oral sex tipsI got an e-mail from a guy the other day.  It went something like this…

“David, I’ve been dating this woman. We’ve been having great sex. I love going down on her. In fact, I think I’m a “pussy-aholic”, thanks to your advice.  

The trouble is for some reason, she never goes down on me. The other night I went down on her twice. She must have had probably five or six orgasms.  She was so thankful and jerked me off like I was in high school. It was great, but I’d love her to return the favor!

What do I do?”

Well ladies, it’s not what HE needs to do. It’s what YOU need to do. I didn’t give him any advice here because he’s doing the right thing from what I can see in his email. Here’s the deal. If a man is going down on you, doing everything he can to please you, spending time giving you the best oral sex you’ve ever had, and you’re not blowing him, SHAME ON YOU!

Some guys have a real fear of going down on a woman, so if you’re with a lover who enjoys licking you and giving you great orgasms, and you’re not returning the favor then don’t be surprised if he thinks you’re selfish. It works both ways too. I’m not taking sides here.

I tell men all the time, if you expect a blowjob you better go down on her. If you don’t go down on her, don’t expect a blowjob. So ladies, if you love a guy going down on you, but don’t like giving head then I suggest you deal with the problem, especially if there’s something the guy can do about it.

Maybe he doesn’t smell great down there. Talk to him. Tell him to drink pineapple juice. If he needs a shower, tell him you don’t particularly want his swamp balls hitting your chin while you’re seeing to his needs! It’s called communication and it’s what keeps relationships together!

As much as I love going down on a woman, it’s great exercise for the jawbone, if a woman isn’t willing to go down on me then I’m done. I strongly suggest you work on your oral sex skills. Learn how to give it and learn to like it. If a man’s ‘junk tastes like funk’, tell him about it!

What did I tell this guy who sent the email?

I told him nothing. I told him to keep doing what he’s doing and talk to her about it. If she isn’t prepared to compromise then he needs to decide whether he wants to stick around.

As for yourself…

It’s a great thing to have that much power over a man. So have a different perspective. You have an opportunity to really enjoy a man, take part of his pleasure too. Try it!