I want you to think of life as a gigantic restaurant.

I want you to look at life with options on a menu. Imagine life on is just a giant menu where you can choose what you want to do.

You can choose what type of joy you want to experience.

You can choose the people you spend your time with.

You can choose the people you want to love.

And most importantly, you can choose what no longer serves you anymore. You can literally tell the virtual waiter: “Hey, I don’t want anymore of this cup of relationship anymore.”

Or “I don’t want this bowl of Fred anymore.”

Or “I don’t want this bowl of a dysfunctional relationship.”

Or “I don’t really want your shit on my bun anymore.”

The magic statement is: “this no longer serves anymore.”

You see, so much of us are stuck in relationships that no longer serve us.

We have stories that are no longer serving us, that no longer work for us, that no longer satisfy us. But yet, every single day, we continue to live out these stories and live out this life because we’re so afraid to say the magic words.

This no longer serves me. Say no thank you. I don’t want another cup of pain.

I don’t want another bowl of misery.

And I certainly don’t want anymore shit on the bun from you.

This no longer serves me.

For so many of us, it’s such a challenge to actually walk away from something. We feel a sense of obligation to other people. I remember one time years and years and years ago.

I wanted to walk away from a relationship that no longer served me, but I felt bad.

She moved in with me.

She gave up her cheap apartment, and believe me, in New York City, that cheap apartment is worth everything. I felt guilty. So what did I do? I stayed in the relationship for another year. Why not? Why not, I felt bad for the other person even though the relationship wasn’t serving me at all.

I was young, I was in my 20s. When we used to go bed at night and when we touched I would literally flinch.

There was a line down the middle of the bed, if we actually crossed it, we would actually have to touch one another. That relationship no longer served me at all, but yet, I kept it going because I felt bad for somebody else.

I’ve done this in my life, as I’m sure all of you have done it in your life as well. Friendships, relationships, dynamics with your children. Things that continue that no longer serve you anymore. You see, one of the hardest things to do is to stand up to the emotional waiter or waitress and tell them.

No thank you, I don’t want another cup of pain.

I don’t want another bowl of misery.

And I don’t want your shit on my bun anymore.

You see, this relationship no longer brings me joy and no longer serves me.

This dynamic that we’ve created no longer works for me.

You see, it’s tough, because you created these dynamics, you’ve enabled them to be the way that they are with you. So it’s going to come as a complete surprise when you pull the rug out from underneath that and you deny the fact that you don’t want another cup of misery ever again.

It’s not easy to do. It’s a challenge. But the quicker you do it, the better your life is, and the more you bring joy back into your life. Because that’s why we’re all here. We’re here for Joy. We’re here to love. We’re here to be the most incredible person of ourselves and we’re here to eliminate the people that bring us a bowl of misery and a shit on a bun.