bitter womanFirst off, there are men that are bitter too.

But I want to talk about today about the anatomy of a bitter woman because it is something that is probably the least attractive trait to see and to watch.

I have a woman who developed a crush on me about a year and a half ago.

I flirted with her a little bit.

And then I realized I was not into it at all, but yet she kept coming onto me, over and over again.

I finally had to send her an e-mail to tell her that I’m not interested in her that way. I did it with kindness, and I did it from the bottom of my heart. I did not tell her the reason why, which I will expose in this blog post.

But I told her I just didn’t feel it. I tried to be as kind and full of empathy as I possibly could, imagining what it would be like to be in her shoes, having to have a story about somebody and wanting to be with them so bad, you just can’t stop coming onto somebody. It was annoying, to tell you the truth because I pushed back so many times. Yet, every couple of weeks, she would push forward expecting my mind to change.

She would quote articles that I wrote to tell me that the woman I was looking for was her. It reminded me of my girlfriend way back then, who would leave things on my pillow, but that was high school.

This woman still won’t take no for an answer, but now she’s becoming a bitter woman. She will criticize things on Facebook, criticize the things I say, take jabs at me any chance she can possibly get. A bitter woman.

I was honest with her, so many times, that I was not interested. The reason why is that I’m not physically attracted to her, at all.

It’s not that she’s not a pretty woman. She just doesn’t do it for me, at all.

I never said that to her because I did not want to hurt her feelings. So, I said other kind, nice things, being empathetic as I possibly could be.

But yet, whet I post on Facebook, I will see jabs coming directly at me. What I call bitter woman jabs.

There is another woman in my life that has done the same thing. Something happened years and years and years ago, and whenever we talk, she brings it up from years and years and years ago.

But yet, I’m a totally different person today than I was years and years and years ago. Yet, she will constantly take jabs at me, criticize, and tell me about that tragic day years and years and years ago.

I’ll confront her and tell her that she’s acting like a victim. She’ll tell me I’m out of my mind and try to twist and turn, but yet every single chance she gets, she’ll still poke at me for something that was done years and years and years ago.

This woman is in a happy, loving relationship right now, and yet she’s bitter. She is bitter toward me because I was probably the only guy in her life that actually broke up with her, that actually told her why, that actually left her. So, even though she is happy and in a loving relationship with a fabulous man, she is still bitter about something that was done to her years ago.

This is a female trait.

The female trait is basically a trait when a woman stays in story mode from years ago. I tell women all the time to let it go. Let go of the hurt. Let go of the blame. Let go of all the terrible things that have ever happened to you and have more of a male mentality. Are there bitter men out there? Absolutely. But bitter men don’t tend to take the jabs and public displays on Facebook. And bitter men don’t tend to bring up the conversations with the woman over and over again. We tend to keep our bitterness and anger inside. Our friends know how much we can’t stand the person, but we don’t really talk in a bitter way.

Now, I know a lot of you right now reading this are probably angry and saying, David, why are you criticizing women? Men do this, too. Because that is also going to defense mode, by the way, ladies.

I’m not criticizing you at all. As a matter of fact, I’m trying to help you because if you have any bitterness left over, it is not serving you at all. It is keeping your energy clogged and blocked, and not allowing you to fully love your present partner or connect with a future partner. Lose the bitterness. It is not serving you, and it is not attractive.