For some reason so many guys always try to be too nice.

I like to be more mysterious, because I know that’s what will drive the women to really want me.

You guys remember Intern Dan’s blog about nice guys. You can be nice, no problem at all, but you’ve got to be great. You’ve got to be a guy who doesn’t act like Mr. Accommodating all the time. Those are the things you don’t want to do.

Don’t go out on certain dates if you don’t want to do, just because you think your date wants to. Don’t go hiking if you hate hiking. That’s simply a misconception that so many of us have throughout our entire lives. You become Mr. Accommodating, or even for women, Mrs. Accommodating.

Somebody tells you something that they’d like to do—something that you actually don’t want to do at all—but you do it anyway. And it’s a behavior pattern that you probably have done your entire life. Your friends want to go out on a Friday night, you’re not in the mood to go to a night club at all, but you go anyway. And then, because you acted so agreeable, you stand there in the corner all upset and wondering when you’re going to go home, and you just stand there wishing you drove your own car so you could leave. Or your friends start drinking in the afternoon, you’re not in the mood to drink, but you do it anyway because you don’t want to be left out.

Here’s the deal: If someone says something to you that you do not want to do, then you need to stand up for yourself. Say you’re on a date and your date says to you, “God, I’m a staunch Republican and I hate Obama.” If you love Obama, you need to stand up for it. Don’t give somebody an image of you that’s entirely wrong. Don’t be people’s doormat.

The reason you’re not driving women to really want you more is because you’re acting like her doormat. Women are not interested in having sex with doormats. But they are interested in being challenged, emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Start with standing up to your friends first. The next time your friends want you to go out with them somewhere you don’t want to go, tell them, “Hey, I want to pass on this one, let’s come up with a better idea.” Or better yet, let them do what they want while you stay home.

It’s time you started being less accommodating to others and more of an individual.