Hey guys, Shogo here with another Friday edition!

Christmas is right around the corner, there are a lot of Holiday parties going on right now, and a lot of you younger guys are home for the holidays going out to the bars and seeing old friends…

So you’re out at night doing exactly what I always tell you to do.  You’re enjoying yourself, making your rounds talking to everyone, working the room, never trying to chase or pick up women and letting the ones you’re attracted to come to you.

You’re talking to everyone, having a good time, and pretty soon great things start happening, just like I said they would.  And just like that, you start talking to a REALLY hot woman.

But then the worst thing happens…She’s a total raging bitch.

You know the kind.  She kind of looks at you, raises an eyebrow, and says something really obnoxious, like:

“Um, why are you talking to me?”

“My boyfriend is in the bathroom you know…”

“Yeah whatever, that’s nice… BYE little man!”

What Are You Going To Say To Me?

So in your own head, you’re furious.  What a bitch, you think.  I mean, who does she think she is?  I was just talking and having a good time.  It’s not like I was hitting on her!  Does she really think she’s that great?  She’s not the prize, I’m the prize, you think to yourself.

You want to say something.  Really show her up and give her a piece of your mind.  But now she’s talking to someone else so you can’t just go up and interrupt them.  So you walk away feeling rejected.

And you can’t get that one interaction out of your head, and it’s just ruined your night.

If this is you, you need to change your mindset.  Mindset really is the most important thing.  Because while it is true that you are the prize, you are only the prize if you really believe it.

So here’s what I would do in that situation.

If she comes at me with a really ridiculous statement, I like to be a little immature myself at times, so I’ll play along and be equally ridiculous back.

If she asks me why I’m talking to her, I’ll be honest.  If I thought she was really hot and I wanted to get to know her to see what she was like as a person, that’s exactly what I’ll say.  And I’ll say it with a big grin and a twinkle in my eye.

If she tells me she has a boyfriend, I’ll say something like, “Congratulations, that’s quite the accomplishment.”  Or if she says her boyfriend is in the bathroom, I’ll ask her, “Number 1 or Number 2?  I just want to know how much time I have to flirt with you!”  (I think that’s from a movie somewhere.)

I don’t censor myself and I like to have fun talking to everyone. That’s just my personality. But I also believe that life is all about the people you surround yourself with, and I don’t surround myself with stuck-up, arrogant people.

And after a quick exchange I’ll just walk away.  I’ll smile and say, “Well that was an ‘interesting’ conversation, have a nice night,” and I’m on to the next person.

And that’s it.  A woman who is blatantly rude to me has just selected herself right out of the pool of people I want to spend my time talking to.

And that’s the most important thing you can learn.  You can come up with all the comebacks and cocky little lines you want (it works on some immature girls because, to be honest, only an immature girl would say something like that), but the bottom line is that you need to learn how to dismiss her.  You need to learn how to walk away feeling great about being the better person, and forget about that interaction immediately.

If a woman says something to you that makes you upset, ask yourself why you’re getting so upset.  It’s not your problem that she treats perfect strangers like shit.  No need to try to overcome that attitude.  The last thing you need in your life is a person with a negative attitude who has decided it’s ok to treat people like that.

The way I think is like this: I don’t need to win every time.  I don’t need to teach her a lesson.  There are tons and tons of women out there for me to meet who are both attractive and friendly.  I don’t need to say, “Ha!  You were wrong about me, in your face bitch!”  That’s all ego talking.  I don’t need to change her opinion about me, because I don’t really have anything to prove to her.

It’s all about practicing abundance in every aspect of your life.  An abundant mindset is crucial to developing an attractive personality.  You don’t have anything to prove to anybody, so start acting that way.