Be his queenHappy Valentine’s Day to all my beautiful lady readers.

If you’re in a relationship, I hope your man treats you to a ton of love and treats, and if he doesn’t, send him in my direction. I’ll put him right. And if you’re single, your time will come so no moping around today, OK? 

So, the question of the day…

How do you keep a man happy in a relationship?

You make him feel like a king. I’m not talking about bowing down to all his needs, or putting him on a pedestal. You should never sacrifice who you are as a woman, or all the things you’ve fought for. I’m talking about the simplicity of making your man feel like a king.

A man has very specific needs, wants, and desires. The first thing you need to do when you meet a man is to find out what’s in his needs, wants, and desires basket. Now you know what he wants from his relationship. As the Queen in the relationship, and the nurturer, you now need to play that role for him. It doesn’t matter if you’re making more money, or if you own your home.

It’s the most natural thing in the world for us as men. In order for a man to shower you with love, and treat you like a queen, you need to treat him as a king. It’s so important, and a lot of women just don’t know how. They feel like it’s giving their power away to treat a man like this.

The reality is it’s so powerful to treat a man like a king. It’s the way we’re wired. It’s who we are. I know when I’m with a woman who constantly jabs me with remarks, is constantly being aggressive, or refusing to be the beautiful feminine woman she can be, I get bored instantly. I don’t care how hot she is. I don’t care how beautiful she is. I just know she’s not for me. I can’t go and fulfil my role as king, if she’s constantly trying to compete with me. I love that women have equality and power, but don’t be afraid to show your feminine side. It doesn’t make you weak as a woman.

I’m not telling you to agree with everything he says, or to bow to his every desire. I’m telling you to learn how to be that gentle feminine being you are. Unlock your femininity. Your femininity is what we’re looking for, what we desire, and what we need in our relationships. Be the feminine queen. When he comes home, make him feel wonderful. He’ll do the same for you, but it all starts with the queen.

We’ll talk a lot about this in the coming weeks. I think it’s something we all need to focus on more. Because it’s not about surrendering your power, and it’s not about becoming “girlie,” it’s just about making a man feel good. If he feels good about himself, he’ll feel good about you. And keep sending in your emails and comments. I love hearing your thoughts my lovely, beautiful feminine queens!