dating younger girlsI know several men all over the age of 40 who travel to foreign country and have sex with teenagers. The teenagers aren’t getting anything from these guys except sex, maybe a meal, and that’s about it.  So let’s get it straight right now.  They are not paying for sex at all, but I know several men, all in their 40’s and 50’s, that travel to foreign countries like Columbia, the Philippines, and Thailand.

What they do is they go out and literally have sex with young teenage girls.

For all of you that are reading me a long time you know I always have an open mind about things. I try always to practice non-judgement. I never really judge anybody else because I don’t know what they’re going through in life. I don’t really want to make a judgement of somebody’s situation because I’m not inside their brain.

But something just doesn’t feel right about this. Something about a 45-year-old guy hooking up with an 18 year old, and I know they are both consensual adults, when you are 18 most countries consider you an adult. But something about this doesn’t feel right at all.  It could be because I have a young daughter myself I don’t know.

I don’t even go down that road at all.  I’ve always felt like this.  I’ve always looked at men who have sex with teenagers and felt something must be emotionally off with them. I’ve asked men before what they get out of it, and they say, “The sex is amazing. It’s so hot. It’s so passionate.”

Passionate at 18?

For me passion is so raw and undisciplined and at 18 isn’t even evolved yet.  You want passion, sleep with somebody’s who’s closer to your age, who’s gone through life experience, that’s what passion goes through.  Passion runs through the heart, runs through the soul, it doesn’t run through the groin.  Now granted I know sex is all about getting off and having great sex, but I have to tell you, real true passion is when the groin, the heart, and the soul connect.  You are able to look into someone’s eyes and actually see them for who they are.  That to me is passion.

I’d like to consider myself as open as possible, non-judgmental.  So anonymously today I would like all of you older guys that have had sex with real young women, I’m not talking about a guy that’s 45 year old had sex with a 28 year old, to me that’s two real consenting adults.  I’m talking about the men who have had sex with teenagers that are over the age of 40 to talk about their experiences. Help me understand what goes on in your head.

What is it? What is the lure, and the attraction? Do you sleep with older women too, or do you only go for younger women?

I’d love you to share your story.  I’d love to hear your experiences.  You can post under an anonymous name, if you’d like.  Go anonymous.  That way nobody knows who you are.  But I’d like to open this up, today.  I’d like to get your feedback on it.  Thank you.