problem of mine is leading and taking crazy risks. I just always feel im doing something wrong or going to make a mistake. Then I think to myself ya know what just go out and make tons of mistakes. And then I think, I'm not even a self confident person and I don't like the way I live so how would I ever become someones fantasy? Such a catch 22. I keep practicing being dominant though and saying things I normally wouldn't say and I do notice I get a response. In fact this guy in class stares at the girl all class and I leaned in and I was like I think this crazy guy is in love with you.. And we laughed about it and she says "I knowhe stares at me all the fucking time! I'm not even that interesting!! Or maybe he's just looking at you!" I make so many mistakes though because im not genuinely totally confident.. Only to a degree. Is that OK?? Its strange though.. In some ways I am confident and leading but not with women... But what am I supposed to do? Wait until my life feels perfect to me before I start dating? I think I should just avoid talking about and thinking about this girl I met yesterday but it's not easy at all. I'm not stressing about it like I used to but there is certainly still some stress.. In a way I feel like I shouldn't be here asking for advice because nothing is going to matter until I feel genuine love for myself.. But I'm a little tangled. I just needed to hear myself think maybe =) For me to just take charge of my life makes me panic thinking about it.. So I do it in very baby steps. And Its just been so long since I met someone I thought was really cool and I really want to keep engaging her. Maybe I wont get a chance for a couple classes(weeks) though. Ughhh I hate knowing all the answers but not living them =) But I guess clearly I dont have all the answers. Thanks for listening.

Bobby, I can see and feel the frustration of being caught in the catch 22. I used to have that in a major way. How was I supposed to be confident with myself and with women if I could get a woman? And I was so afraid of making mistakes. Mistakes were the end of the world to me. I thought making a mistake would lead me to being a hobo on the street with red and yellowy eyes. and always drunk. Then I'd die and go to hell. That's what the monkeys told me would happen if I made a mistake with my life. I'm really serious. That was the pressure I was putting on myself. So what's the worst case scenario for you if you make a mistake or take a big risk? Would you become a bum on the street too?

So how did you progress? How long did it take you?

Bobby, I'm going to give you a frustrating answer. My progress was slow sometimes. It was fast sometimes. It was always the speed I needed it to be. I don't really know how long it took because the funny thing about this self-development stuff is that you never stop. And all of it was worth it. When it really started clicking for me was when I let myself off the hook and decided I was going to give myself a month to live without worrying about making mistakes. I figured, how much damage could I do to my life in one month? Without that fear of failing and mistakes I exploded, I was attracting women and I met my girlfriend. One month became two and now I do my best not worry about mistakes and embrace the chance to learn. It's an ongoing process. In my development I was always my biggest obstacle. I was always telling myself I was doing something wrong. Even if I wasn't. What I needed was someone to tell me that I was on the right track and I got that when I went to one of David's bootcamps. He really solidifed what I had been doing and the direction I was developing in. That's my progress in a nutshell. and It's still going on. It'll never stop.

Shogo this was a great post, man. I have a bad habit of living inside my head. I need to increase my situational awareness. Today there was a girl sitting next to me at the subway. She was reading a google map print out, yet she had a smart phone. I thought, hey maybe she hasnt heard of the Hop Stop app. But I didn't say anything. I wasn't attracted to her, but still, I have to make it a habit of acting on my thoughts and not keep them to myself.

my Ex texted me back last night after I broke up with her if that she was horny and wanted to have sex and first when I told her we should be friends she didn't want to be friends now she wants the benefits part even though it sounds tempting should I go for it or tell her we can't have sex anymore its either be just friends or not?

@interndan,, ,, ???,, I dunno. ??? What worked for you to appear from the "sexual invisibility"?

Thanks a lot Shogo and Dan. I definitely need to go out there and make more mistakes. In a way I really can't embarrass myself more than I already have in my past so I should be good to go!

Shogo you are an amazing teacher! I'm glad that David chose you to help him out.

Props for the "Botany of Desire" mention! Great documentary and great book!

Girl Tell All Series is extremely amazing. It is similar to a group of girls injecting a massive dose of their female brain into your head. You girl real do tell all and it great to know the truth for once. David talks about Portal words. I would like to know more about portal words. It would be great if someone could write a list of Portal words. Suntan lotion can make a great conversation as I found out today in the supermarket! Michael xx To all the Girls + David thank you.