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This is definately a dangerous game to play. A lot of guys will "cock block", get VERY upset, and shut you down, in a hurry if you approach their target. Yea, they are just friends, not interested in her in "that way", yada yada. Not so, if men are with a cute woman, they have it in their mind, that there might be a chance with her. How would you feel, if you were trying to get to know a woman, and every "stray" sausage that walks by starts engaging and hitting on your target? The guy in the black is actually talking, but check out his body language. He is thinking to himself that he would like to wring the little intruders neck. Women are curious, and just because they are "looking around" means nothing. They could even be married to one of the guys, and you will get a rude awakening, and a blow to your confidence. My advice...Stick to low hanging fruit. Why chance a degrading approach, when it is totlally unnecessary?
Another episode so simply demonstrating techniques.
I agree with David, be bold. You strike out 100% of the time when you haven't even tried.
Often the guys could be uni or childhood friends, family members, or gay friends.
Get yourself off your mind and stop being so self-conscious, rather be casual, play it cool, be yourself, have a sense of humour.
Who cares if you get rejected or annoy one of the guys there? Just apologise and move on, smiling.
Bob-i see what your saying and yes i would prefer not to approach a woman with other guys, but i think cathy is right just be bold and if one of the guys doesnt like it just apologize, if your actually able to approach a woman like this, then you are the bravest of the brave and women love that:)
Bob said, "Women are curious, and just because they are “looking around” means nothing. They could even be married to one of the guys, and you will get a rude awakening, and a blow to your confidence. My advice…Stick to low hanging fruit. Why chance a degrading approach, when it is totlally unnecessary?"
This is a typical problem for guys and it was for me too. Rather than just having fun meeting people, it's outcome based. One has to know if she single and willing to date before you approach her and talk to her otherwise it becomes a huge let down as a result of high expectations. Women are fun to talk to and get to know regardless of their status. For example, a beautiful gal who could be considered a 9 or 10 began to work at the same place I did. Guys who were single and married were just drooling over her, she had good energy, seemed friendly from a distance. I suspected she was married but one day I just approached her and starting talking to her, we hit it off and yes, she was married but she became one of my closest friends! :) Also, there was guy whom I worked with who dated a lot of women, some of which were married. Well he was completely confused, shaking his head in disbelief, and very jealous over the friendship I had with her.
And another thing, when you make friends with women, they have friends you might be interested in dating, this how one meets new people! If you screen her out before you talk to her, your only limiting opportunities in meeting women!
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When approaching a women with other guys, I find that most of the time it is not bad. As long and you are friendly with everyone, you shouldn't have a problem. I will try to acknowledge the guys but keep my attention on the woman and try to separate her. If the guys start to act up, just keep cool. If they are becoming dicks for no reason and you keep your cool, the woman will see that and draw more towards you.
Why does the man always have to approach? Why does all the pressure have to be on us?
Women fought in the feminist movement because they wanted to be on the same playing field as men, but when it comes to dating they want to be old fashion
Hi Anthony
No sorry. My response was edited - it was much longer.
Basically this paradox is one of the issues that has made me so determined to research this and similar issues over many years!!!
Although women's lib was great in some ways, there are many who believe it went too far.
I am a strong believer that men and women are different and do have complementary roles to play.
Some things seem to be constant... For a man to want to protect his lady and profess that she is his, he first needs to pursue her. [There are 3 P's, sorry I forgot the 3rd!]
Nice video David. Those in-field videos are really cool to watch.
Mike, i agree with you, its great to meet new people and make friends without an outcome in mind. More people means more opportunities!
I'll tell you what; I absolutely support the theory of being bold and getting yourself out there. This is definitely important for those who may be a bit shy and not as outgoing socially.
Here's my problem with this scenario, from my experiences:
I have some very attractive women that I hang out with. These same attractive women have hooked me up with some of their amazing, attractive friends. These are the same top of the line, high quality women that we all want to end up with one day. Needless to say, life is good, and I've had a blast going out with them. They're fantastic friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world.
The more time I spend with them, the more I can tell that times are definitely changing as far as how often these techniques are being spotted. Women can definitely notice when this stuff is being used as a "technique" and not as a genuine scenario. They can tell when a guy is wanting or expecting something from them; almost like, as they've put it, "a creepy used car salesmen." Think about it, a guy approaches out of nowhere, has an almost TOO positive attitude, wants to be buddy buddy with everyone, and then pushes his way to make a pass or separate one of our friends from the group. Of course he wants something, and it comes off a bit too invasive. If the woman is into the dude, this is obviously fine and I have no problem with it. I'm glad things worked out for the both of them.
But I can tell you from experience, that more often then not, at least to my friends, they see these guys as just another con artist with a different smoke and mirrors routine, and they become weary. You'd be just as well off wearing an oversized plush hat, eyeliner, and doing magic tricks. They want the genuine article.
So IF you are going to do this, be extremely, and I mean extremely casual. Do it to be more social. Don't just go out there to "target" a woman, or whatever BS lingo is being used these days.
Also, and I can't stress this enough, I highly recommend doing the work on the inside to make sure you aren't doing this out of desperation, neediness, or giving off that creepy vibe of wanting something in return for your efforts.
They can see all of this from a mile away and now I can, too.
This works to your advantage though, because if you're a good dude and genuinely have your act together, they'll know, and you WILL be rewarded. Trust me.
Hey
I’ve always been a bit over exited before going on a date and I worked out a solution that works really well for me. It is online cinema.
It removes a lot of tention and you also get to know the person. Trust me the actual date will be lot’s more fun after that :)
Hope it helps
Cheers
Martin
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