I got an email from someone today that I almost couldn’t believe.

I appreciate his frankness and openness to ask for advice. I always respect people who ask for advice, especially when they mess up. It shows me that they’re conscious beings and they want to improve things in their life.

The question was this:

Hi David,

Question for you to reverse a slip of the tongue. Out on a second date with this girl, we’re having a great time and the end of the night comes.

 I drank a little bit too much. We’re making out in my car, and I say “You kiss weird. Try this.” So I tried to show her a different way of kissing.

 I could tell she was pissed when she left.

Besides saying don’t say stupid shit like that, any advice on how to make up for that? 

Thanks.

  1.  Stop drinking so much on a date

I’ve said it for years and I’m going to say it again. Limit the alcohol to one or two drinks on a date and that’s it.

You don’t need it to loosen up. Eventually, you’re going to have to get sober in the relationship anyway, and that’s the biggest mistake people make when they’re out on a date.

They consume alcohol and they think it loosens them up, but what it does is it makes you stay stupid things. It can bring you to the point where you’re not even conscious of your date is doing. Kiss-a-Girl-Perfectly

You’re kind of numb to it. So what happens? You say stupid things and do stupid things and you go home, and don’t remember any of it.

So that’s the first thing.

  1. Kiss her slowly.

Kiss her differently.

The thing is, a kiss is just a kiss.

In the beginning, kisses mean nothing. It takes a while to get to know someone’s kissing style.

So she kisses weird, kiss her weird back. And then try to kiss her a different way. You can show her how to kiss, but don’t tell her how to kiss.

Criticizing somebody, especially when they are buzzed, vulnerable, liking you, will definitely ruin a date.

  1. You gave her ‘billboard material.’

In the NFL, you never say anything about your opponent. That gives them billboard or blackboard material, so they can get motivated to hate you and play you harder than ever before.

So that’s what you did with her.

You gave her material. Material to talk to her friends about, to evaluate the entire date.

Not only is she going to evaluate the kiss, she’s now going to evaluate the date from start to finish. She’s going to look at everything you said, everything you did, and she’s going to find reasons to think that you’re an asshole.

So once again, if you want to change somebody’s kissing style, do it by showing her.

That’s the only way to do it.