Scarcity Mentality By David Wygant

I recently sat down with one of my clients. Here is the actual transcript. Enjoy and have a great Friday!!

Markus: One thing we were talking about yesterday is the scarcity mentality: thinking all the time that you’re missing something. You walk in the city and see a square full of people, and many times you think, oh, I have to be there too. Because everyone is doing it, and if I’m not there, I will definitely miss something.

But on the other hand, maybe it’s just better to go home then, because you had a good evening anyway. You can go to bed early, and get up on Sunday and have another great day.

But this scarcity thing plays into many different parts of life. For example, you have a girlfriend, and you constantly try to call her and please her, and you run after her, because you think that if you don’t do it, she will be offended. You will miss something, she will miss something, and you will not have the opportunity to be with her again.

Or the opportunity to find another person – it’s always this thinking that I will miss something. If I don’t do that now, I will never have the opportunity to do that again. So the question is, how do we overcome that?

David: It’s funny, we were walking through that square, and we had a great day in Amsterdam, where we walked around and we talked to a lot of different people. We made some better connections than others, and some were quick little conversations. Some where longer conversations, like the two women on the bikes, who even invited us for a drink.

That scarcity mentality is very funny because then we were walking through that square at 11:30 at night, and we were tired after a long day, and it does kind of suck you in. You think, this could be the one night that the magic could happen. Standing in this square until 4:00 in the morning – this could be the night of all nights, where a different result will occur that has never happened before.

This could be the party of the year that I missed – there is that whole mentality that people have when they get invited to a big summer party, and they gear up for it all summer long. All week before they think about it, and you know what? There are three other parties that day!

Then they have this painful process of trying to figure out which party is the best one to go to, and then all of a sudden, they go to the WRONG one. Their friend calls them the next day and says, “oh man, you should have gone to Joe’s summer barbeque – it was amazing! All the hottest women were there…”

And you think to yourself, oh man; I can’t believe that I missed it. How could I have missed that party? I can’t believe I made the wrong decision, I can’t believe I did this!

But this is what you need to believe: deal with it! One night is not going to change your life. If you miss a party, so what? That is scarcity mentality.

There’s not going to be another party? And who says that you’re going to get the same results that your friend had at that party? And who says that you were going to meet the woman of your dreams at that party? Most of the time you don’t! It’s the hype – it sucks you in.

You have to do things that you enjoy every single day, so that way, at the end of the day you go to bed, and you don’t feel like you’ve missed anything. You feel like you’ve accomplished everything that you had wanted to accomplish. That gets rid of the scarcity mentality.

Secondly, just deal with it! You can’t be everywhere at every moment, you can’t chase the night, and you can’t chase your life. So you make a decision, and you deal with it. And you know what? If you miss something like a party, so what? There are more!

If it comes down to women, and you feel like you’re chasing your woman at all times – having to answer her every single phone call, every email – you feel like you’ve just been whipped. You feel like you can’t have any personal time? That’s another example of the scarcity mentality. It’s because you don’t believe that you deserve the woman in the first place.

So what you need to do is believe in yourself and believe in the relationship. Believe in the women that you’re cultivating. But it all comes down to believing in yourself.

Life is abundant – it’s only your mind that makes it scarce.

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