Ignore Mr. Penis

Billy the Kid

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

wow that was a ass kicking podcast today David!!!

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Max

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

I can't wait till do this for a week. I think this will really help me get out of my head.

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Anonymous

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

hahhaha love the blog picture

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Iron Man

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Thanks for email to this wonderful podcast, love your voice, it really motivates me to go out.

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Tony

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Thats so funny they do play with their penis all time even when they eat:)

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Babe Ruth

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

So guess we should always say what's in our head, but its not so easy at first. How long will it take to be completely free of the penis syndrome?

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Asian lover

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Too many of us I think still suffer from that penis syndrome. If we can all get rid of this one big problem then our life would have been so much more fulfilling.

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Dave

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

One of the most powerful podcast, and just listened to it for the second time.

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JasonX

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Someday I want to be at the level you and your coaches are David.

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Anonymous

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Heart connection is a lot better than penis one. And penis connection as always just temporary.

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Rick

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Life through at us constant challenges and its our job to master one after one. This is a fundamental one.

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Mario

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

For some reason I can't get onto a relationship because I think the girl isnot pretty enough. It's weird maybe it's the infuence my parents have on me? Who knows but I expect my first girl to be a model or something, I have to understand that beuty is not all looks. It's a mindset I have to fix. Can anyone give any tips?

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Riley

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

I do need to stop the monkey chatter, but its extremely difficult to do that whenever I come across a extremely attractive girl and I can only think about is how hard I want to f**k her

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Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Mario, Are you really looking at the girl for who she is... or for just the image she portrays to the world? That's how you are going to see past her beauty.

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Mats

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Am I mistaking, or is the monkey in the pic actually a female? :o

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yours howe

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Mats: it looks like its female since she is rubbing her clit:)

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Riley You need a change of mindset, if you keep on thinking about how hard you want to fuck her then you will not be able to listen well. Do you always think about how hard you want to fuck her?

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Rick Its so important to master one thing at a time. What are you working on now?

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Anonymous

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

i wish there was more podcast like this. Thanks for enabling me to download it.

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Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Riley, I'm gonna add to Jacob's advice to you. I know you only think of fucking her hard... but what makes her deserving of you fucking her hard? If you don't listen to her, get to know her, connect with her... then what makes her better than a Fleshlight? You have to learn to respect your own dick, so to speak... YOU are in control of your dick... your dick shouldn't be controlling you!

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Rick

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Hey Jacob-I'm now just working on getting out of my f...in head. I noticed i try to do too many things all at once, so now just working on slowing things down and master one thing at a time. I feel like its such a key to success.

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Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

try speaking INTO the microphone penis head!

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Drew

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Okay, David, this may be the voice of youthful ignorance, but I find it impossible to speak from my heart. I honestly think I'm a bit of a sociopath. And you know what? I have to live in my head. I have to analyze and dissect. And I can't say whatever comes to my mind, David, because I don't believe you. I don't believe telling a girl she is fucking beautiful and going about my day is a powerful thing to do. I don't believe a compliment can vastly improve someone's day. Please, elaborate on this. Does this work for you? Do you really do this?

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Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Drew, Have you tried it? Better... how do you feel if a girl came up to you and told you you were cute?

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Kev

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

You can't say absolutely everything that comes to mind. Sometimes it would just be inappropriate. You can't just walk up to a fat guy you say and say "you should lose weight!"

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Mario

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Khiem thanks man. I really find that helpful.

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Drew

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Khiem, girls have told me I'm cute many times. And no, I have not tried that. Have you honestly tried it? Has David gone all day doing just that? I'm not challenging him, I'm genuinely asking. Is this a serios proposition he's given?

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Kim

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Has anyone else noticed that the podcast download link is for the Feb 17th podcast, "You Can't Handle The Truth?"

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Bruce

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

hmm..first you say you are mad at the homeless guy for coming up to you and asking for money..and then in the same breadth you tell people to say what they feel to someone else..maybe if you had given something to the homeless guy..he would have in turn given something to someone else thereby making him and you because you were able to help him feel good at the same time..and no it was not your job to pay him..but you could have at least wished him well..which you apparently based on your message did not..so not only were you mad but so was he because he was not able to connect with you..so you both missed out..and this is what is all about..making the connection..and hopefully one day we will see it..and maybe then we will stop saying one thing..and then doing another..otherwise I enjoyed your video and how you trying to help all the quys out there..best to you...

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Coach Kimberly

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

JasonX-- We as coaches are constantly learning and trying to bring ourselves to new levels. what level do you strive for?

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Mike-Ro

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Can you just walk over to someone and say what David said in the podcast if you still have that aproach anxiety? Related to what Mario said...whenever I have a girlfriend I'm kinda sceptical about holding her hand in public or something like that because I am really afraid of what people think of me.It's in my head but how do I get over that?Just do the hand thing? Or when I pass a group of girls and they are laughing, I start to think in my head that they laugh at me. In a trip I took, some guys were laughing in the back and I imediatly thought they were laughing about me. What can I do about this?Does this have to do with the fact that as a kid I was the smallest around and the big kids made fun of me? I am really paranoid sometimes and that's why I have my aproach anxiety. I really need your opinion on this.Thanks!

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Drew

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Sorry, I meant *serious not serios

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Collin

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Mike-Ro People are looking to be led. If you want to do something, do it. Most people are so insecure that they wait to do something until they see somebody else do it. If you want to hold your girlfriend's hand, there will probably be people jealous that you have the balls to. That thought process helped me, so hopefully it helps you.

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Greg

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Wow. David surprises me again. Great podcast!

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Mike-Ro

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Thanks Collin, I will try my best. So just do the thing you want to do when it's the hardest :) .Anyway I still have my paranoia but that's life...hope I get over it.

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JasonX

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Coach Kimberly: I'm striving for becoming the most amazing conversationalist. I'm starting to see that at first i must get out of my head. I find so much inspiration the more I hear from you guys!

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Rob

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Hmm... I’m a big fan of David’s, am continuing to learn a lot from him, and agree with his advice about 95% of the time... but I thought his response to the homeless person seemed out of the character of his teaching. You’re right that you shouldn’t have to feel guilty for not giving someone a quarter. I admire that you openly shared your thoughts about homelessness with this new person, unconcerned about how this might shape his impression of you. But wouldn’t you also teach us that this dirty look you got from the homeless person was not really about *you*? This is the same way you would respond if you approached a woman, did everything right, and for some reason still got a cold response... maybe she was having a terrible day. If you remember that 1/4 of homeless people in America are war veterans coping with mental illness or substance abuse due to war-related trauma, you might have said "fucking homelessness problem in America!" instead of "fucking homeless people." Just like we should all say "fucking challenges of approaching women" and then immediately focus our energy into learning how to get this right, instead of fixating just on the "fucking mean women who ignore me!" It’s not worth our time to worry about people who treat us badly for reasons out of our control. Otherwise, great podcast as usual.

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Nick

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

I checked this podcast and it´s great as usual. But the thing I want to add is that not everyone has his/her Monkey Chatter or as I like it to call our Inner Retard, because we think with Mr. Penis. For example I have my Monkey Chatter not because I think at every girl I look as a potential f*ck, I have it because I tend to overthink or make up a movie inside my head, mostly everytime I met someone that I feel attracted to, for example over the course of this past weekend I´ve met someone that I feel we clicked and this Monkey Chatter or Inner Retard, has come up again and started to think up future things, or what to say the next time I see her, etc, etc. I´m trying to stop it but really I don´t know what to do, any advices or ideas on this. Thanks for everything!!

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Bob

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

David, You are my favorite coach, but you actually sonded angry on this podcast. Not sure I agree with total honesty and walking up to a strange beautiful girl (who may be religious or sensitive to swearing, a "nice girl" type) and saying how "fucking" beautiful she is. The homeless thing obviously gave you some quilt, since you talked about it with a stranger for 20 minutes after it happened. Don't be too quick to judge. He may have been a disturbed veteran, or mentally challenged, any number of things can drive someone to need help. Best to just say sorry, can't spare it, times are tough if you don't want to help someone. Just my thoughts. You are still the man for coaching and dating advice! Bob

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Clark

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

What if, in general, the first things that pop into your head are hateful and cruel. Like when I see a good looking well dressed woman, I usually assume she is a total B**** and would be horrible to date. Should I walk up and tell her?

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Rachel

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Hello. I don't know where to put this post as it seems there isn't another category that has active posts that anyone is looking at so I put this one here. I have a question and really need some advice. I am a 46 year old woman and an acquaintance of mine from work who is 32 has contacted me. We are both separated and he wanted for “2 people to enjoy each others company” and that he had liked me for a long time without telling me. We have been meeting for sex only and sometimes sex and lunch for about 6 months. He comes and goes with his closeness to me. Sometimes he texts or calls me just to talk or tell me he misses me and alot of the time he backs off and I don’t get those warm texts from him. We are both separated so I’m fine with the 2 people enjoying each others company, but I’d just like to know what’s up with him backing off and coming forward, on and off. Can anyone offer some advice?

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JasonX

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Tell her what Clark?

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Drew

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Clark, I think they mean just point out the observations. Don't make judgements based on those observations. I don't think this works anyway.

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Greg

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Rachel It sounds like he wants to be with you at his own convenience. It sounds like you desire more. My advice? Evaluate wether you want to maintain this relationship as it currently stands. It seems to me that you'd like consistent fun with a boyfriend. If this guy saw you as a girlfriend he wouldn't back off so much. I had an experience last year where I met a woman who was 40 (I was 24 at the time) and we had a great time together. She was smokin' hot at 40! That said, it was nothing more than physical attraction. I hurt this woman and learned an important lesson on how to treat the people I'm with. I would work on dating others.

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David Wygant

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Bob Not angry at all.....I had a client on the line and had him on speaker phone so he could hear this. So i had to get loud. And you always need to realize when i say your so fucking hot i do so from my heart. I dont worry or think about if they are religous or anything once again really getting the point across. do not sensor yourself be true to who you are and let real attraction happen!

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David Wygant

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Bruce I have wished all homeless people a great day but when they get in your face and expect money and then give you attitude. You will walk away with that feeling of what the fuck. I am all about good energy as you know but some people have some very angry energy and realizing that it is about them and not you is the lesson we all need to learn.

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David Wygant

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Rob You hit it right on the spot. As I just said to Bruce. It is not about me and if i failed to say that in the podcast it was a slight oversight and you caught it!! Godo job my friend for catching what i forgot to say. Thanks for the great post!

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David Wygant

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Nick Tell me more about your inner retard

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Drew

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

I feel so pathetic for commenting on these. I just don't think I can talk from my heart. People already think I'm creepy even if I do look pretty good. What would they think if I started calling people good looking and randomly complimented them? I feel like I'm losing my mind

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Nick

Friday, March 5th, 2010

Yes I´ll explain you David. Maybe Inner Retard is the wrong term to call it, but that´s the name I´ve put to what can be considered Monkey Chatter by others. The Inner Retard for me is when for example things are screwed up with a girl and you start to blame yourself for no aparent reason or you do something and it doesn´t pays off the way you thought and you start think that everything is wrong and why do you do things that didn´t work, things like that. Or for example when you meet someone and you start to think up things too much and you start to think that she is way out of your league or that when the relationship has or not started, you start to idealize it, which is wrong, but yeah, I think that in a nutshell that could be my Inner Retard, :)

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Friday, March 5th, 2010

hello . great podcast i think this thing here is an example of how to be honest with your self , but it's funny when u hear other pick up guru's says " when you find a beautiful girl don't ever try say to her that she is beautiful , because that thing will lead you to no where plus she probably hear that hundred of time before '' so this kinda confuse here really ... ** complementing people is something really great and make people feel happy but the thing is you must not expect something in return from whom you complement, cuz that other person may be in moment of shock because there is no one had said that thing to him before or praise him before , my goal is really that i can talk with everyone i meet in street but people actually misunderstood me ..

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Mike-Ro

Friday, March 5th, 2010

Nick, you got me there :) But how don't you think those things? Think of something else or how can you do it? Thanks!

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NIck

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

Mike, if I understood correctly...is that you are asking me how to shut it up?? Well if that´s the question, I really have no idea of how to. I explained it to see if David, his Coaches or anyone that it is arround here can help me and others up with that "problem", if it could be called like that.

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Mike-Ro

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

I have a temporary solution. I've done this today...I was washing my hands beating myself up and then I focused on washing and my ...suroundings?Hope I spelled that right...anyway I focused on what was happening in that moment not thinking about anything else.That seems to work for me...just be VERY present and focused on what you are doing in that moment :) Hope it helps

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Joe A.

Sunday, March 28th, 2010

Haha shit if I walked around saying what was on my mind I would definitely get my ass kicked at some point during the day. For this exercise should you censor the negative things you want to day or just say 'fuck it' and see what happens?

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Khiem (DW Coach)

Sunday, March 28th, 2010

Well, what did you say that almost got your ass kicked? I personally feel it's good that you got to that point bc you probably realized that you can get away with a lot more than you think :)

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CazOh4Christ

Sunday, May 2nd, 2010

In business situation/meeting to many people are scared to say how they feel.. you know why because they value money more than morals and values... A real man say how he feels and own it.. A matter of fact he just dont own it HE LOVES IT! Giving a random person a honest staight from the heart compliment and not expecting a outcome show a person is not selfish like some many people in the world today...I see you understand that concept David... great podcast

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viktor

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

dude .. you wont belive what was going on while i was listenin to the "you cant handle the truth" this girl i now have feelings for asked me about my facebook relationship status that says im in a relationship .... and i was completely honest to her. telling her that distance is whats fucking up my relationship with my girlfriend and you know what she answer was.... ive been there. AND I KNOW how hard it is. so you can count with me. but im scared this turns into a friendship please coment back on what i should do

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Chris

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

okay, im going to use this advice right away: David Wygant you're the biggest legend!!! :P

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Britt D

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

David........ What a great podcast. It sure rings true that lies have legs nothing ever is easy but that sure OPEN MY EYES MORE WIDER THAN THEY HAVE EVER BEEN BEFORE IN MY OWN PERSONAL LIFE AND EVEN ALL MY LIFE LIES HAVE LEGS ONE LIE ONE LEG TWO LIES TWO LEGS THE MORE LIES YOU HAVE GOING THE FASTER THOSE LEGS ARE GOING TO SPEED FASTER AROUND. ITS TIME TO START SPEAKING MY TRUTH BEGIN ASKING MYSELF THE TRUTH THANKS DAVID BRITT D

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Shogo

Wednesday, August 18th, 2010

Thanks David. I'm new to your site and this is very, very powerful stuff man. Just signed up and got a link to this clip. To the guys listening to this podcast months later like me, listen to this sound clip b/c THIS is what separates David's material frm the bulk of the dating stuff out there. So much of the attraction stuff out there is just immature and it's plain selfish. It's crap no matter how many bimbos you end up picking up with your new shiny magic tricks. Connecting w/ new chicks may make you feel like a man for a day or two, but that alone will NOT help you progress as a person. It's about being able to look at yourself the morning after and liking what you see that separates the men from the boys. It's about being true to yourself and knowing that you got the girl b/c of YOU and not from canned lines and mind games some chump w/ spiky hair and sunglasses wrote down and is trying to sell you $99.99. For inexperienced guys, that shit is like a crash diet. It's like when a 400-lb guy only eats Subway for a week. Yea, you'll lose weight, but it's only b/c you're 400 fucking pounds. Take off your bullshit "pick-up artist" mask and speak from your core. And then LISTEN to what comes out of your OWN mouth. Do you like what you hear? Reflect on yourself. Do you like what you see? You don't have to be perfect. You SHOULDN'T be perfect. You just have to be REAL. You have to get to the point where you can be satisfied with your own image of yourself. If you can look at yourself and you like what you see, guys, WOMEN WILL LIKE WHAT THEY SEE too. Get it? If you think saying, "fucking homeless people" is inappropriate, then don't say, "fucking homeless people"!! That example wasn't a canned routine for you to regurgitate. He didn't say that to make you feel warma nd fuzzy inside. That's not the point. Folks, David is not telling you to do everything EXACTLY the same way he does it. He knows he's not perfect. And he accepts that shit. And he OWNS it. THAT is the point. So tell the sexy girl that she's sexy. Here's what could happen, any of the above: 1) You feel good about yourself b/c you went up to the girl and said that (and you actually worked on making your INSIDE more attractive for a change--what a fucking concept!); 2) You feel like an embarrassed moron for going up to her (this will only happen if you go into it thinking only with your cock and balls and NOT with the goal cultivating yourself as a person); 3) She smiles and feels great b/c you made her day ("wow, a confident guy actually came up to me and said that w/out perving all over me and rubbing his crotch!"); 4) She thinks you're pathetic for trying to kiss her ass and ignores you and keeps walking (is this the type of girl you really want to date--think about it. Guys who have dated girls like this know what I'm talking about.) And if she doesn't like it--who gives a fuck. You're not perfect, so don't freeze up by thinking that everything that comes out of your mouth has to be perfect. You're here to be you and evolve in your own right. Oh yea, almost forgot possibility #5: You start up a great conversation with her and hit it off. But forget about bagging the girl. What David is really talking about isn't about the hot girl, this is about YOU and staking YOUR place in the world as a solid person. You don't have to tell the girl she's hot. Tell the grandma she looks like a really nice grandma. Or whatever. Wow, that was a long rant. If David's teachings are resonating with you as they are with me, then I think we're on the right track. David, thanks for being real, man. Much respect. I've never actually bought a dating product before, but now you have a new customer. I'll email you later with my outlook and where I'm at and hopefully you can recommend a product or two.

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Wednesday, December 15th, 2010

All I know is that we need to trust ourselves and believe that we're a very cool person to hang out with. This way, you wouldn't think twice before you talk to a woman.

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Angel

Sunday, January 9th, 2011

I'm happy to having found David, yesterday I opened two women and it was fun!, the initial scare went away when I observed their face and tried to understand how they felt. They were also helpful and both had a good time while talking. Just thanks for the tips.

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Rishebh

Tuesday, February 8th, 2011

That podcast was really awesome i got many things cleared cause i use to live life in my head but after this i can feel freedom that what attitude is needed to live life with full freedom love you david and so many thanx for everthing Regards Rishebh

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Jose

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

Wow, that was a beautiful podcast. It's so true because I know for a fact that I'm always a thinker. I think too much about things that don't matter at all to me. We should all be free and speak our minds and let go of that stupid fear of letting people know what we think. It really is a beautiful thing to do.

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Kieran

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

I made this discovery a few months ago, and my social skills have changed. When my friends ask me about it, I call it "thinking with your mouth." It really is enriching, and life-changing

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Desmond Alabi

Thursday, September 15th, 2011

i am desmond and i listened to the first free podcast u made right afta i first signed in. can you believe the following day, i had a succesful date with no shiverring, feeling of shyness and stuff. i almost luked like the best player in the world. And guess which principle i simply followed. all i did was to make ma mind up as if i dont give a damn whether i flop or spoil da date or not. I thank you very much because ive visited alot of websites but none of them helped me like you did. Thank you again, i appreciate the help

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karlo luebbert

Friday, September 16th, 2011

you are a genious man!!!!

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Justin

Monday, November 28th, 2011

What about when what you're thinking happens to be complete frustration? Sometimes all I want to do is complain, but I know people hate listening to people complain and it brings down your own mood when you do it. So what do you do then? Stuff it all down? Or do you let it out and wait for the feeling to pass?

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Troy Vayanos

Thursday, January 26th, 2012

Love this audio David, great advice and something all men should follow.

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