If You Desire Love
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I want to take us back to medieval times. To remember those days when men and women wore costumes. Everybody got all dressed up. There was a court jester. There were horses. and knights. There was somebody who ruled the land. It was always the king and the queen. Behind every good king, there was a great, powerful queen.
How do you make a man feel like a king?
The problem is a lot of women are walking around with their penises swinging side to side, wanting to be the king in a relationship. Constantly challenging or reprimanding men in ways that don’t even allow them to respond.
I’m a strong man, and if I’m with a woman who is strong, I admire her. I love a woman who is strong, who can do her own things, make her own decisions, make her own money. I’m all for it. But in a male/female relationship, a king and queen need to be treated the right ways.
A strong man never wants to be de-balled by a strong woman. He never wants to be reprimanded because then he feels like he’s going out with the ultimate queen, his grandmother or his mother.
Gender roles are important, everywhere. The way you speak to a man, the way you bring up conversation, you need to show your respect. You need to show honor. I’m not telling you to roll over and be weak. I’m not telling you not to voice your opinion.
Unfortunately, with today’s modern women, you have a lot of what I call “I told you so” women. The most important thing to these women, is to be right. Their insecurity, or their desire to be the ‘king’, makes them lose sight of the relationship.
Biologically, men are the aggressors, the conquerors, the penetrators. If we don’t feel like that conqueror, we aren’t going to be the man you want. That doesn’t mean you have to constantly be careful of his delicate ego.
Think of it this way; think of how you feel when that man tells you how beautiful, or how hot you are. It doesn’t make you any less accomplished in you career. It doesn’t mean your man doesn’t think of you as an equal. He is merely appreciating the feminine part of you and it feels good.
The same goes for him. Don’t make it your mission, (yes your mission), to take away the part of him that makes him feel masculine.
When resentment creeps into a relationship, it only destroys.
As kings, we will make mistakes. Not as bad as some of the mistakes that you see made by former kings when we used to bring our entire colony and our entire country into war. But as king of the household, we are going to make mistakes.
We’re going to make bad investments.
We’re not going to be able to put the gas grill together.
We’re going to be adamant about not visiting your mother, and no one is going to have a good time.
We’re going to make mistakes. We’re going to forget a birthday card or anniversary. We’re going to do something stupid. Men are wired that that way, and that’s what the king does.
The problem is a lot of these women are “I told you so” women. Instead of looking at a man and saying, you know, “I knew you would have a great time at my mother-in-law’s. Next time, maybe you could be a little more open.” Think how much more effective it would be for you to say, “I love you for who you are. You’re so stubborn, but I knew you’d come around.” That’s respecting him.
Reprimanding him, telling him he put you through hell for the last three months before he visited your family. Then finally, when he visited the family, he had a good time, but only after he put you through hell. Reminding him over and over that he made your life torture. That’s de-balling.
Your relationship is based on very primal gender roles, that of a king and a queen. If you love and appreciate him for who he is, he will treat you like a queen.
Remember this man is sensitive. This man is tender, and this man needs to feel like you support him, even when he screws up. There are ways to communicate that make a man feel like the king. He doesn’t need to be lectured or reprimanded by the queen.
The problem is, so many of you want to be the king for some reason. I don’t know what went wrong, or how this all went down, but today’s modern woman is a real tough one to deal with at times. We love you because of your femininity. We love you because of your support.
Be a queen. Treat your man like a king. Let your man treat you like a queen.
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Lorrie
Monday, October 19th, 2015
Kristi
Monday, December 14th, 2015