shes a bitchDid that get your attention?

She’s a bitch. That beautiful, incredible, sexy woman you’ve been fantasizing about for months is a complete bitch. If you dated her, it’d be the worst few months of your life. That hot girl you see every day in Starbucks but have never had the courage to talk to? She’s a bitch too. So is that girl from the farmers market, and so is that tall, leggy blonde at the gym. Let me explain…

As men, we spend so much time fantasizing about a woman. We get caught up in her looks. We look at her appearance and believe she must be the most amazing woman alive. We spend all our time trying to think of the perfect way to approach her, then suddenly we walk over and nothing happens. In fact, she flat out blanks you and gives you a weird look. You wonder what you did wrong, and why she reacted badly. You take it personally.

In reality, she could just naturally be a bitch. Here’s an example. I was at the gym the other day. You know I’m an open, friendly guy so I normally end up talking to someone. There was this woman hanging out by the doorway, so I went to say hello. I looked at her and said, “It’s funny. I’m always watching people. And I saw you struggling with your iPod trying to find the right song to work out to.” And I smiled.

She says, “Yeah.” And walks off.

Have a nice day bitch. All I was doing was being friendly. I wasn’t trying to sleep with you. I wasn’t trying to hump your leg. You’re not actually even that cute. I’m a naturally chatty guy, and you were the nearest person to me.

Then I thought about how some of you might react to a situation like that. For a guy struggling with approach anxiety, that kind of encounter could ruin him for days. He’d spend all day and night dejected trying to figure out why she was so dismissive of him. Sure, she might have had a bad day, but it only takes a second to smile and say something nice to someone.

The truth is, some women are just like that. In the same way some men are naturally assholes. Why are women like that though? It could be because all day they have men staring at them or annoying them with stupid pickup lines. They assume that if a man comes to talk to them he must be trying to get her into bed. They don’t know the different between a sexual advance and a guy being friendly so they act like a bitch.

Whatever the reason, you guys need to realize that sometimes it has nothing to do with you, it has nothing to do with what you said, and it has nothing to do with how you approached her. You need to stop taking it personally when a woman blows you off or ignores you, because it could be you just ran into a bitch!