Do You Have An Addictive Personality?

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By David Wygant February 5, 2014 177 Shares

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Are you an addictive personality?

Phillip Seymour Hoffman. What an amazing actor. He was probably one of the best actors ever. Name one role Hoffman didn’t kill it or crush it in. He was always amazing whatever character he played. When he was on screen, you couldn’t take your eyes of him. Now he’s no longer here.

He supposedly had a heroin addiction. He cut it out his life for 20 years, and then got re-addicted again. They found him dead the other day, with a heroin needle still in his arm. He had everything to live for from what we know. Three kids, an amazing career, people around the world who adored his work, yet he still couldn’t beat the addiction.

That’s why I’ve never been addicted to anything in my life. I’ve never been a cigarette smoker, I’ve never been attracted to long-term use of alcohol, or drugs of any kind. I haven’t lived the life of a choirboy either. I used to drink a lot and smoke pot. I’ve done my share of drugs, but I wasn’t addicted to them. I’ve seen people who were addicts and it’s not a pretty thing.

I remember when I was bartending in New York, and all the alcoholics would come in night after night. Watching their addiction was scary. I remember watching all the smokers. It’s funny now when you see a smoker on an airplane. They chew at their fingernails. They almost lose their minds because they’re so addicted to nicotine.

Alcohol can kill you. Cigarettes will kill you. But I don’t think anything could be as scary as a heroin addiction or a meth addiction. Those powerful addictions cause so many deaths worldwide. I want you to look at your life today, because every time somebody famous dies, we all at it and say, “That’s so sad. He was amazing.”

But do we ever use their death to inspire us, or look at ourselves and the way we live. Maybe some of you are addicted to drugs yourself. Maybe some of you are even addicted to heroin. Maybe you’re addicts in some other way. Maybe you just have an addictive personality. It’s time to reach out to yourself.

It’s so important to reach out to yourself and make changes now. Maybe you have a friend with a drink or drug problem. Don’t let people like Phillip Seymour Hoffman die in vain. Make sure you reach out to someone in trouble. Reach out to someone having a tough time. It sucks when someone who inspires people dies, but what really sucks is how it doesn’t change anything.

Addiction is serious and can’t be cured alone. Usually addicts go to get help from rehab or similar places. Even then the lure of addiction is there. So look at Hoffman’s movies. They’re amazing. Embrace the man he was. Look at your own life and see if you need to help yourself or someone close to you.

It doesn’t matter if you’re addicted to cigarettes, drugs, porn, whatever. All addictions have the power to ruin your life. It’s time to get motivated, so you never have to deal with a Phillip Seymour Hoffman disaster in your own life.

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James

Wednesday, February 5th, 2014

As nice as it sounds, it is impossible to 'help' an addict. You try, and you will fail. An addict does not need sympathy, he needs a professional kick in the butt. That is how hard it is. An addict needs a marine style boot camp. If they are lucky, they hit rock bottom while still alive, and that's when they might get it and change their lives.

PRice

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

If you go up a few miles to Santa Monica, you'll find Dr. Arthur Janov's Primal Center. Here's what he had to say: Philip Seymour Hoffman is dead Posted: 04 Feb 2014 01:41 PM PST He died from an overdose of painkillers; e.g. heroin. He had been in plenty of rehab yet it didn’t seem to solve his problem. It wasn’t the drugs that did him in; it was the pain. He was simply the carrier. Since he was the carrier, killing the pain meant ultimately killing himself. And what was he carrying? Here lies the rub. Because he was carrying around a load of pain from his earliest months; something invisible, not obvious and very well hidden inside. Yet this is the epoch to be treated as well as later pains, and it is precisely the epoch avoided in all rehabs and therapies. Why? Because it is not obvious and cannot be easily ferreted out. These pains from birth and gestation lay down a basic strata of pain upon which it becomes compounded throughout our lives, a due lack of love and harm continues. We can see the lack of love, the neglect and avoidance, which can be treated; but the greatest force of the pain is neglected. It is here during the beginnings of our neuronal development and adversity that our nervous system becomes rerouted and deep agony is embedded. It changes the whole system and installs serious pain, which can last a lifetime. So when he reverses and goes back to drugs it cannot be a surprise. The pain remains and is engraved. He carries it around all of the time, whether he is aware of it or not. And it drives him to seek relief no matter his efforts at rehab. It is not he who has failed therapy. It is the therapy and rehab that has failed him, all the while going through the motions of getting well, yet never touching the basic cause of his pain. I am writing about first-line, brainstem imprints, which we have seen and studied for over forty years. When we see patients reliving lack of oxygen, the inability to exit the womb and dozens of our pains we know what is being laid down. These are far too powerful to be left in the hands of do-gooders with the best of intentions. It is science that we need; including the recent work of Moshe Szyf who notes that these early pains leave a trace, a marker that carries them forth inside of us. And what we hope to do through reliving is attack the trace at the source, relive the pain of it and reverse the imprint through demethylation. Take away the trace with its load of agony and its memory. In short, remove key aspects of the trace that spell constant, ineluctable hurt. Take the pain away, not the pain of later life, which needs to be dealt with, but the lower strata that produces the exacerbation of the agony. What does it mean that he did rehab? I have visited rehab centers where they really care about the addict, provide the best food possible, swimming pools, a whole new environment. And it lasts as long as the stay. Yes, it can last longer as the exhortation and new ideology implanted can carry him along for a time. But the demon imprint never, never leaves. It is not more concerted effort he needs; it is science. I have treated actors and I have found that the greater they are the more pain they carry. They can be anything to feel loved. “I will be anything or anyone you want so long as you love me, “ said one actress in therapy. And why are they so great? The emotions are breaking through at all times as they suffer damaged defenses. They cannot control their pain/emotions, which makes them great and in pain, a pain close to the top at all times. If they get away from it, they are lesser actors, an unavoidable law. So whether it is Brando or Hoffman, it is the same dynamic; I will be someone else so effectively that I will be praised for the performance. And why are the defenses so weak? Because they were damaged so early in life as to be defective for a lifetime. The defense system can only hold on for so long and then the biochemicals of repression such as serotonin give way. And what do we prescribe for those in pain? Serotonin, exactly what was depleted in the fight against monstrous early imprints. It is the weakening that makes defenses ineffective. And when there is later compounded pain on higher brain levels, the defenses suffer again. And the result? Addiction. The constant battle to put down the pain from early on, and the added neglect, lack of touch and love in childhood. You may get “love” from an audience but it is not the same as being hugged and loved very early on. But actors are willing to settle. So let us remember; when we kill pain we are literally killing ourselves.

Melissa

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

Interesting point of view. I tend to agree about the pain and "need for love"....why do so many comedians die of addiction? They are usually in the most pain and they need love, the stage, the immediate applause and reaction. Worse than actors because when you "love" the comedian, you are loving the person, the art they produce. When you love the actor, you love the words of another, a character, not the actor themselves, not really.

PRice

Friday, February 7th, 2014

Good point about comedians. I often have trouble laughing along with their performances because I consider things like, "Would they be on stage if their parents really loved them?" "If everyone in the room loved their performance, it still wouldn't be enough for them."

Bob

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

I don't believe the therapists mumbo jumbo. Additions is a genetic quality. Scientists have discovered the "addict" gene. About half the population has it. It is easy to spot people with the gene. They will always be addicted to SOMETHING, smoking and drinking being the most common, then drugs. I don't have it, nor is there a single addict in my entire family tree. I have been on large quantities of prescription pain pills, including morphine pump, for over a year, when a horse I was training broke my back. Have smoked, on occasion, but never other than for the pleasure of a good cigar. Drank on occasion regularly, then gone without for months. Etc. , and never had any cravings when I stopped cold. The human body is amazingly adaptive, and survival is instinctive. Addicts have flawed genetics, and previous childhood trauma may initiate the addiction, but they would become addicts whether or not they had a bad childhood, or traumatic events happened in their lives or not. Addicts should not reproduce, that is the only solution other than science developing a cure for the corrupt gene.

PRice

Friday, February 7th, 2014

Google the geneticist Dr. Janov mentions and you may change your mind. Epigenetics, how "nuture" changes "nature" is a field that didn't really get started until thirty years ago or so. For example, in one experiment they separated rat pups at birth, isolating some so that the mother couldn't touch them. The isolated pups' brain development became damaged to the point to where they wouldn't make an effort to feed themselves. They would eat if food was put in their mouths, but not otherwise.

Jared modawell

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

People are putting to much stock in this guy he was not that great of an actor seems like copote was the only one he had the lead in the rest was supporting roles not anything memorable not anything to write home about. Anyone that has to stick a needle in there arm to feel good when they have more in there life than most is a fucking douchebag good riddance!!!

Yureon

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

Agree Jared, I mean No one really knows who MOST (celebs) are until they die...also when the more known ones die after dropping of the radar they are regarded as heroes. While real ones are forgotten or shit on by society or maybe remembered once a year. Chris Kyle, probably the greatest soldier and navyman our military and world has ever scene present day was killed by a Marine who he was assisting with PTSD. A devoted veteran to his active brothers, doesn't even get uttered by Barack Hussein Obama bin laden, but had no qualms about raising MY ensign half mast from that PIG chrissy Christy and HEY another CELEB abusing substances (Whitney Houston). Which that fat fuck still stands by that decision to this day. Same thing with Amy Winehouse who take a shot in the dark of what she had in common with those two. It's sickening. Hey David, how about Doing a "What Chris Kyle can teach you about discipline, focus, confidence, competence, courage, perseverence, or insert (tangible quality here) instead of picking all these "in the now" celebrities. Or Douglas Munro, they don't even have to be military, the could be sheriffs, paramedics, ( I am sure that will require much digging, as these real heroes and role models, don't have their own TV channel or show on MTV and will be lucky to see or read about their accolades in a paragraph of a newspaper.

DANNIE C

Friday, February 14th, 2014

Plain and simple addictions are ways of covering over our pain. I was badly addicted to Porn over the years and it cost me a great girl and alot of money!! I had lost connection with my reality and my emotions to real women. I have had to go through some painful emotions as why I felt the need to make these poor decisions!! However as W Todd Smith says from his book, Little Things Matter, Point 11 " Our lives Reflect our decisions" and "success comes from making a series of good decisions over time, while failure comes from making a series of bad decisions over time" We are creators of our lives and most take responsibility for how we live it day to day!! Thanks for the memories, Phillip Seymour Hoffman and R.I.P!!!

Margo

Saturday, September 6th, 2014

I met a man through friends 8 years ago. He seemed a little eccentric but nothing that I could not handle. He drank as much as the next guy and could hold his liquor. I asked if he took drugs and he said "been there done that". We're talking 45+ year old man. So I took him at his word, as I had done my share of experimentation in my youth and left it behind. I read your other blog about druggies, smokers and so on to let them be them - you be you. This is generally how I proceed, with a take it or leave it attitude. The problem in my situation is that it was not until much later on that I learned of this man's habits and by then we were already involved in an intimate relationship. How I was the last to know I cannot tell you. Then came the professions that he was trying to remove this from his life. It was the only thing that made me stay, as I loved him and hoped he would make a change. I tried to encourage him to at least see a physician. In the end he preferred to hang out with his own crowd and do what he liked to do, rather than hang out with me. Why he was not honest with me when we met I do not know. If he had been I would have walked away immediately. I have known so many people who take drugs. They like their private club and don't want any one around who is not part of "the group". Why this man chose to engage me in the first place I have no idea. I spent a long time in that relationship and was left with deeply hurt feelings. I know this may sound very unsympathetic, but from what I see most people who use drugs do not see the harm they do themselves or their loved ones. Talking to them is like talking to a brick wall. Loving them from afar is the only way. Get close, and they will shatter your world and you can count on it.

Do You Have An Addictive Personality?

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