Dating Advice: How to Be the Man

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By David Wygant March 11, 2013 142 Shares

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Dating is easy once you become The Man.

Women are attracted to The Man; they all want to be seen around The Man.

The Man is the life of the party; he’s the guy that everyone pays attention to.

The Man makes people feel good, and people always want to be around those that create good feelings.

So how do you become The Man?

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About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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jr

Monday, March 11th, 2013

That cashier babe warmed up to DW tward the end of the video and was all smiles after she saw that DW had some lady friends with him and DW's projecting of a confident,polite, and friendly nature. Then too... DW was persistent and managed to engage the young lady in "small talk" by asking where she was from etc. Finally, DW didn't show any signs of impatience or irritability and was genuinely upbeat while waiting to be seated. High 5-ing" REALLY DOES work as a simple way to invite a woman to have fun with a man ( yes , i've high 5'ved a few women with excellant results) ! Cheers !

John

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

This video had NOTHING TO DO with how to become the man. And "John Smith"? Really? What the hell was the point of that?

Todd

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

Yes, All it showed was "Mr. Smith" leading a group of 9 men and women to a restaurant to pay for a bite to eat AND hit on the hostess too. I think the hostess could have joined Mr. Smith's party too! Yes sir !

john

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Ok, I guess. I call that just being friendly. Telling her to meet you after she gets off work is "hitting on" to me. If that was hitting on her, then I guess I hit on women all day long then.

Todd

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

John, As I saw this unfold, I thot that Mr. Smith was "hitting on" the hostess by attempting to build rapport with her by asking her a personal question of interest as in ; tying to find out if she was from around the area... This observation is only my opinion though. That when a man asks a woman a personal question, it may lead the woman to thinking that he is interested in her-- for whatever reason.

john

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I never saw him hit on anybody. Who did he hit on?

Hans

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

With all due respect, the title of the video should have been 'How NOT to be the man'. The girl is getting paid to be friendly, that's her job. She would be smiling even if Darth Vader would talk to her. Apparently, she is from El Salvador, so she has not the slightest idea who or what John Smith is. The joke totally escapes her. When a guy asks her where she is from, and she says 'El Salvador', and the guy then tells her that he has been to Colombia, he has been to South America, she must inevitably think 'WTF'. El Salvador is in Central America, it is 1200 miles/1932 kilomters/1042 nautical miles from Colombia. It's like a woman telling you she is from Atlanta, and the guy saying 'yeah, I have been to Chicago'.

nico

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

Sorry but I agree this time with the other comments. You can't laugh on the PUA guys if you talked with the girl who was paid for doing that.

Joe

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

Man. Paid or not paid, I've had so called paid help get nasty with me from time to time. I submit <<< i was usually to blame, being in a bad mood, or what not. Still, a woman doesn't "have to be nice" . She can just tell her boss that the guy was a jerk. Whatever ??

nico

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I didn't understand the last part.

Mike

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

That's funny how David after wooing the girl turns around and explains what he is doing right in front of her...lol As far as those who like to wine because the girl is a hired gun, I like to see you guys go up to girls like this and act like little wimps and see if she smiles as much as this one did with David and also get the reservation!

John

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

I cracked up when he said "Smith, John". He's probably done that so many times. This is what being playful and having fun can result to: getting to eat at a place that only takes reservations. Y'all are acting like being able to seat NINE people at a fancy restaurant with no wait isn't awesome. Not a couple on a date but NINE PEOPLE.....NINE PUA guys don't turn around and explain what they just did. They make a separate video and explain it because they have fake techniques to hide. David has nothing to hide (except his real name lol) because he's being open and genuine. I agree though. It shouldn't be "How to Be the Man". It should be "How to Be a BOSS". Thanks David, keep them coming!

Victor Hugo Alegria

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I find David remarkable.in this. I love seeing it done. Bootcamp.. here I come. =D

Victor Hugo Alegria

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I find David remarkable.in this. I love seeing it done. Bootcamp.. here I come. =D

Yavo

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Just watched that video and it reminded me of your talk .. really https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fV2DEPKeNds

jr

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Alright... So EVERY woman in video said that IT IS possible to be friends with a man, while MOST of the men said that it's NOT possible. Hummmm.... This tells me that maybe guys have much tweaking work to do regarding their attitudes about "friendship" with women AND that women at least ARE OPEN to being friends. I'm sometimes confused if there's a difference in BEING friendly vs. BEING A friend. Is there a line of demarcation here?

Kat

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

"Women are attracted to The Man; they all want to be seen around The Man. The Man is the life of the party; he’s the guy that everyone pays attention to." The last man I would be drawn to at a party is the man who's trying to entertain everybody around him and needs to be the center of attention all the time. Where does this misconception come from that all women want to be near loud, outspoken, "life of the party" guys?

Hans

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Kat, you are absolutely right. The loudest guy in the room is always the weakest guy in the room. I just don't think that is what David is referring to. It's more like president Obama showing up, anywhere: everybody wants to talk to him and get his attention. He doesn't even have to say anything. As a matter of fact, really powerful people are usually calm and collected, and they don't talk a lot...

Brad

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

David has an unfair advantage here...lol. A tall, good looking, white guy is always in high demand among Central and South American women. I know what I am talking about, I have been to South America... By the way, my experience is that most women don't really want a guy to be a comedian. Does anyone remember 'The Bold and the Beautiful' ? The men in that show are pretty serious most of the time, in control, and what they say has meaning. That makes them extremely attractive...

Nathalie

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

What was interesting is what looks like a whole group of coaches having dinner together.. :-) I think I saw Marni Battista and Kim Seltzer..That man is also a coach, not sure of his name.. I liked the whole "reservations" play on words, having no reservations about eating loll cute..

Joe

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

You're friggen' RIGHT ON Nathalie ! About dating coach Kim Seltzer being in David's latest flick... If not ? Then, she has a twin out there in Vegas LOL. Maybe David is still trying to hit on Marni ?

Nathalie

Friday, March 15th, 2013

Hah yup! :-)

Peter

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I think the camera is sort of interfering here. What we need is a hidden camera of some sort. I would love to see David hit on a real classy, intelligent, beautiful woman, not some waitress or store girl. The girl in the video is probably half David's age. Someone like Kate Middleton, the Duchess of York, Obviously that cannot happen because she is already married, but that type of caliber woman. A hidden voice recorder would be nice, too. Just to hear his tone of voice, and what he says.

Ben Hunt

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Man, the excuses are flying left, right and centre on this blog! Guys, these excuses about: how David looks, the cashier is being paid to be nice etc... Are all just excuses to stop you moving forward and pushing through your fears. Recently, I noticed that although I knew how to approach women, what was stopping me was my excuses. "Oh I don't feel that great today, I'll do it tomorrow." "Oh, I'm really busy at the moment, I haven't got the time to have a girlfriend as well." "Oh, if I start approaching women, my friends will expect me to do it all the time, and I won't be able to live up to their expectations." All these excuses are just fear! I would recommend you checking out some of David's previous podcasts about fear and love to help you push through these excuses, because a lot of the people on this blog know what they need to do, but just aren't doing it!

john

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Ben.. no one is making excuses! .. What exercise??? He's not DOING any exercise. He's trying to get a table. He's not trying to pick the girl up! And, she has not invested in the conversation at all anyway. She never asked him a single personal question. How many were in his party.. and his name.. FOR THE RESERVATION. NOT because she was interested in him. And, he answers with "John Smith". ?? So, she enters John Smith into the reservation, because she thinks that's HIS NAME. He didn't even bust on her for not getting the joke. In fact, I didn't even get the joke! John Smith.. WTF was the purpose of that? If he was going to make a joke, at least say your name is "Dover, first name Ben", or tell her "put it under Batman".. and when she looks at you funny.. say " shh.. don't tell anyone." , or ask her if she wants to come along and be your sidekick! lol. .. but John Smith?. I just didn't get that. To be fair, David has put out some great videos lately. I just didn't get this one. Especially the title. :/

Todd

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I don't believe that David was trying to be a 'COCKY FUNNY' type of guy. Too many of those guys out there posing as Pick up dudes. I believe he was endeavoring to provide a subtle example, via taking some time out from possibly a busy day in his work, to create a blog. Maybe he doesn't ALWAYS have an IDEAL setting...

Todd

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

What about using the name Will Smith as in the lead actor in the movie "Hitch" ? Here's my theory... This would have been too obvious even assuming she probably didn't see the movie. Thus she missed the punch line... Yes sir !

Ben Hunt

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

John, I get what you're saying, but I never once said in my comment that he's doing an exercise. Yes, the woman is a hostess and some of the questions she is asking are the standard questions you would expect from a hostess, but then even if David put up a video of himself approaching a beautiful, intelligent woman next week, some of the posters on here would still reel off half a dozen reasons why they couldn't do the same! And, to be fair the video may not be the best illustration of "picking up" a woman, but one of the characteristics of being a man is being a leader; and you can clearly see David is leading the interaction and also leading the group he is with!

John

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Oh, and yeah.. You didn't. Misread your comment.. Sorry.

John

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Yeah, I don't think he's leading the group. I'm pretty sure they all decided together where to eat. I'm sure David is getting the table because they are filming it. Anyone in that group is fully capable of getting a table without David's leadership. The smallest, most timid little woman in the group is fully capable of walking up to the hostess and saying, "yes, we'd like a table for 9". Seriously, I just didn't get the title.

Hans

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

I second that. Most of David's videos are priceless, this one seems off. There was one recently where David talked about the power of observation. In this particular situation, my observation would be that I am talking to a Latina, it's easy to see, she cannot possibly have any idea who John Smith is. Heck I don't even know who Ben Dover is. I could tell her I am from Germany and my name is 'von Ribbentrop', first name 'Joachim' and she wouldn't have a clue, she would probably ask me to spell it. Thinking again, mixing up Central and South America is probably something he could get away with, given the fact that the general idea is that Americans have no knowledge of world geography. She probably thought he was a slightly drunk guy spouting out nonsense.

John

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

"Ben Dover".. Watch "The Simpsons" and you'll get it.

Nathalie

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

"put it under batman" LOL!! I love it..I would be cracking up so much if I was the hostess..haha

john

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

HEY NATHALIE!!! .. What do you think about Nanny Bloomberg's soda ban getting blocked?

Nathalie

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

LOL oh my goodness, appeal? There really must be other things to focus on.. You are absolutely right, its also a question of having the Freedom to choose! This ban cannot possibly ever go through..Its insane because there are so many other factors in obesity, eliminating large size soda is ridiculous.. I don't even drink soda, but it is just a question of principle! I feel a bit worried about the contenders..mmm hoping for someone better..not worse..

Nathalie

Friday, March 15th, 2013

* known

Nathalie

Friday, March 15th, 2013

Haha you are right John..I didn't think of that, so people will wind up actually having the possibility of drinking more..so dumb.. Maybe I'll go whoop it up and get a huge soda for the heck of it just because I can loll I am terrible though, I usually take one sip and throw the whole thing out, not into soda..Love coffee though hehe Instead of worrying about soda, he should take intensive Spanish classes.. ;-) It is so true..we are known here to have huge containers of everything..I was thinking of this thread yesterday because we had a lady here from out Paris office. She noticed in the kitchen we have a 1 gallon container of Tabasco sauce (yes I kid you not, a whole bunch of salespeople pooled together to buy it because they love it so much hehe) So she was amazed by how large things come and are sold here...:-)I remember in Europe being amazed by the opposite, how tiny and small containers of anything were.. So we are know and appreciated for this here.. :-)

John

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Nathalie.. It's so stupid. Someone who would have bought one 20oz coke will now buy TWO 16oz cokes, just to get around this stupid ban. So now, instead of people drinking a 20 or 24 oz soda, they will be drinking 32 ounces! It's PURE STUPIDITY! And sadly, no.. I don't think he has anything better to do.

Nathalie

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Hey John!! :-) LOL I was just discussing this with a friend yesterday..I'm glad it got blocked..I find the whole ban so absurd...Doesn't he have other things to worry about? Why would you want to control the size of people's drinks? Plus, apparently this would have exempt 7-eleven, which makes no sense at all..so people could still get it large size drinks there if they really wanted to.. And por favor no more speaking spanish Bloomberg lolll

John

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

The Nanny promised to appeal. Lol. He's never heard of a concept called FREEDOM. What's he going to do next? .. ban refills?? The whole thing is absurd. In America, you have the right to make bad health choices, as long as you take responsibility for those choices. If you want to suck down a 250oz. soda, and pour extra sugar into it, just to make SURE you get diabetes.. that's your RIGHT as an American. Seriously, I just don't understand how that guy doesn't get voted out.

Hans

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Those huge sodas are one of the main reasons I come to the US ! Plus the free refills ! I spent many hours at Subway and Taco Bell, marveling at the size of the sodas. Over here in Germany, you can get 24 oz beers though...and nobody will ever try to ban those !

James

Saturday, March 16th, 2013

Great video! I loved the line you used as a response to "we have alot of reservations" "I dont have any reservations at all" Im gonna use that the next time I go to a resturant! Its all about having fun and being in the present.

Sally

Friday, March 22nd, 2013

Well yes, once the male gains enough confidence that he is a stud then there’s nothing that can stop him of being attracted by the ladies. Females also like confident and hard studs. They prefer “real Men” over males that portray to be shy.

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