How to Meet Men When You Least Expect It

“You’ll meet a great guy when you least expect it.”

How many times have you heard that pitiful phrase?

Would that theory work in other areas of your life?

You’re going to have a great career when you least expect it.

You’re going to buy a great home when you least expect it.

You’re going to lose weight when you least expect it.

You’re going to win the lottery when you least expect it.

You’re going to have great friends in life when you least expect it.

How silly does that theory sound when applied to these other areas of life?

“…When you least expect it”—the least proactive phrase in the English language.

How are you going to meet a man when you least expect it? How about going out there and being proactive? How about making it a part of your life every single day to go out there and meet men, so that way you expect to meet a great man, you know you’re going to meet a great man, and you deserve to meet a great man.

Women that get what they want in life always expect it.

When I set up my business, I expected it to be successful. When I create a product, I expect it to be successful. I don’t write things and hope people will like it, I know people will like it, I know people will listen to it.

When I’m single and dating, I go out with the expectation of meeting a great woman.

When you least expect it…

Stop the madness.

So the next time one of your friends with the positive mental attitude gives you that line of getting things when you least expect it, look and them and say, “You know, I don’t buy that phrase any more. I’m going to go out and be proactive, I’m going to flirt with men, and I’m going to go work on myself. I’m going to start dating and I’m going to expect to meet somebody great.”

Because that’s what winners do.

All good things in life come to those who work hard. So get out there and earn your man.

About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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A. Ward

Saturday, April 20th, 2013

When a woman becomes proactive in her search, she starts displaying symptoms of desperacy. She comes across as trying too hard and expecting a lot. She assumes every guy might be the one and gives it a lot of thought. On the other hand, when she "least expects" to meet her man, she shifts to this nonchalant attitude which makes her appear sexier and more attractive. I disagree with you David. "When you least expect it" works miracles with women because that phrase alone makes them work less at meeting a man and therefore appear less desperate which in turn makes them appear more sexy.

Lucy

Tuesday, April 23rd, 2013

I think that when you believe that you are in control of your life and your destiny you display fewer signs of any desperation. It's because you're as proactive about providing your own sense of well-being as you are about finding a partner, so setbacks aren't as upsetting. Whereas if you put your sense of fulfillment in the hands of fate, you won't ever be truly happy with how your life is going. People who are proactive in one area of their lives tend to be more proactive in others. At the same time people with enough self-esteem never appear desperate. I'm not perfect by any means but I embrace my own company, have areas of my life to take my attention, and so I believe that it helps make me come across in a more balanced way. I try and be proactive with all people I meet and not only men. Then for me it's at least not totally consumed in the idea of dating as a goal and it comes more naturally to me. I agree with some of what Pam said. To some extent you have to sit back and not try to control outcomes. I'm less afraid of rejection purely for the fact that I know I cannot control a person's reaction to me. What I can control is what I do and how I react to any given situation. But I don't think the blog post suggests taking it to ridiculous levels of desperate behaviour.

Jen

Monday, April 22nd, 2013

Agree with you A. Ward - women can make the mistake of being too overly proactive and start to chase men for their attention, which is unattractive and needy behaviour.

GiGiTurbo

I think David's got a point. My great grandmother told my "old maid" grandmother to get out there because: "He won't come kn through the keyhole!" (I wonder what that sounded like in Italian!) However... it takes a mindset not to appear desperate. That's a decision/resolution you have to stick to... and make it true. Date more than one guy and don't try to hide it... let the best man win. You should never be "sold"... at the lawyer's office you'll wonder how you git sold... women place too much emphasis on whether they want us. Boost your confidence and flip that paradigm!

Pam

The best things...and people...always enter my life when I'm not expecting them. It doesn't mean you don't put yourself out there, apply to jobs, do the work and planning, etc. It means you have to detach yourself from the outcome and let the universe do some of the work for you. Every law of attraction book will tell you the same--it's a well-known paradox. A woman hitting on every man, everywhere she goes, reminds me of The Bachelor with two dozen women desperately trying to win the man's attention and heart by saying and doing ridiculous things.

Jim

Friday, May 24th, 2013

I agree with you on this:)

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