Do you realize that every day when you wake up you have an opportunity to recreate yourself?

I remember when I was 19 and a sophomore at American University, I got broken up with by my high school girlfriend for the third time. (Thanks, Chris, for breaking my heart three times—now I know why I’m such a cold person. …Just kidding.) But anyway, my heart was broken. And I remember going to American University and thinking to myself, “You know, I want an abundance of girls I can date. I want to be able to meet girls whenever I want. I want people to know me for the person that I always dreamt myself to be.”

You know that superhero version of ourselves that we have in our heads? That incredible, awesome version of you that goes on all the adventures and saves the world? Well, we get so caught up in that superhero version of ourselves, but we don’t really know how to execute it. But here’s the deal: every day when we wake up, we’re naked. We are raw and vulnerable to the world. But then we put on this shell and our shell is all of our past experiences of failure and people that hurt us. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

When I went to college my sophomore year, I decided that I was going to become the person I always dreamt of because nobody knew who I was. I was able to portray the most confident version of myself because that is all they knew. They didn’t know about my past failures, they didn’t know anything about my past.

That’s how the world looks at you every single day. That girl that you are looking at in the corner at the grocery store, she has no idea that you are insecure. She has no idea that you have approach anxiety. The girl that you are checking out in the line at Starbucks has no idea about your approach anxiety or about any of your fears. It is about really becoming naked, open and vulnerable every single day.

For all of you that haven’t heard yet, I have got a brand new book out called Naked. Naked is all about stripping down all of your fears and all of your insecurities and allowing the world to see the amazing superhero version of yourself. It’s only $10 and it’s something that I think all of you need to grab because it’s a wonderful starting point for the new you.

When my publisher asked me when I wanted the book to come out, I said I wanted it to come out in the beginning of the year, so that everybody who is working on their resolutions and their new self will actually have something to work with. Naked is full of exercises. It’s a step-by-step guide to becoming totally raw, open, and vulnerable and so that you can go after what you want, not only in dating, but also in life.