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Wow, you are at the beginner stages of approach. Really now...Talking to a sign? I realize you have to learn to crawl before you can walk, but c'mon! Give the real thing a try next time. :)
Hey David,
I kind of find that a lot of the things that you say are pretty repetitive, but really, I guess how that's how you get it through peoples heads. Just by reading your blogs and watching your videos, I have learned quite a lot. Well, like pretty much what you were saying in this video: if a woman doesn't like you, so what? I find it to be practice for me to be rejected. Oh well, who cares? Move on to the next. It really is about having the confidence and courage to go up to somebody and to try and have them interested in you. I feel like more people should be less stuck up and willing to talk to anybody. The other night, I went to a club, and I went up to a woman dancing, and said straight up "hey, you're gorgeous,looks like your friend left you stranded." Her friend was dancing with some other guy by the way. We started talking to each other, and she bought ME drinks. So the thing is, I just went out there and did what I did, with no fear of being rejected. I am also helping some of my friends out with the stuff I have learned reading your blogs and watching your videos. I guess that's all I have to say for now, and I don't really know how to say thank you. It almost seems as if now that I know this stuff, I feel like you are stating the obvious. Like, why didn't I have the guts or confidence to do any of these things before. Now it's almost as if what I have learned is now second nature, and I don't even have to think about what I am doing. Thank you, and I appreciate your time and hope you will respond to this. Have a great day.
I finished watching a childhood favorite, the breakfast club, and it made me see how I fucked up even worse than them. I fucked up with my old man, I fucked up with my family, I fucked up with maybell, I fucked up college by dropping out, and over all I fuck up with people.
I'm a fuck up. I wish that there were people like characters from the breakfast club, just so we could share our fuck ups with each other, but it wouldn't matter anyways since we would all be fuck ups.
and then people get mad at me, when I am jealous over another person's happy life. I can't help it, of course I'll be jealous. I'm like shit in the dirt, it fades away and no one remembers or gives a shit about it.
By the way David, when that couple walked past you, and looked at you like you were crazy, if I were in that situation I'd feel like shit, it has happened to me before where others perception of me killed my approach, which would leave me alone crying.
@David
I got to tell you what I did yesterday.
I went out with my friends,and I decided to approach some girl and have some conversation,cause I'm in foreign country and is a bit easier.
I did perfectly,I headed towards them directly looking at them,and say excuse me and bla bla,nothing offensively,and when we we'r talking we'r standing very close each.But they looked like shocked,and suprised.
I don't know why,after finished conversation I turned back and saw that they'r laughting,and teling something each other.
Kyle, that was a great observation!
Tom, life is a marathon not a sprint. You can change who you are and you're never stuck. Life will get better.
Konstantin, they were probably talking about you and how neat it was for a guy to just come up and talk to them.
Kyle
LIfe is all about repitition. To get good at anything you need to do the same things over and over till you master the skills.
That is what life is all about.
Quitters try something for a week and expect change. Winners work on something for a week and never quit never stop and never stop tweeking.
Life is indeed all about observation. The only thing you control is your ability to observe, comment, and connect with other people. Today at the beach, I had some very awesome conversations with both men and women. There were times ofcourse, where it just didn't connect. But that doesn't matter. Basing your self-worth on any one situation is just absurd.
Great video. Watching it really made me laugh. I can feel my abs :)
Hey David, I like the video, its hilarious.
thanks for posting, it is great advice.
so, umm, i hope i didn't scare john away,
John, I like your new pic!
Hey Theresa, if John's gone, I'm always free for some cyber-shenanigans... ;) Whadya say I show you what a real man is supposed to be like?
You can give me a one word answer: YES.
Listen coaches,I got one question for you.Today I met a beautifull friend of my friend.She is really hot,and she looks at me smiling so the chemistry is here.But I was thinking,when I'l ask her out(alone we together sure)whether I'l tell her directly that I like her,or in different way,give me some advice on that. please help cause I want to ask her tommorow.Thanks
So David, you have a PLASTIC blow up doll for your pleasure? No need to get to know how to approach and attract the real thing then... How did you get good at real, live girls, and why did you need to?
Konstnatin,
NEVER tell a girl "I like you", do you wanna go out!!! Just tell her you are going to an event this Friday, (whatever, a concert, park, riverwalk, hike, etc) and say "hey, it might be fun if you came along! I can meet you at 6! Where do you want me to pick you up? Anything along these lines will work. Guys always try to make too big a deal out of asking a girl out. Make it like you are doing her the favor of asking her to come along, and going out of your way to have her go along. Works every time man. Good luck!
Intern Dan, I don't think and hurry to write a response like there's a ticking clock if I don't do it in time. How do I overcome that?
I like the video because I have those thoughts all the time. I wish I could be my playful self all the time so I don't have those thoughts its draining.
Actually, I have a question, how do you become the girl that's the best instead being put on the side? For example, when I do find someone I like and its mutual how do I keep him?
Jeremy, ok the answer is no, sorry not attracted to you. I actually really like john, yeah I just know him from this site but from his comments he made me laugh, well a lot of people make me laugh in a good way not condescending, but I was drawn to john. I started coming to this site to see what he had to say and of course for advice. I wanted to respond a bunch of times but was scared, which I am trying to work on. Guys, why do u make girls fall hard for u than run away? And how can I fix that?
Guys, why do u make girls fall hard for u than run away?
Theresa,
In my experience, I've encountered girls who become needy too much too soon. In those cases I back off and walk away.
I guess it would work the same with women, if a guy became needy. It's just unattractive.
Why can't David do a video approaching women himself? with the camera visible to the women and all. it will prove that you have guts and confidence, otherwise you don't.
@bob "NEVER tell a girl “I like you”, do you wanna go out!!! Just tell her you are going to an event this Friday, (whatever, a concert, park, riverwalk, hike, etc) and say “hey, it might be fun if you came along! I can meet you at 6! "
Come on dude, why? why can't the world be for real, no games, no bullshit. I think everyone should say what they feel all the time, to fuck with social norm. but unfortunately it won't ever happen.
Something I learned is that confidence cannot be taught, something like David wygants products won't give you confidence. the only way you could gain confidence is by having good things happen to you.
I realized today that, I don't need women, to hell with them. I will tell my therapist this tomorrow, and hopefully they agree. if women cause me so much problems, then fuck them I should let them go. I am not gay, I just give up, I am a quitter and I am proud of it because it takes the monkey off my back. women drive me insane.
Theresa, I'm not sure I totally understand what you're typing but I think what you're saying is that you don't usually say what you think.
If that's true, why not?
As for your question about falling hard and running away, I think Farley hits the nail on the head. Would you consider yourself needy?
However, in this case John hasn't been around in a few days because of what Jeremy said the other day. I think John thinks he's not able to "compete" with other guys. We've all been trying to get it through to him that he's a cool guy and women (such as yourself) would be attracted to him just the way he is.
John's a pretty stubborn guy though and I doubt he'll let someone like Jeremy keep him away for very long.
And Tom, women don't drive you insane. You've been diagnosed with a few forms of mental illness, none of which are spread by women. Keep going to therapy, stay on the meds do what the doctor tells you to do.
And other thing i want to ask the coaches is about how to close the deal at first date,normaly if there is chemistry between each other.Some example some advice.Thanks
Konstantin,
If by closing the deal you mean have sex with her you need to not worry or care about closing the deal and having sex with her. Just go have fun with her and be in the moment. Tease her, have fun and be confident in your actions. Make good eye contact and smile mischievously.
Women aren't machines so you can't just press buttons in a certain sequence and get her to sleep with you.
The second you start worrying how you're going to close the deal you're going to lose her.
I want to apologize if anyone was offended by any of my comments, I didn't mean to offend anyone. I do like to joke around but I don't realize it could actually hurt someone till after the fact.
Intern Dan, why don't I say what I think? I honestly don't know, maybe they think what I will say is stupid and probably because I'm too shy. A lot of times I can't think of something to say until after the fact and than realize maybe I shouldn't have said something I did say because I don't realize someone may be offended, because i don't even realize it at the time.
Thank you to intern Dan and farley for the advice. I guess I am needy and I agree that is unattractive.
As for the music, that's what I like, I think they all have incredibly positive messages.
Theresa, I haven't seen any of your comments that are even remotely offensive. Don't worry :)
And I know what it's like to worry about saying what's really on your mind. I used to worry about offending people with my humour too.
What it all comes down to is that you need to know deep inside that everything you think and say is worthwhile because it comes from you. When you own yourself then you'll always have something to say. You won't worry about offending people either. And if you actually offend someone you can then sincerely apologize or brush it off as them being too sensitive.
And keep the music coming! Here's one for you. I don't think it's been posted yet:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqxaAfaCln8
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