Dorothy find loveDo you remember Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz?

She wore that cute blue and white, checkered dress. She had an adorable dog named Toto. When she got scared she clicked her heels together and said:

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home. 

Just the thought of clicking your shoes together in a bad moment makes you feel better. How many times as a little girl did you click your heels and try to vanish to the safety of your home?

Become Dorothy From The Wizard Of Oz

I know, it’s going to feel a little funky, but play along. There’s a real meaning behind this. It’s something that’s going to help you overcome one of your biggest fears when it comes down to meeting someone. I want you to stand in front of the mirror and click your heels together, just like you did when you were a kid.

I want you to click your heels together and I want you to look in the mirror and I want you to say three times…

There’s no place like home

 There’s no place like home

 There’s no place like home

Hopefully you’re cracking up. Hopefully at this point you’re looking at yourself and feel utterly ridiculous. But, hopefully what you’re feeling is relief.

Picture Home

Home should be your safest place. If it’s not the safest place, picture a place where you’d want to disappear to. If you can’t picture a place, create one. Right now. You should always have a safe place you can retreat to. Life is challenging and even when we’re at our best we can feel overwhelmed. Though this exercise was silly, hopefully it brought you a little peace. Hopefully it made you remember a good memory or the warm feeling of home.

Challenge Yourself

Now, I want you to approach the most incredible person you can, the person you’re most attracted to. I want you to walk over to him or her and say hi. Give them your best smile.  If they don’t do anything back immediately, don’t go down the road of rejection. Rejection only exists in our mind. The person, who did not respond to you, did not reject you. They didn’t respond at all.  Instead of saying:

“This doesn’t work. I’m never doing this again. I’m never going to put myself out there again.

 This is so embarrassing; I’ll never go to that gym again. Everybody will know I was rejected.

 I can’t go back to the supermarket because I flirted with somebody in line.”

Walk away, click your heels together and say:

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home.

Home is your safe place.  In order to meet someone that you’re into, you’re going to go through a series of Dorothy moments. You’re going to go through a series of there’s no place like home moments. Which means you’re going to have to put yourself out there every day.  It’s the only way to meet somebody special and amazing.

Choose Another Road To Go Down

Choose to be with someone else.  Just like Dorothy, you had the power in you all along. Who cares if this person is uninterested? So what? Doesn’t matter if someone is not interested. Doesn’t make you any less of a person.  It doesn’t mean that you’re not attractive.

There are a million and one reasons why this person did not respond to you. Don’t waste time trying to figure out why. Chalk it up as there loss and move on to the next person you find interesting. If the first person becomes interested they’ll find you. You’ve already made your intentions known. If they choose not to act, it’s their mistake to make.

The most successful people in this world realize that there’s no such thing as rejection. They just want to get to a no quickly so they can find a yes fast. Don’t ever take anything personally. If someone does not want to be with you or they’re not interested in getting to know you, be okay with that. It means that it wasn’t meant to be. There’s nothing you can do to convince that person, or make that person feel something they don’t already feel.

Shed that coat of desperation before it cripples you. Don’t waste time feeling bad for yourself when you could be having fun.  One stranger rejecting you shouldn’t stop you from meeting the person of your dreams. That stranger doesn’t deserve that much power. That stranger doesn’t deserve anything you’re giving them.

You have a new mantra. Unlock your inner Dorothy. And the next time, it doesn’t work out with somebody, I want you to walk away. I want you to smile and I want you to feel safe.

I want you to click your heels together and say:

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home.

There’s no place like home…