Why People Don’t Change
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Oh, this is going to be the most important thing you’ll ever read. Do you want to know why?
Because half to three quarters of you are dating somebody right now thinking that they are going to change. They’re going to become the person that you want them to become.
They’re going to become the person that they say they want to become.
The problem is most people are talkers.
People talk to make themselves feel better.
I know this. I’ve been with people like this. I call it the love haze.
I remember I was with somebody that talked about how evolved she was.
How much self-work she does.
How much growth she does.
She was a perfect con woman.
People who run into her, and get to know her, very briefly think that she’s so evolved and so nice.
But in reality, she’s scared. She’s terrified, and she hasn’t grown at all in all the years that I’ve known her.
Every time I reconnect with her, I see her exactly for who she really is. And not the love haze that I used to see when I was first pursuing her many, many moons ago.
I think to myself, how did I not see that? Because I see it so clearly right now.
But in reality, she showed me this immediately. I was just under the love haze, and when you’re under the love haze, all you can think about is how much you love this person. And how you see the best of this person.
When you’re under the love haze, you’re actually seeing the person who you want them to be. You want to believe the fact that they are going to do the things that they say. You actually believe the fact that they’re evolved and growing.
You allow their mistakes to consistently happen.
Why? Because they talk a really good game.
They talk such a great game that you don’t even care if they don’t actually do the things they say. Because you think to yourself, well, with my support, they’ll change.
And with the power of love — that’s another thing what we think about through the love haze — they’re not only going to evolve deeply, but everything they talk about is actually going to come true and happen.
God, that love haze. Here’s the truth about the love haze.
People are exactly who they are.
They show us exactly who they are. This person I’m talking about, within the first 90 days I knew exactly who she was. I ignored it. I ignored it because I was in a deep love haze and I believed that they would want to be what I imagined them to be. Because that’s what happens so much of the time when we’re choosing our love partner. We do so based on our loneliness or we do so based on that we’re ready for in a relationship. And as human beings, we truly believe that people will become what they think they want to become.
There are so many talkers. So many talkers in today’s world.
I want people to stop talking. Be who you are. See people for who they are.
And when you’re dating somebody, don’t go into the love haze.
It’s been three and a half years since I’ve been in the love haze. I would just like to get to the light haze. I’d like to just get to the I respect you haze. I would like to just get to the I-really-like-who-you-are haze.
I’m done with the love haze. Because my next relationship will be a relationship based on who this person actually is.
It’s something I go deep in to in my Love Blueprint seminar.
The Love Blueprint is a powerful seminar that allows people to literally show up authentically for who they are. So they can listen to what somebody is. It really is what I call love haze insurance.
I’ve got one of them coming up in L. A. in February and I’ve got a special. If you join, and you come, you can bring a friend for free. Because it’s always more important to have somebody support you in your quest for love and be there with your checks and balances. So check out the link down below. Let me know if you have any questions.
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Vonnie
Saturday, December 10th, 2016
Vonnie
Saturday, December 10th, 2016
Vonnie
Saturday, December 10th, 2016